[slickman120]

Ok, here it goes, the whole story about a break up and confusion. Anyway, we started great, just like anyone else. Met each other on the intra nett (kind of a fluke) and we clicked so well it was insane. We both were brutally honest with each other and couldn't get enough of the euphoric love we induced upon one another. Yet, she was from another culture I was not used to, a family who kept her in and bound her to the home in which she lived in. By the way we are 21 and 22. HEr family comes from an unusual gypsy life. Not the crazy moving ones who steal a lot, but ones who don't let the lady have a great education to succeed in life because the man is supposed to provide, but she didn't seem like that kind of girl, always rejecting that philosophy and I actually helped her to get her first 2 jobs, for her and the mom to quit smoking. HEr mom, the most important family to her, loves me so much by the way. Anyway, I started to feel a bit reluctant for my future with a woman who it was a battle every day to see her, to touch her, and so we had our fights on that subject mostly. And many times I would be the one to break up with her because of her anger problems, but we worked things out eventually. But one day I broke up with her over something crazy, and then she found another guy, and I went crazy for a while. She eventually stopped seeing him because of how much she loves me, we worked things out. Never got back together though, just friends to work things out. So eventually we got back together for a few and she broke up with me saying she needs a break after 2 years. So I tried to understand yet fight a bit. Then eventually I found out she is talking to another guy. Wow, was that hard to take. Then we kept going back and forth, her saying she wants go be with me, or she does not. Well, she got in a tantrum and told me no more of me. So I said fine. I dropped her for over a month of no contact, she tried to call me, send me texts to see if I was OK. I found out she was miserable. So one day I went to her house unexpectedly for mothers day to give her mom a present and see her. She told me about her boy friend and how much she missed me, and always though about me and he was a rebound, how she regreted everything. And I believed her. I didn't really tell her how I felt because I didn't want to put my hreat out there too much. Anyway, I tried to call her to check up on her, (still wanting her) and she does not answer, she seems to be getting better. Is it because I went there and she thinks I want her back? Or now she does not feel so rejected. But she does not even love this guy that much, (or so she says.) but she continues to stay with him, ignore me and act the way she did after the break up, before I just flat out stopped talking to her. What Do I do? What is going on? Advise would be great.

[Bluerose]

Learn to communicate with each other. No one is a mind reader.

[talaniman]

Sorry guy, if the words don't match the actions then the words are false, so stop believing them, and save your dignity and self respect, any more confusion, and leave her alone forever. When she get in a mood, and calls, ignore her and trust me, you will heal, and be able to move on.

[chuff]

Dude, she's using you. She's playing you for a fool. She's telling you all her problems with the current boy so that you'll hold onto hope that she'll come around and act as her knight in shining in armor. The only problem is that plays on your emotions, while saving hers. I'm not knocking you for wanting to be with her, especially after investing 2 years with her, but look at what you've given her and look at how she has repaid you back. This is not only not fair, unjustified, rude, but it's just plain cruel. The most important person in any relationship is YOU and you have to start thinking for number 1 because she's thinking about herself, her games, her lies, her manipulation, her current boyfriend and then you.

Losing a girlfriend is tough and it can suck but staying with someone that disrespects you and knowing you allowed it to happen, that's tougher and sucks a whole lot more.