[lakesha8702]

If you are currently in a relationship and you are trying to make things work then you need to leave the young man alone. The best advice that I can give you is to pray about the situation and see what God says. That's the best advice I can give you because that is what I would do.

[N0help4u]

Sounds to me like he is interested in you as a girlfriend but you push him away for whatever reasons. It seems to me that you are more interested in him than you let yourself realize.
If neither one of you are in any relationships right now why not go for a great friendship and see where it leads to. Maybe he is the one for you and you just never realized it.

If you or him are in a relationship then tell him maybe someday when you both happen to be relationship free.

[CURIOUS08]

I think you guys need to read the entire story of how he is and everything. I don't have a boyfriend.

[N0help4u]

I thought you said you didn't have a boyfriend but many people that ask questions tend to leave some details out or leave you wondering where things now stand.

What things about him do you feel leary about? Why if you are not interested in him do you lead him on with putting your head on his shoulders? Where do you see and want things to go?

[CURIOUS08]

I think you are confused. Please read the entire thing from my original story. I really like this guy so maybe you rnt reading the right thread or something?

[N0help4u]

Maybe I don't understand the question. You say he does seem really interested in you, you are interested in him, neither one of you are seeing anybody else so what is the problem?
Let him know you are interested and see where it goes.

Does sound like you need to talk with him about what he expects. Tell him to tell you exactly what he wants and define it all and you will abide with it within reason. Tell him you want to be friends and see where it goes but you are not interested in friends with benefits and you are not interested in friends at HIS convenience. Either you are friends and possibly developing into more or you are staying away if that is what he wants but that you do not want put on an emotional rollercoaster that suits his convenience.

[CURIOUS08]

I explained everything in the first entry I made of the entire story and then went from there. What I wrote about what happened last night should explain where things were left... I'm just trying to get a feel of everything. Don't worry if you don't understand... Guidostern and Tan seem to understand it fine lol...

[N0help4u]

Sounds pretty much like what I am saying to you. He is being cautious since he is not sure of what you want and you need to communicate and come to an agreement where you two want to go from here.

[CURIOUS08]

WEll last night when he left I told him that I didn't want to rush into anything... that I enjoyed spending my time with him and hanging out. So, he told me he wasn't looking to rush into anything either... then hesitated and said that he enjoyed being with me as well so that we were on the same page. So, when he got home he sent me a text saying that he was home and for me to have a great day tomorrow since I was going out. I text him back and said that I meant what I said... that I didn't want to rush anything BUT I would like to see where things may go... I asked if this was cool with him and he said yeah it is. I guess I'm just getting paranoid that now I guess we both know where we stand and if I should wait a few days and see if he contacts me... or contact him... I don't know... I'm fine with taking things slow although I'm not used to that.. lol... but maybe you are right. I could be the one and I also find it weird we keep running into each other. He's just hard to read... but I guess I do think he likes me.. but just wanted to get a feel of what other guys thought about this situation and how he acts.

[talaniman]

Why don't you relax, and have fun getting to really know the guy, and get comfortable with each other. Be yourself, so he has a chance to learn. Hey it may work, or it may not. Throwing all the extra assumptions, and insecurities, and unrealistic expectations, at him now would be a disaster, I mean give the guy a break, and let him process things at his own pace.

Too much, To fast, crash and burn.

[CURIOUS08]

Hey Tal... I was responding to something the poster before you wrote. She said I should tell him what I wanted... and I was repeating already what I had stated before to answer her...
It's very hard because I like him a lot but I'm not being up his butt lol... I don't pressure anything... I just let him do what he feels. I have known him for a very long time. I am very very close to his sister and his family... What was just confusing to me is why someone who says they aren't looking or saying I should stay away keeps hanging out... yet knows I'm not looking for friends with benefits but yet crosses that line anyway. This is really what I wanted a perspective on from my original post. I'm sure he has respect for me being that I have known that family for so long... I just need to have assurance and I came here to get it to calm my nerves for now while going into into this semi-relationship at this time with him. Lol :)