[Jilldalil]

I am divorced. I realize I can not control what my exhusband does on his weekends he has our son. However, for the last year (our son is almost 2) each time after his fathers visitation weekend my son gets returned to me with extreme diaper rash, all different sorts of rashs (he does have sesitive skin), illnesses, and ring worm I am tired of having my exhusband expose my son this type of stuff. Granted my attorney explained to me that if it is not life threatening I can't do much about it. Is this true? I take him to the doctor's office for some of it so there is a medical record to show it is happening on his fathers weekends. A lot of weekends he doesn't even show up for his visitation. I never know if he is going to show up or not. Sometimes he does show up but then calls me and has me come get him because he has other things to do that night. Then he expects me to drop him back off in the morning because technically it is his weekend legally. Then I will have to pick him up later in the day when visitation is supposed to end. Do I really have to keep doing this?

[ScottGem]

I would go back to the court and ask for a modification of the visitation schedule. I would ask for no over nights until the child is potty trained.

[N0help4u]

Keep records and documentation of every concern, even take dated pictures of the rash.
When he doesn't keep his visits AND his excuses.
It may not be enough to 'do anything about' according to your lawyer but it may be enough to get some supervised visits, cut back visits or parenting classes or something.
Also when it is his visits he is expected to not have you 'babysit' for him to go do whatever
So you really need to bring that up too. They are his visits so he should come get him and then drop him off nothing more nothing less. If he drops him off early to go do his thing then he does not get him back until next visit.

[0rphan]

The nappy rash could also be down to nerves, obviously all this changing around must affect the little lad and perhaps upsets his metabolism, which maybe shows in his urine.

Hopefully you can sort more definite plans out with the visits by your ex-husband,either he wants him or he doesn't, the rest of his life can surely be put on hold for the short time he has him, if it can't then I'd quite simply say no, get your life sorted out.

Go back to the courts get them to relook at your situation.

[cjonline]

You don't have to go get your son if your Ex calls. Then, you don't have to "return" your son the next day. That is unless its written in the court order that you have to. Just stop taking your son back to your ex on Sunday or don't get him on sat. Read the order and just do what it says, nothing more 'to be nice' or 'help out'. If your over it don't do it any more.

If he takes you back to court then explain it to the judge and it will then be written in the order and you will have to, but my guess is the Judge would tell your ex to keep his child the whole weekend or don't get him and you wouldn't have to do all the running around. Also check the order to see if you have to do the pick ups/drop offs or does he. Again do what the order says nothing more.

As to the rashes... Really... I would bring it up to the judge if you go to court, however I wouldn't take him back for it unless a Dr says its not healthy or there is a long term problem because of it. Kids get rashes from everything, stress included; Judges know this and they won't be happy if you go to court over only this. You have no real idea what goes on in that house so you can't say its because of his housekeeping, nor could you say it was because your son doesn't like it there. You are kind of stuck on that, I think anyway. However you may want to ask the doctor to run a test to see if he is allergic to something then let your ex know if your son is.

[N0help4u]

From others I have known that had the same problem with the dad wanting the mother to get the kid so they could go out and then bring them back
Cjonline is right. You do nothing more nothing less than the order.
If he can't be responsible that he makes plans for his time when it is his sons time then the Judge looks at that like you are not putting your kid above your plans and a Judge is not going to expect you to go out of your way to return him.