[gigi0317]

Hii

I been so emotional lately I'm guessing because I'm having problems with my husband, we are trying to conceive and it can be stressful at times.I accused hubby of not being there for me when I'm sad or crying.My moods are getting to both of us I feel we are getting far apart.I never was a person to cry now I cry very easily,everything gets to me.Im stressing more,thinking more about my problems I was a carefree person who lived life happy now I'm sad and stress.I don't want to be so emotional.ANY ADVICE ON HOW TO CALM DOWN AND NOT STRESS ABOUT SUCH LITTLE THINGS... :(

THANKS TO ANYONE WHO ANSWERS...

[ChihuahuaMomma]

Invest your crying time into something more productive. I used to be really depressed as well, was even diagnosed with clinical depression. I refused to take their stupid meds cause I didn't want to admit I needed them. I started crocheting, knitting, painting, beading, doing anything that involved using my hands and imagination to create something beautiful. Great way to save money on gifts too!

[Synnen]

How long have you been trying?

Trying to conceive gets more emotional for women than for men, for the most part. If you've been trying less than a year, you need to calm down. It takes most couples an AVERAGE of a year to conceive--there's nothing wrong, and you need to stop focusing on it. Period. I know it's hard to NOT look at the pink elephant in the living room when someone tells you not to, but seriously--teach your mind to think of something else EVERY time you think of getting pregnant (or not getting pregnant). I taught myself to start thinking about dinner every time I started stressing about pregnancy.

If it's been LONGER than a year, you need to go to your doctor--BOTH of you. You may also benefit from talking to a counselor or pastor about your feelings--your husband, frankly, doesn't want to hear it. He's not responsible for your happiness, and if you're crying and/or being upset for more days in the month than just the first day of your period (which it's understandable to be sad on) then you NEED to see a counselor.

If you're focusing that much on it, and getting that upset--that emotional uproar is probably what is preventing the pregnancy to begin with. You need to relax about it, and stop thinking about sex as being the key to pregnancy, but that sex is a way to connect with your husband. FIND ways to connect with him, and STOP thinking about having a baby all the time.

[0rphan]

Hi gigi,

This is bound to get to you and your husband, it seems that you are totally focus on this one point in your lives, which is totally consuming you.

In my opinion the best thing for you is to try and carry on as normal, do your daily tasks and what ever else and eventually it will happen when you least expect it.

It might be a good idea to go and speak to your GP, he may be able to give you something to relax, just to get you back to normal and on a temporary basis.
Tell him your crying all the time and it's interfering with your life not to mention upsetting your marriage. I'm sure he will help.

Takecare

[Choux]

You have to put your relationship back on the right track... your husband is not supposed to be a therapist or an emotional punching bag. I think you should immediately apologize to him for taking out your frustrations and exaggerated emotions on him. :)

This will get your relationship headed back on track.

Now, you have to get someone to talk to about your roller coaster emotions at this point in your life. Something sounds "off" to me about the dynamics of what is going on. You need to get in touch with your unconscious fears so your marriage isn't destroyed by them.

You can do this, girl. :)

[llmare]

It's a very stressfull time for you and him both.
It's sound to me like your just needing someone to talk to about your emotions a third party an ear that won't pass judment on you.
The pregnancy will happen when the time is right.
Live for right now make the most of it baby or no baby your still you and chances are his still the man you fell in love with.
All will work out stop being so hard on yourself
Wishing you well

[Soulbeliever666]

It took me 6 years to have my little girl! And I know exactly what your going though, and would like to offer some tips:

1. Believe it or not but stress can prevent conception so stressing isn't going to help (I know its easier said then done trying not to stress)

2. sex plays a big part but you don't want to suck the fun out of it so try being imaginative make it interesting for instance they say sex every day helps to conceive so if you and your husband are out together how about having fun in the car etc.

3. I read somewhere and I swear by it green tea I drank four cups a day and they say that it takes about 4-6 months for it to take effect but it can help conceive I read somewhere that 4 out of 5 woman who drank the tea who where trying for a baby fell pregnant after 5 months but this fact has never been officially proven but I swear it helped me!

4. Might be worth chatting to the GP just to cross out any underline problems my ex for example has a low sperm count and what tinkersA he did have where not in good shape so that's why me and my ex could never conceive 5 years go.

I met my other half not long after my ex couldn't cope with his problem and we drifted apart. 4 years into trying and I tried everything, drinking cough syrup every day and it didn't work for me I started looking for herbal stuff see if that would help and that's when I came across herbals teas and one of them was green tea so I said to myself well lets try it and see if its going to happen it will so I drank the tea and forgot about trying for a baby and 4-5 months later 2 years ago I was pregnant! I couldn't believe it! I now I have a healthy little girl, So I really do believe stress plays in preventing woman falling pregnant AND GREEN TEA! But I'd still have a word with your gp any way. Best of luck to you!