[JFranc]

This is the first time I ever talk about relationships to anyone and this is probably the first time I spill my heart with honest truth.
Ive tried to talk to friends and family about it, but they always give me a biased point if view which I don't think it works. So, here I am asking you for help:

I have had a girlfriend for 1.5 years now. She, is great, caring and compassionate person, most of the times, but she's also quite obsessive, insecure and overly emotional person.

We had a lot of problems along the way and we've tried to deal with our differences in a civilized way, but the problems still continue.
She's very emotional and she asks me a lot of emotional questions which end up pushing me away. I don't know why it happens, but I feel like I need some space right after we have a big "session" of this.

Ive noticed this problems over and over, to which I've tried to break up with her, numerous times, for it. We always end up fixing our differences by she saying "she will change" and that I will "try to be more open to listening" - we always go back to that same point over and over, though.

Recently, my career and life is taking me to another country. This is a great exciting opportunity for me and I'm very happy to go. But,
She's asking me whether I'm thinking of her as "her partner for life" (which, at this moment of my life, seems a bogus thing to do) - she's asking me whether I going to try to make it work so we can be together at the end.
She is pushing me in telling her that I will want to be with her once those next 6months are over. When I truly have no idea.
The truth is, I do have an idea: I would love to be with her if she was not so obsessively emotional with me. And I don't think that's going to change, so I think I should not be with her.

So

I decided no.
I decided that based on how our relationship has been for the past year and how hard it has been for us to be together for all that time. Based on how painful it has been for both her and me, after thinking for a while, I realized this is not what I wanted in my life and that I should make both myself and her a favour, to end the relationship.

The problem is that I still like her. I like being around her when she's not overly emotional. I like being with her when she's a cheerful person. And that's what confuses me.

After breaking up with her, and she understood it, we agreed to be friends. I settled myself in creating some space from her and me.
But she kept calling me,
She kept asking me out.
So at one point, out of cheer worry for her,
I did, and it went fine for a time. I actually liked her when I saw she was OK with her life and she was taking it so well, so I kept going out with her:

On one last time, a week later, we got drunk together and I ended up in her bed.

I enjoyed being with her.
But I don't think we should be seeing each other anymore. I still stand by that, and she just doenst believe me anymore. She doenst want to accept the relationship is over because she says she knows I love her. - which is true, I love her, but I think is for the best that we should not be together.
She doenst accept that.

I made the mistake of breaking up with her and coming back to her far too many times, and I think I am really setting myself for a lot of pain in this situation.

So, please, I don't know what to do.
She's both a great lovely person and my greatest torment. She pushes me to do things I don't want to do, out of love for her. I let myself being pushed by her, out of love for her.
But I feel this is poisoning my soul.
And even though I like her, I think I should end it.

How can I do this?
What would be the easiest way, to break up with her?
I figure Im going to end up breaking her heart, but she's so into me, that I'm even afraid she might do something stupid. Im even afraid of her own wealthbeing.
Its really hard and I feel its eating me inside.

I figure that I shouldn't have come home with her that night. That was a big mistake. I thought maybe we could make it together, but a couple days later I proved myself once again, that I can't stand her over emotional being and insecurities.

I think I deserve to be happy in this world. And I don't think she can provide that for me, for more lovely that she seems.
And that goes for the both of us.

Please help me.

[talaniman]

Break the chain of insanity (doing the same thing over, and over, and expecting different results), break up, stop the contact, and disappear from her life.