
Originally Posted by
mia
I've recently had a baby and i breastfed for a while, now my breast sag some and they don't look the same from before i got pregnant. Like they've gotten smaller. I've been thinkin about implants but its too much money. So i've started taking pills that help increase bust size. The pills are called saw palmetto and fenugreek. Do you think these will help to get my breast back to the way they were. Or is there anything else I can try.
Thanks for any help.
Hi Mia,
I am a married man, with two children and a beautiful wife, who breastfed both babies for 2 years each. Are her breasts the same as when she was 20? No. Do I wish they were? NO. She is a grown woman now (38), and a veteran mother and I wouldn't have it any other way. She is more beautiful with her mature breasts.
Of course I loved her pertness when she was young, but now I love her softness----and everything else that comes with age: she has experience, wisdom, skills--even more charm----experience trumps youth--so why aspire to youth!
The point is, please re-think the implants/medicines etc. All of that stuff is being encouraged by greedy, seedy perverted old men who make money off all that stuff.
None of us are young forever. To try to stay young is a farsical act of self-denial--denying yourself the pride in experience, age, wisdom. I am proud of everything my wife has ever done with her life, and that includes sagging breasts. Stay healthy--yes--but accept your age and the maturing body that comes with it. In some cultures, the sagging breast is a symbol of wisdom--a beauty symbol---not something to be derided.
From what I have observed, bras do not have any impact on the situation, either. My wife always wore one, and they still sagged, and then she took it off for the second child (they are a real hassle when breastfeeding, especially in public), and there was no further change. If you feel more physically comfortable without one, then get rid of it. Or keep it if it fits and does not cause red marks or pain and makes you feel good. Just remember: the bra is only marketed so that you can (a) create an illusion of youth/uplift which is unnatural, and (b) for a perverted sense of "modesty" (as if lifting, projecting, and covering up can all be done at the same time!)
Breastfeeding was a wonderful experience. Our first needed the milk pumped when he was first born, and so for months, we had to deal with pumps and bottles. When we got to normal direct feeding, life was great! No bottles to wash, no "running out of milk", no getting woken up. She could nurse in her sleep. In my opinion, breasts are for babies first--and I am a man who enjoys the sensual aspects to a great extent (as does my wife). But when breastfeeding, it is a different thing--and the bond, the health, the simplicity--makes it all worthwhile. Not to mention that it is better for the woman, too (reduces chance of cancers).
Feel proud of your accomplishments and of your own body--one that no one else has--and I encourage you to leave the chasing after "perfect" beauty to the young and uninformed. All wise husbands (and future husbands!) understand that a wife's beauty always grows with age--and that means accepting her as she is, Always.
Best of luck with your children and family.
Bill