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Jul 25, 2008, 01:23 PM
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You can not tell her to leave anybody it has to be her own decision in her own time.
Your telling her to leave him can only lead to problems like her resenting you, her thinking you are a control freak and her wanting nothing to do with you.
You don't really know what she feels for him or if she would ever really want to leave him
She may say she wants to leave him that does not mean she is seriously considering it or planning on it.
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Jul 26, 2008, 07:16 AM
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You can lead a horse to water..!
Back off, and let her come to her own conclusions, and actions... and consequences for those actions.
You are to closely involved.
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Jul 26, 2008, 07:42 AM
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 Originally Posted by talaniman
You are to closely involved.
Plaese explain me about this . And also let me know about my role in this.. if any !
And how should I react to the happenings.
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Jul 26, 2008, 07:54 AM
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 Originally Posted by wantu
plaese explain me about this . and also let me know about my role in this ..if any !
and how should i react to the happenings.
You are reading too much into her feelings for you. Just because she laughs when you are happy and cries if you are sad does not make a love story.
As long as she is into her boyfriend you have to back off with not letting your emotions take over.
To react you need to accept her as nothing more than friends and do not read anything into her words or actions.
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Jul 26, 2008, 08:22 AM
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What she does about her b/f is up to her, not you. Stop giving advice to her as she is not listening. Let her vent, and stop trying to help her fix it.
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Jul 26, 2008, 11:20 AM
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Then why she will be jealous when I am talking to some other girl !
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Jul 26, 2008, 11:24 AM
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Because some girls (and guys) are just jealous and it doesn't matter if they want to be with you or not. Sort of like 'If I can't have him nobody can' She wants claims on you but not be with you.
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Jul 26, 2008, 11:25 AM
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 Originally Posted by N0help4u
You are reading too much into her feelings for you. Just because she laughs when you are happy and cries if you are sad does not make a love story.
As long as she is into her bf you have to back off with not letting your emotions take over.
To react you need to accept her as nothing more than friends and do not read anything into her words or actions.
Then why she told my friend that I am over excited about her.She also told my friend not to tell this to me.
Don't u think that she also does the same thing... i.e.read my feelings./actions.
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Jul 26, 2008, 11:27 AM
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 Originally Posted by N0help4u
Because some girls (and guys) are just jealous and it doesn't matter if they want to be with you or not. Sorta like 'If I can't have him nobody can' She wants claims on you but not be with you.
But she is not about other guys... yes I have noticed that for few months.
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Jul 26, 2008, 11:39 AM
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Face the fact that she just wants to be friends and you are reading too much into everything.
She told my friend that I am over excited about her MEANING YOU like her more than she likes you.
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Jul 26, 2008, 11:47 AM
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Find a girlfriend who is worth the time and less drama.
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Aug 2, 2008, 08:54 AM
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Started avoiding
Hi
I started avoiding this girl (I have mentioned already in my earlier questions)as she is involved with her boyfriend.
I got suggestions that I should not tell her to leave him or should not bother about her relationship.
So, I started avoiding her.I was closely involved in her activities but now I reduced everything and started to keep distance with a smiling face.
But now I notice that she gets irritated,angry and sometimes disturbed.I don't know why.
I had a talk with her regarding this and she told me that she wants me as her friend.I told her that I am her best frienddddddddddd.
She doesn't want to leave her as well she doesn't want to leave me as well
Please \suggest me.
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Aug 2, 2008, 04:49 PM
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Tell her your tired of hearing about her problems with her b/f. Simple and honest.
Why do you give her more than she gives you, friends or not.
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Aug 16, 2008, 11:57 AM
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Confused in relationship
I love this girl who is my best friend and we share every small things.She tells me about her boyfriend every small details about their relationship and some things that her boyfriend also sometimes doesn't know.
We had good times,we work together and laugh,throw jokes and really like each other.When she is not there I miss her too much and same with her.She misses me when I am not there.
She knows that I love her and she is excited about that.
But recently she told me that it was a mistake that I did by coming between their relation.
Simply I don't understand !
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Aug 16, 2008, 12:12 PM
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Hi.. yeah I understand her because I have the same situation ! U love each other like a FRDS not more... u think that it is LOVE but its not.. but its OK u can try again ! Good luck
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Aug 16, 2008, 12:26 PM
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You're supposed to be her best friend and nothing more (especially when she's seeing somone) how you feel may complicate things and make her uncomfortable. Let her have a few days by herself, and don't get mad if she hangs out with her boyfriend because that's what people do when they date... you may love her, but does she love you?
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Aug 16, 2008, 12:45 PM
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You are getting too emotionally attached and she may realize that and told you that to cause you to step back a bit. Her loyalty is with her boyfriend no matter how great you two get along so that is complicating things. Do the right thing and back off.
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Aug 16, 2008, 01:41 PM
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 Originally Posted by LaLoUn
hi .. yeah i understand her coz i have the same situation ! u love each other like a FRDS not more ..... u think that it is LOVE but its not .. but its ok u can try again ! good luck
Thank You very much.
I wish that every wish come true
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Aug 16, 2008, 01:45 PM
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 Originally Posted by LostInHisEyez
You're supposed to be her best friend and nothing more (especially when shes seeing somone) how you feel may complicate things and make her uncomfortable. let her have a few days by herself, and dont get mad if she hangs out with her boyfriend because thats what people do when they date...you may love her, but does she love you?
I don't know ?
But if she would have loved me then why she would have hanging with her BF.
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Aug 16, 2008, 01:51 PM
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She loves you as a friend/she loves her boyfriend as a commitment.
You are reading too much into her 'love' for you it is nothing more than love the attention.
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