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    ilovcali Posts: 206, Reputation: 85
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    Jul 23, 2008, 01:11 PM
    A New Frustration!
    Hi all. I took another hiatus from the board. Back again for a bit. This is more of a venting then needing advice. I went out on a few dates with this girl. I really liked her. She's quite an amazing girl.

    I was wondering though, why things were not progressing slightly faster. Some flags were starting to be raised. Here was the catch. SHE HAS A BOYFRIEND! I finally got that information out of her. And they've been together for 7-8 years!

    ! Isn't that something you mention to someone who is clearly interested in you? I feel pretty bad because I was hitting on and flirting with another man's girl. She never said a word about her boyfriend, not even when we hung out.

    I had to be the one to ask her about him. Is that normal? Doesn't a girl even in passing mention when she has a boyfriend! And one she has been dating for that long?

    Anyway, it sucks. Now I find myself really liking her and I have to walk away. Why in the world whould she have gone out with me? I'm just a little angry. She knew I liked her (unless she is stupid, she knew, I made my intentions very clear), and she never said anything! What the hell.

    Vent over!

    --Cali
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    Jul 23, 2008, 01:23 PM
    She likes the attention.. you should stay away from this girl.. if she's willing to cheat on her boyfriend for you.. what's to stop her from cheating on you with another guy in the future if you get together.. she's trouble.. stay far away to avoid anymore pain
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    Jul 23, 2008, 01:27 PM
    Hey Cali,

    If you don't mind my asking, where in California do you live? North? South? I live in California too and love it as well! Haha
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    Jul 23, 2008, 01:30 PM
    Maybe she just wanted to use you or try to have something with you and two time her boyfriend and you. She's playing a game with both of you. Yes,if someone try to talk to you you state I have someone only a player will not be up front about this information.
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    Jul 23, 2008, 02:09 PM
    Its sad, but some girls just like to play with men's hearts. She was in a relationship = she held one man's heart, and tried to get another man's heart. That's very sad.

    And I'm truly sorry that you have been burned like this. She's a player.

    Don't let this unfortunate escapade color your attitude about finding that perfect girl for you... us non-player girls are out there!

    I wish you the best! :)
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    Jul 23, 2008, 04:00 PM
    Yes, I know. I cut off contact with her this week. And I actually did figure out something was up when things weren't going like I thought they should be. I was right.

    I realize in this case, I didn't do anything wrong. She deceived me for whatever reason.

    I can't waste time rationalizing why she behaved that way. Still sucks because I did like her.

    But on I go!
    --Cali
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    Jul 23, 2008, 04:36 PM
    Good attitude! You don't need her, let her go screw with someone else. Next time, the person might not take it so lightly.
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    Jul 23, 2008, 04:40 PM
    Your ctions were upfront and legit. Whatever reason she has for her actions is not relevant, but yours were right on!
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