[HurtingALot]

So I have been a browser/poster on this site on and off for a long time. I have received invaluable advice from many of the senior members and everyone else stuck in the same miserable heartbreak situation I was in... and I am so happy to have found a place where I could share all of my fears and anxieties, and vent, vent, vent.

I am back to tell you, for I often read that burning question, "Will he or she come back?" It can happen. I just wanted to share my "Happy Ending" after a bunch of heartbreak and chaos. My ex and I reconciled after being apart this last breakup for about 3 months. The No Contact thing was a Godsend... as it allowed me to get my feelings in perspective and BEGIN to heal... AND it allowed my ex at the time, to truly reflect and see what, in fact he was missing. My BF and I celebrated our 2 year dating anniversary yesterday... (Well... 2 years minus a little time off! ) and I can honestly say, I am cautious for sure, but happier than ever before, just the same.

I can happily say that we have gotten back together, and have been going strong since March... and he truly is a changed person. Not to say that everything is perfect, but I believe our time apart... (truly apart... NC... NC... NC! ) allowed us both to realize what was important to us.

I just wanted to say thank you again... to all those who listened to my incessant questioning and sad rants day after day... and share a bit of hope to those of you currently in the throes of heartbreak.

What I can tell you is that IT DOES GET BETTER... but don't push... No Contact really is the way to heal... FOR YOURSELF... and if it is meant to be, it just will. Have faith... but always remember to take care of yourself first. ;)

[ylaira]

Glad to hear things turned out better...

[Chery]

Good for you dear. I love happy endings and so glad that this site helped you get there.
Don't be a stranger and pass on your wisdom to others in need, OK.

Oh, and let us know when you guys take the next step to make things more 'official' and if you plan a family or not. I'm nosey, and you don't really have to share this, but it would be nice.

Congrats!

P.S. My daughter's relationship was also shakey for a while, and she's getting married to her son's dad soon. So I too know it can happen.

[bigdee]

Glad to hear!

Just curious... How'd the NC end? Basically who contacted who... and how?

[talaniman]

I'm so glad to hear some good news and hope it continues. You have made my day.

[friend4u178]

Glad to hear it all worked out for you , you've proved it's not always hopeless IF the right measures are taken and you both get a time to yourselves to reflect on what could or couldn't work.

Well done!

[Romefalls19]

Goodluck with it all! Keep in touch

[HurtingALot]

Thank you for your kind words of support and happiness for me. It really means a lot... especially since it comes from those of you who were so instrumental to my "recovery." I know that I was truly a mess... for a long while... and you always listened. So thank you again.

Yes... I truly am happy this time around... and I think it will work. We are making plans to move in together in the near future... No family plans as of yet... (I have a son from a previous marriage... who my BF gets along great with now, and my little guy loves him right back... )

To answer the question, "Who broke No Contact...." After I really got serious and started No Contact for good... (This meant no meaningless texts, no messages, no calls, NO NOTHING... ) When I finally let it go and said, IT'S OVER AND I AM MOVING ON... It was about a month before he made contact... (Actually, a month to the day... kinda strange... ) He called... 3 times and left messages... I didn't respond. Because I knew I still loved him, about a week later I returned one of the calls. And that was it... we met and spent the weekend together, and we've been inseparable ever since. We talked A lot about EVERYTHING... It really is different this time... and I believe we are meant to be.

So that's the story... Never give up hope that the right thing will happen at the right time... but put yourself first... That's my only advice.

Happy endings do exist.

[polkadotrainbow]

First of all congratulations to you! Also I wanted to say that my ex and I are now starting back at the "seeing each other " point - this is how we got together in the first place. So things are looking good now so I wanted to say thanks... not many of you did respond to my post but I appreciate it was a long one :-) and I wanted to thank those who did