[vARSITYteNNis]

The last eleven months of my life I have spent on a wild rollercoaster. You know what I am talking about, the ups and downs of a relationship. This one seemed to have more downs then ups, late night screaming matches on the front porch, lying and lots of things were said that we didn't mean. Being a the patient girl that I was raised to be, things were finally worked out between us. Everything was perfect and I was on top of the world. Little did I know that my world was soon to come crashing down.

When the relationship really started to become serious, I found out that I would be moving for the beautiful Outer Banks of North Carolina to the middle-of-nowhere-Texas. I have moved numerous times in my life, that was not the problem. The problem was that I was in love with this guy. Now, if any of you have ever had to go through the loss of a loved one, it is horrible. And ultimately, that is what I had to do, let go of a loved one. Well, time goes by, people change. But not in this case. He still calls me on a regular basis and tells me that he loves me and is doing the best he can to come and see me before he goes off the join the marines. But this is a problem. I am trying so hard to move on with my life. I know that the only way to do that is to let go of him. But harder said then done.

So, after this huge story about my recent problem, my question to you is this:

How am I supposed to let go of the best thing that has ever happened to me and moved on with my life with the minimal amount of pain as possible?

[JBeaucaire]

How am I supposed to let go of the best thing that has ever happened to me and moved on with my life with the minimal amount of pain as possible?

By remembering that even though it's the best thing that has happened to you SO FAR, it is by no means even remotely close to the best thing that's GOING TO HAPPEN. That's it. Your life is lived on the road of today, eyes forward and eagerly heading toward that next exciting chapter. You are young and have many, many chapters to experience.

All the time and energy you spend looking back at this past is just you delaying your TODAY until tomorrow. You can do that, it's just not helpful. Not to you, not to him... and not to the guy that's on his way to you already.

When he gets here, I sincerely hope you're not off the road at that moment in a rest stop texting your past... and thus missing your TODAY.

[talaniman]

Stop contacting each other, and focus on the here and now. There will be pain, but you have to cope with your loss by building your life now, for tomorrow.

[vARSITYteNNis]

Thank you guys so much. I really think this advice is going to help. I will do my very best to stay focused on here and now. Building a new life seems just the remedy for me. Thank you.

[N0help4u]

Sounds like it could be a great movie someday but in real life you would be pretty much left hanging for the years he was in the Marines. Live your life and follow your heart without letting it get broke

[ylaira]

Stop contacting each other, and focus on the here and now. There will be pain, but you have to cope with your loss by building your life now, for tomorrow.

Visit this site more often. U'll see ur not the firs tto go through this and ur not alone..