[uninvited03]

Hello I have been going out with my boyfriend fro 5 months to be exact. He has a 6 year old son and I have three kids. We both have been in a relationship that did not work out for the both of us and so we both were trying to fix our past mistakes and making our relationship work. Well for my surprise his babymomma and my boyfriend have beem arguing a lot over issues regarding their son , now mind me she has a boyfriend, their relationship was caused by her boyfriend and her and so he feels upset due to her dating this guy for 4 years. Now my boyfriend and his baby momma had been together 6 years you do the math.
Any way long story short we have been going through ruff patches ourselves with is time consumming. I only see him late nights right after he sees his son, and on fridays when they stay the weekend. Well at times we tells me he loves me and won't trade me for no one but then again he shows me differently. Well today he packed up his stuff and left me, telling me that he does not know what he wants and that he is sorry for hurting me because I am a good person, and he told me this crying. I love him sooo much don't get me wrong and yes it really hurted me that we broke up, but my thing is this if I am such a good person so why was it so easy for him to leave me. All I asked him to do during our relationship was stop texting his ex for stupid things, and to give me the respect. Deep down I had this gut feeling he is still hung up on his ex but then again I ignored it. Should I give him the space to figure out what he wants and let nature takes its course or should I just keep him and ignore what he has done to me. He told me he wants to be with me and that he is very sorry for doing this to me. But my question is this did he really love me or was I just a puppet. Please help me.

[JBeaucaire]

He's a total mess who may have loved you and has just shown you exactly what that's worth. Zip. Nada. Zilch.

Feelings are fine and dandy when the people HAVING the feelings have their crap together. Is there ANY part of this guy or his life you would describe that way?

I don't think so.

So, feelings are nice, but they don't get the job done. I wish more people realized that far sooner, before all the damage is done.

[talaniman]

Deep down I had this gut feeling he is still hung up on his ex but then again I ignored it.

Probably be best if you give him the space to figure out his issues without any pressure from you. He is nowhere near ready to make someone happy, is he?

Don't let him be in a position to make you miserable, again!

[uninvited03]

Probably be best if you give him the space to figure out his issues without any pressure from you. He is nowhere near ready to make someone happy, is he??

Don't let him be in a position to make you miserable, again!

Well he has called me telling me that he is sorry for what he has done to me, and that I really did not deserve to be treated that way. He also told me that I hold a very important place in his heart and that he wants to be with me. I wondered if what he is telling me is real or just words to try and get me back, because why he is telling me this he is crying histerical. I do love him dearly, I feel open around him, I get happy every time he calls me, we talk we play video games, we share intimate moments together that makes us not want to get up in the morning, we both just want to be happy.

For me I know this is the one for me and I have told him how much me means in my life. I also expressed my feelings and thoughts with him, but in all reality I feel I may be scared to loose him. We both have kids and they get along great. But my question is this are we really meant for each other or are we just lusting for love... :confused:

[talaniman]

But my question is this are we really meant for each other or are we just lusting for love... :confused:

Time will tell that, but all do respect, no way do you just ignore him handling his business, as it will follow you, and him, through life.

He needs to take care of business, or he is just mouthing words. That's what you tell him "Handle your business, or leave you alone"! Then give him time and space, and don't settle for less.

[Romefalls19]

He is on an emotional roller coaster and dealing with a lot right now. Time will tell if the relationship can last or not.