[jbman]

I like a girl and she knows it and feels bad that she doesn't like me back. She has a boyfriend and I want to get over her but its like impossible. What should I do?

[talaniman]

Is this the same female as before, in your other posts??

[jbman]

Yeah... she is. I love her though but I don't want to anymore. I need to move on but I don't know how.

[Chery]

This clip is old, but still applies. When we so openly and frequently talk about 'love' we need to be sure it's love and not lust, or wanting something that we know we will not get... that's only hurting yourself.

So check it out.

YouTube - Fun With Shorts: How Do You Know It's Love?

And... it is true - we 'fall in love' several times in our lives until we realize what it really is and who we share it with.

So, read the stickies in the relationship's section, realize that you are not the only one feeling down, hurt, and rejected, and start the healing process.

Good luck, dear and keep us posted.

[jbman]

Trust me, its not lust. I really do love her and care about her. She is one of my best friends so I wouldn't want to hurt her. I've tried asking her out telling her how I feel, hangin out with her, I even wrote her a poem haha. But the thing is I don't want to love her anymore, all that it is doing is hurting me and tearing me apart seeing her with her boyfriend. I even asked another girl out to get my mind off her and to focus on another relationship.

[JoeCanada76]

Huh, has a boyfriend. No is no.

Your in fantasy land. Its not love.

Your like a stalker boy waiting to happen. The more you try to get her to go out with you the more desperate you seem, which is what you are acting like right now.

Focusing on another relationship or girl is the wrong reasons. Sorry you are doing everything wrong here.

So my advice to you is to focus on your schooling and get a job or do something else to fill your time.

This is not love, but one day when you do experience it for real you will know the difference.
I am hoping.

Joe

[Chery]

trust me, its not lust. i really do love her and care about her. she is one of my best friends so i wouldn't want to hurt her. ive tried askin her out telling her how i feel, hangin out with her, i even wrote her a poem haha. but the thing is i don't want to love her anymore, all that it is doing is hurting me and tearing me apart seein her with her boyfriend.

i even asked another girl out to get my mind off of her and to focus on another relationship.

You do still love her and what you feel is anger and rejection and jealousy - these are normal human emotions and you just have to cope with them and accept that you were not her choice - get over it and move on in life. You are not the only one in the world this has happend to and will not be the last.



I think it is wrong in starting a new relationship because it's a 'REBOUND' and you will only compare her and expect her to give you what the other one does not - probably without making an effort to really getting to know the new girl - which will be dishonest and not respectful at all. She is not there to 'lick your wounds' so be sincere with her and treat her right.


Read the four stickies in the Relationship Section. Also, get used to rejection now and then, it makes us all stronger and helps us determine what choices to make in the future. Of course it will hurt for a while, but the healing process takes TIME - and I promise - it will work. Just try and keep yourself busy and don't stay at home mulling or looking for a 'quick fix with another girl just yet - be as fair to others as you would expect other to be to you. We will help you in the healing process..


Good luck.

[confused1145]

Try doing things to get your mind off of her. Like hangin out with friends or something. It may work if you keep yourself busy.