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    kal444 Posts: 1, Reputation: 1
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    Jul 4, 2008, 01:31 AM
    I love my Co-worker
    I have started a new job 3 month back and now I am in love with my co-worker.
    She always after me at work but after work if I call her she always wants to end the telephone conversation. I asked her out for dinner but she answered no. How should I deal with the rejection ?

    I feel she is using me at work and when works finish she has no interest in talking to me.

    I'm in love with her and I see and think about her all the time, it's becoming difficult to focus at work and at home.

    How I can handle this situation and how to treat her at work?:confused:
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    Jul 4, 2008, 02:08 AM
    Sorry bud your not in love with her. Your having a crush or your just in fantasy land, but this I not love. You do not even know this girl. How to deal with what rejection. No, means no. It is quite simple. She is not interested.
    Work is work, called team work and getting work done by working with each other. Simple.
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    Jul 4, 2008, 04:04 AM
    You love the attention she gives you. She evidently does not have any feelings for you or she would not be one way at work where she feels safe and different when she is not at work. You need to be careful because she could be the type that could turn around and sue you for sexual harassment if she gets offended in your flirting back with her. It does happen.
    I would find a way to tell her that if she has no interest in going out with you then don't bother flirting with you.
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    Jul 4, 2008, 07:06 AM
    Yes, love is what happens after months of actual dating and you getting to know them, this is called being used and/or having sexual desires that you are confusing with love. Sounds like you have to learn to move on when it si not happening
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    Jul 4, 2008, 11:03 AM
    How should I deal with the rejection ?
    Stop asking for a date, as she obviously is not interested in anything other than co-worker with you.

    I feel she is using me at work and when works finish she has no interest in talking to me.
    What are you doing, "helping" her with her work also?

    I'm in love with her and I see and think about her all the time, it's becoming difficult to focus at work and at home.
    No your not, your smitten by her attention, and that's a long way from love. You sound mighty young and inexperienced.

    How I can handle this situation and how to treat her at work?:confused:
    Do your work and go home and forget about her.
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    happy_jester Posts: 170, Reputation: 29
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    Jul 4, 2008, 11:35 AM
    "Kal444" listen to what has already been said.

    You have a crush on this person,which could,very easily,turn into something VERY
    Nasty for you!!

    At work,do the job that you're paid to do,and then go home
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