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byron boyd · Apr 17, 2006, 03:20 PM

Pt 3 to how I get my ex back presents; what not to do

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Well everybody who have read pt 2 of this saga knows about what's going on between me and my beautiful ex girlfreind, so here we go. Easter Sunday I get a surprise visit from her she stays from about seven to two in the morning. And let me remind you that we had been broken up almost two mounths now. Anyway when she came through the door I had fell deeper in love with her then I already was at the time because I was slowly getting over. I guess! We not together and I was hugging up on her,putting my face in her hair and kissing the back of her neck area I even grabed her *** I just don't know why she did not say anything I even spoted her looking at me on so many different times that night. She was even calling me baby. It was some of those times I thought she was rubing her body against my body when we were siting next to each other watching movies. I know I'm still in love with her and I still get all **** up over her when I see her. My question to everybody who have read this, is do she want me or and love me, is she playing games, and how to get her back and what not to do to push her away.

Krs · Apr 18, 2006, 03:00 AM

It sounds complicated as I said before and a relationship isn't easy but shouldn't be so complicated. I think she needs to grow up!

sweetface · Apr 18, 2006, 05:13 AM

Byron,

It sounds to me that she is playing games. She knows for a fact that you are still in love with her, and she will use that to her advantage. When she is feeling lonely, and wants company, she is going to come to you, because she knows that you are going to give her that temporary fix of affection. However, it is not permanenet. It is temporary. Only to satisfy her and torment you. My advice, don't let her in next time. Let her know you are busy, or can't talk at the moment. I know, I know it is hard to do(trust me I know) but you have to think about your feelings, and what is going to happen after she leaves. You are going to feel hurt, and disappointed because she did not act, or say the things you want her to say to you. You create scenarios in your head of what it could be like, being with her or even married to her. She knows this, and feeds on this, and you entertain it. So, gradually let it go. I say gradually.

fredg · Apr 18, 2006, 05:37 AM

Hi, byron,
I answered a little in your other question.
I, too, think you need to give this relationship a rest. I am 64, married now for 29 yrs, but was divorced after my 1st. 7 yrs. Of marriage.
You don't mention anything about marriage. Would you marry this girl tomorrow?
If your answer is "no", would have to think about it, then it's really possible she isn't the girl for you. I agree with "playing games".
She told you to move out, or you left because of money, maybe. Now she wants to come see you. Love hurts! It's not easy to finally try finding someone else, but you can. You need someone who will be caring, loving, respect you, and want you to be happy. I found that woman, and you can, too.