[SuperSonic]

Hi, I really need some advise. I'll keep this as short as possible.

My ex and I got together last April, but broke up in September because he had feelings for someone else. We remained friends and still are to this day. I started dating a guy in November and I still am, but I feel things aren't going so great. I was honest with him and told him I still have feelings for my ex, but he still didn't want me to finish our relationship.

Over the course of time in which my ex and I have broken up (about six months), I've noticed him look at me a few times and look away etc. At times though he held the gaze until I broke it. I was also told by a friend once that when my ex saw me hug my current boyfriend he had a strange look on his face and she couldn't figure out what emotion it was, it appeared to be mixed. We still talk every time we see each other also. At first it was a bit awkward, and we always gave each other a hug, which where akward until fairly recently. He'd be a bit figity at times when we were talking (like messing with his beard and moving his cigarette box in his hands), and he's started giving me the big squishy hugs he used to when we were together. He's also recently finished with the girl he had feelings for, but alas has tried to get back with another ex (who is having none of it).

I'm confused though. I've heard from a few people that he may want back with me but isn't saying so because I'm currently attatched. I can't stress how well we still get on. Is there any signs I should look for the next time I see him or anything like that? Please help, I feel really stuck :(.

[Fr_Chuck]

Ok, my answer to someone 15 is going to be different from someone 30.

Normally ex's are ex's for a reason, remember that reason. All people have "funny feelings" about their ex, they don't reallywant them, but they don't want someone else to have them either. And the longer you are together the harder it is to get over each other.

If you really really want him back ( and my though is no, they are a ex for a reason) if common sense has no bearing on it, go talk to him and find out how he feels.

If you were 15 I say yes of course go back, then you normally learn early why going back to a ex is normally a bad idea.

[s_cianci]

I don't know about waiting for any specific signs but just continue doing what you've been doing and wait it out. Something may develop or it may not. Do you feel like you want to give things another go with him? You could try talking to him honestly and upfront about how you feel and let him respond. That may help you map out your next course of action.

[Krs]

If you think you want to give it another go, then speak to him. Wondering what feelings and emotions he has when he sees you and friends telling you he looks at you is not going to give you a 100% answer, is it, speaking to him will, then you can judge for yourself.

[fredg]

Hi, Super,
I do agree with talking with your ex. Find out!!
Your only other option is to do nothing, and just wait and see what happens.
I do wish you the best, and good luck.

[DJ 'H']

Forget him. The only reason he is giving you these looks is because he is jealous of you. You have moved on with you life (or so he thinks) and from where he is standing you are happy and he is probably not. He probably looks at you occasionally and looks aay because he wnts to know what you are up to and that you are OK. My ex did the very same. Ripped my heart out and then after if he saw me he would just stare at me and look away. Then once he actually approached me to talk to me and actually knew everything that was going on in my life before I even opened my mouth. EXs are very strange, they don't want to be with you, but some how they till want to know what you are up to, how you are. But it does not mean anything.

Sometimes it's a case of wanting what they can't have. If you display to him that you want him back - he will be gone with in seconds. It's a power thing, knowing that you will go back to them at the click of their fingers, knowing that if they say "jump" - you will say "how high" - not being in control is the worst thing for some guys and in this situation you are in control - so don't ever give it back to him.

You will get over this guy with time - you just need to do what you are doing and give your new guy a chance. He sounds very understanding and willing to do whatever it takes to keep you. If you still don't feel that way about your boyfriend then tell him so, be honest, but I would not recommend trying to get back with the other guy - he will only hurt you.

Good luck and remember where we are if you need a chat xxx

[fredg]

Hey, DJ,
Good answer. Tried to give a comment; but got the pop-up window!
Like your signature; Listen for love.

[DJ 'H']

Hey, DJ,
Good answer. Tried to give a comment; but got the pop-up window!
Like your signature; Listen for love.

Thanks Fredg - I have been in her situation many times, took me long enough to learn what was going on, so I am happy to pass on my knowledge & experience.

My new signiture is something I firmly believe we don't do enough of ;) - if supersonic is listening to this guys words and actions then she will realise she is not loved by this guy.

[fredg]

Great signature.

[DJ 'H']

Great signature.

A simple sentence which carries a lot of meaning!

[fredg]

Absolutely.
Taking time to read it, thinking about it, really helps.