[judyodie]

I hope I am in the right topic for this question.. My Granddaughter who is now 21 has been with her boyfriend for 4 years now. She now has 2 children... 1 is 2 and the other is a newborn. Her Mom and Step Dad will not take her in. She and her boyfriend who, by the way, beat her during her first pregnancy, served jail time because of it, treats her badly, punched out walls in their 4 apartments (need I say More), are now living with his Mom and her boyfriend in a studio apt. That makes 6 of them in a studio apt. Not good. My Granddaughter has a friend who gave her anitdpressants because she has talked about overdosing on pills in the past and shows signs of depressant. My Granddaughter will not talk to a doctor to get her own pills and now is on nothing. This is my problem... My Granddaugher has a car which she has not paid on and is now considered stolen, driving with a expired sticker, has no job and obviously not providing a good home for my Great Grandchildren... By the way, I'm 61... Her mother will not help her nor take her into her home because her husband says NO. As her biological Grandmother, what can I do? Do I have the right to take her to court to prove that she is incompetent... I live in Florida and all of them in Illinois... I offered to have her move here with me.. The day before she was going to leave, she changed her mind because she love him... What about what is best for those kids as well as for her?? I don't want to over step my boundaries but I also don't want to look back and say that there was more that I could have done. HELP!!

[twinkiedooter]

Grandma - stop beating yourself up over this girl. She is 21 now and has decided to ruin her life with both hands as fast as she can. I am sorry that she did not come and live with you in Florida and get away from the boyfriend. I doubt she ever will until she is beaten within an inch of her life. Some battered women get the Stockholm Syndrone where they love their captors and actually stick up for them. What gets me is the great grandchildren are suffering through all of this. There are way too many people living in that studio apt. I am sure the nice people at the county would like to know that as there are housing density laws and they are obviously breaking them. Had this been in my county, the county people would be out there pronto and make sure the children were not living like that. The fact she has a car that is illegal will surely have her pulled to the curb soon by the police shortly. She is way, way too mixed up right now to listen to you. You obviously have your head on straight from what I can ascertain. She doesn't. You probably will hear from her from jail calling you for bail money. If she does not ask for your help at this point after you have offered it to her, she does not want your help. She has to do a lot of growing up right now and learn the world the hard way. The best thing you can do is to love her unconditionally (as you have) and hope she comes to her senses very soon.