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starlite1 · Jun 10, 2008, 08:10 AM

Hi Tiamo,

Absolutely! And I know how you feel. We all go through breakups, but of course this is always one (hopefully no more than that) which really hearts us the most. And, because of the intense hurt that we feel, that means that we know how to love.

starlite1 · Jun 10, 2008, 08:12 AM

By the way, I just sent him a text. I broke my NC. (I haven't gotten a response yet) I know it was most likely really dumb of me, but I did it...

cant breathe · Jun 10, 2008, 08:21 AM

Don't give yourself such a hard time you are trying to reach out to him as you think he is the one that can solve all your problems right now and make all the hurt go away but... even if he does answer there are deep issues that haven't been resolved and you don't know if they ever can be given your past experiences with him. It's hard to miss him especially when you have the depth of feelings for him that you obviously have. Try to be strong and not get too upset if he doesn't reply.

damaged · Jun 10, 2008, 08:34 AM

STAR you were doing so good... what happened?.
Just be strong.. you may not get a response you'll like(if you get a response at all).. but try to keep NC.. anyways we're here when you need us

starlite1 · Jun 10, 2008, 08:39 AM

Originally Posted by damaged

STAR you were doing soo good...what happened??...
Just be strong..you may not get a response you'll like(if you get a response at all)..but try to keep NC..anyways we're here when you need us

Thank you Damaged, you are all the best, and truly are my saving grace. I know I screwed my NC up... hopefully it will be positive though, but I have to be strong.. regardless.

How are you doing today?

damaged · Jun 10, 2008, 08:43 AM

Today has been a good day... so far so good...
Remember regardless of what happens you got to be strong

starlite1 · Jun 10, 2008, 08:49 AM

Thank you. I may ask all of you for a tissue just in case... or a kick in the a$$, or both :rolleyes:

JBeaucaire · Jun 10, 2008, 08:52 AM

Originally Posted by starlite1

By the way, I just sent him a text. I broke my NC. (I haven't gotten a response yet) I know it was most likely really dumb of me, but I did it...

Karen, don't make me come over there..

starlite1 · Jun 10, 2008, 08:53 AM

Originally Posted by JBeaucaire

Karen, don't make me come over there....!

LOL!! JB you are great! And I love Stephen Colbert!

damaged · Jun 10, 2008, 09:16 AM

Lol... you guys are too much :D

Chery · Jun 10, 2008, 04:49 PM

Originally Posted by starlite1

Thank you. I may ask all of you for a tissue just in case...or a kick in the a$$, or both :rolleyes:

I don't kick any more, but I have loads of tissues and lots and lots of Virtual Hugs available 24/7.

So, you had a weak moment, no biggy, it will give you insight one way or the other as to what next step to take. You're only human and we do tend to grab at straws. Ahh, emotions versus animal instinct, that's what distinguishes us from all other species.

We are here for you hon.

starlite1 · Jun 10, 2008, 05:26 PM

Thank you Chery, Thank you everyone..

Well, It's 8:23 pm est Tues. night, and I didn't get a response from my ex. I am heart broken, but it's my own fault. Well, I guess he didn't change at all. I hope I do.

tiamokiss · Jun 10, 2008, 10:00 PM

Originally Posted by starlite1

Hi Tiamo,

Absolutly! And I know how you feel. We all go through breakups, but of course this is always one (hopefully no more than that) which really hearts us the most. And, because of the intense hurt that we feel, that means that we know how to love.

Why did u send a text message, just don't! :eek:

starlite1 · Jun 11, 2008, 06:01 AM

Hi Tiamo,

I know, I caved. But... he called last night, and we had a very nice, light conversation (not about us persay or the relationship), and he still wants me to come to the concert it just depends on his work schedule because he is a consultant and is in another state at the moment for work. But he said he will juggle the time and see if he can work from home then. We shall see... It was just beautiful to talk to him... so we shall see... (he did say 'I love you' before ending the call)

tiamokiss · Jun 11, 2008, 09:23 AM

Originally Posted by starlite1

Hi Tiamo,

I know, I caved. But...he called last night, and we had a very nice, light conversation (not about us persay or the relationship), and he still wants me to come to the concert it just depends on his work schedule because he is a consultant and is in another state at the moment for work. But he said he will juggle the time and see if he can work from home then. We shall see... It was just beautiful to talk to him...so we shall see....(he did say 'I love you' before ending the call)

What kind of "I LOVE U" does it sound like? u need to know! Okay hunni becareful this time, don't rush for your own good :)

Chery · Jun 11, 2008, 02:55 PM

Hi sweet, Tiamokiss is right in suggesting you be cautious.
If and when he does come around, please try your very best to keep it platonic (easier said than done, I know), but you also know that he will probably 'jump' any chance he gets and then go on his way without a second thought - until next time he needs a 'free ride' and does not want to waste time in the preliminaries.

Again, you know I don't paint fantasies, just like I see it, BUT will be here if you 'couldn't help yourself' again, as in the past. Men do count on their magnatism and skills to get what they want.

Be careful.

starlite1 · Jun 12, 2008, 05:54 AM

Originally Posted by tiamokiss

What kind of "I LOVE U" does it sound like?, u need to know!! okay hunni becareful this time, don't rush for ur own good :)

Thank you Tiamo and Chery,

He sounded geniune, but, I am still going to be real cautious. I would LOVE to get back with him, but if I do go there for the concert, I am going to play cool, and if and when the moment is right, and I feel that he also wants to talk (like a signal, a segway) I am going to lay it all out...

The question I have now is how do I talk with him without sounding needy or pushy?

f104 · Jun 12, 2008, 06:37 AM

He sounds rather mean to me. I feel for you though as a broken heart is one of the hardest things there is to bear.

starlite1 · Jun 12, 2008, 07:19 AM

Originally Posted by f104

He sounds rather mean to me. I feel for you though as a broken heart is one of the hardest things there is to bear.

Hi F104,

Thank you very much. He can be, that is for sure. I don't think he even realizes it though. That is the sad part... It is so, so hard... and I have put my heart and soul into this relationship and into him...

Chery · Jun 12, 2008, 04:08 PM

Originally Posted by starlite1

Thank you Tiamo and Chery,

He sounded geniune, but, I am still going to be real cautious. I would LOVE to get back with him, but if I do go there for the concert, I am going to play cool, and if and when the moment is right, and I feel that he also wants to talk (like a signal, a segway) I am going to lay it all out...

The question I have now is how do I talk with him without sounding needy or pushy?

It's in the attitude and appearance.. so, what are you going to wear, and what are you going to say?

Try it out here and pretend you're giving someone else the same advice..

We are a good sounding board. So, go for it..

Your first question to yourself could be: 'what's in it for ME?'