[damaged]

Its because like JB said... he wants to leave a foot in your door.. he doesn't want you, but doesn't want you to move on because he wants you as a backup... tell him straight up to leave you the f**** alone(you have tried to be nice, it hasn't worked) & move on with your life.. change your number if necessary, do w.e it takes to get this guy off your back!.

[mrchef1110]

The answer to that doesn't matter at this point he made himself clear that he doesn't want to be with you. Period. If he wanted to be with you he would be with you. I know this sounds harsh but you need to take time for you now. Do things you like to do and stop worrying about him as he is no longer your concern.

He is using manipulative behavior to toy with your emotions. Now let me ask you if you loved somebody would you want them to hurt more than they have to? The answer is no of course not. So you answered your own question and in so doing came to the real question here as JB so eloquently put it.

Do you want to be his back up that he keeps on a string or do you want to move on and be some other guys dream girl?

[Chery]

WARNING, WARNING, WARNING!!

From Feb... when you wanted a little space, he left angry, and you wanted him back,so he gave you a taste again to teach you a lesson. Now.. to Jun.. He loves the control he has over you and will not quit!

I've read it all dear, and it reminds me so much of the abusive control freaks some men wind up being.

Eventually, these guys get what they want because you remember the good parts and once they have you alone, don't be surprised if you get paid back by abusive words first, then bang, you find yourself in a hospital or worse.

I would get a restraining order on him, tell him to stay out of your range and space - or he will pay.

I'm serious - this guy is DANGEROUS. He cannot and will not take no for an answer and is only out to be in total control.

The stronger you act toward him the more deterined he will be to weaken you - and he will break you if you don't do something that will put him in his place - and you will not be able to do it by yourself. He is stalking you, threatening you by showing up at any time, any place either in person or via other communication. He is obsessed with you now and the only way you will be free of him is to get help.

Please tell all your friends and family what has been going on - and since he's been at your workplace, let someone there know also. The only safety you'll get now is in numbers and the law.

So, you wasted 6 months, and a bit more, but please don't waste your 'life' on him. Change your habits so that he cannot catch you alone at any time until you get the legal wheel rolling. Chuck this up to a mistake, but make darned sure you stay alive to make your next one - as we all make mistakes in our lives and learn from them - that's human.

You need some peace of mind now or he will continuously control your life - and you must decide if you need the further stress and worse, or if you want a future without looking over your shoulder all the time.

From Feb until June, he has had a lot of time to get over you, or plan on his way of 'handling' you.. guess who is crazy enough to go through with his plans, and only he knows what they are - do you really want to find out the hard way?? I hope not.

Please take your next step into serious consideration with the support of your family and friends, and good luck.

I've visited too many homes for battered women and too many broken bodies and ended lives to ignore such signals - hope you don't have to see half of what I've seen in my life.

[j-keter]

It sound's like he only want you. When he no your getting no with your live. There a very true saying you only want what you can't have.