[bigbird213]

Sorry Starby, didn't mean that to be biased.

I guess I was thinking with my relationship in mind, that's why it came across that way. I guess the way it should be put is that the opposites of the people who end up here at AMHD tend to do this :)

[talaniman]

Well it looks like I'm the only one that applied for the job Tal. Does that mean I have it?? :p LOL! :cool:

Sure, but you don't get paid until RickJ, shows up in a big ole van.

Warning: pint sized terrorists lurking in the area.

[jrebel7]

She lied. She betrayed your trust.


It was no mistake, and she isn't sad, she is mad because you refuse to play her games, and that gets my respect for you.

Tal, "CONGRATULATIONS" on making the 1,000,000 post! :p I tried to rate answer earlier when you were first notified about it but it said I had to share with others first.

Loved this post. You are dead on. It isn't easy to take a stand sometimes but I respect him for doing so also.

[Fixer12]

My ex and I do not live in the same state... currently I am living 2000 miles away from her... soon the best I can do is be 300 miles away. She will text me almost once a week saying how much she misses me and wants to be with me. I alwas tell her that I want to be back with her, but to her she just doesn't want to do it because of the distance. She will go back and forth and say she still wants to be with me.
I am not going to go back to living in the same town with her because I have no reason too. She has done a lot to hurt me. I want to let go, and just not talk to her anymore, but I don't want to hurt her. I am also scared of not having her in my life anymore. I have been a lot more confident over the months of not having her around. I do miss her from time to time, but I need to decide on something to do. What do I tell her? I am tired of her leading me on saying things that she loves me every week. THen once she has something to do she won't talk to me. Any suggestions on what I should do?

[ylaira]

Love is also an action word. Since you feel you don't deserve what your getting and your very much apart, it should be a lot easier for you to move on. Say your goodbye piece and stand firm on it. Keep all the contacts off. Change numbers, delete her number, don't respond.

[talaniman]

Given the good advise you have given others, you can follow your own advice and be okay!

Why are you still listening to her, knowing there is no going back??

HINT-Starts with NO... and ends in... CONTACT!

[ylaira]

[QUOTE=talaniman]Given the good advise you have given others, you can follow your own advice and be okay! QUOTE]

Doctors can't even cure themselves.

[Fixer12]

I agree. Should I tell her that we can't talk and can't be together anymore? Or do I just not talk to her anymore in general and never say a thing?
I have tried to tell her once before that I think we shouldn't talk anymore, or anything, she just makes me feel like a bad person and gets upset with me. Not that I blame her. But it keeps e back from doing what I say.

[Chery]

Honey, get real. This has no future and you know it. You liked/loved her once and changed your mind, so what.You just don't see a future with her or in any town nearer to her. That's life.

Think a moment, if the shoe was on the other foot, wouldn't you want to be respected enough to have her be truthful and tell you it's over. So stop being a chicken - do what you have to do and get on with your life while also giving her a chance to start a new chapter in her's.

You have no control over what she will do after that and should not feel guilty. She is an adult and in charge of her life, and she will take measures to accept the rejection and start her healing process. But this can only happen if you are straight and end it properly

We all make mistakes and learn from them... so now it's time you learn to be upfront and not fearful of hurting feelings - it happens to all of us.

[talaniman]

Why is she doing this?
A- because you let her!

I think I just told another poster, to love himself more than he loved her and never let someone steamroll over you, just because you have feelings for them.

She may well be upset with you but, what's more important at this time, her being upset, or you healing, and moving on? Disappear from her life, and stop talking to her in any form, and let her be mad, and get over it. You must heal, and get over her. YOU COME FIRST!

If she wants someone to talk to, she has girlfriends!

[Romefalls19]

No thinking needed Tal, you did because I just was on that post ha ha. But once again, you have hit the nail on the head.

If you don't think you are getting what you deserve from someone, then let it go. You know it won't work, so just push her out of your life, let it die.

[clm9944]

I had a boy friend like that and I would feel so happy to hear from him and then heart broke soon afterwards. He was just leading me on for who knows what reason but I thought it was very cruel. Eventually I couldn't deal with the games anymore and I lied to him and told him I found someone else, who made me happier than he ever did. He never called me again.

[Fixer12]

I decided after having a somewhat clear head to get back my once deleted myspace and face my fears head on. I am talking to my Ex again, and I still have some feelings for her, but I am all right with that.
How can I stay friends with her while not getting to close?
She had texted me and gave me comments just joking around, yes we said we missed one another, but what do I do now?
Last text I had heard from her she was at a movie (I am guessing with another guy). I am just ready to accept things the way they are. I miss her, but I don't want to respark things, but I also don't want to see things on her profile that could get me upset.
What type of barriers should I set up?
I had gone without talking to her, and it was just hard in general because we both still knew we wanted to know more about what was going on in one anothers lives.
Any advice?
Thanks everyone

[erin7799]

It doesn't sound like you're all right with having feelings for her still. It sounds like you want to get rid of those feelings or you wish things would be different. You should probably give yourself some time without her. Do your own thing and don't worry yourself with her and what she's doing. And if she's going to make you upset by what's on her profile then you need to not look at it. You should distance yourself from her for a little while and get over that " I don't want to be without her" phase. Sometimes it's that we want something sooo badly but we can't make them want us. We can't control the situation and it makes us want it even more. Good Luck to You!

[Fixer12]

I am going to try my best not to look, I just want everything to be at rest

[Romefalls19]

If you still have feelings, it's best to stay away from the myspace. That place is the devil of all break ups, all it does is make you suspect every little comment or bulletin. I went 5 months without looking at my exes if that helps

[erin7799]

If you want this all to go away and take care of itself then you need to let her alone. And make it clear to her as well. But you have to follow through with it. If not you'll just be hurting yourself.

[Fixer12]

This one girl that I really like claims that she really likes me back. We have gone a couple of months doing this, and quite frankly I am getting tired of it. She will text me saying she really wants to be with me. I agree and start talking to her about what it would take for us to be together. (Because I will not see her or quite some time because of where I currently live, at most 2 months).
Every time after we start telling each other how much we miss one another she always need's to go, no matter what she is doing. If she is just sitting around she claims she needs to take a nap. I ask her if she can stay up a bit longer so we can finish talking about what is going to happen, just just get's upset and says things like, " i need to take a nap i am tired and if i don't i am about to go off on you!" It usually ends with me saying. OK. And giving in. Every time we start making a choice about what is going to happen, she always has to go to sleep or can never tell me what she wants.
I am getting really tired of playing this game, and when I tell her this she thinks I am the one freaking out because all she wants to do is sleep and talk about it later.
How am I supposed to react to this with getting her to realize that I'm not doing anything wrong? That she is the one doing something wrong?

[progunr]

I say she is playing you.

Start ignoring her, stop letting her be so aware of how much you are into her, stop making a big deal out of her needing a nap.

Next time she says I got to go, just say, OK, I had a couple of other people to talk to anyway, see you, and sign off or hang up.

Her reaction to this type of response will give you a little more insight as to what she is really up to.

[Fixer12]

I am just getting tired of being seen as a bad guy you know? I want her to realize that she needs to talk to me and take the time to do it.
She thinks that I get annoying and am driving her crazy, just cause for once I want to figure things out...