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ckone · Jun 3, 2008, 04:28 PM

So I started dating this guy who had always been very into me. We dated for about six months and I was not in any way looking for a commitment and he knew that. For the most part, I can say that I was way out of his league. I'm 26, blonde blue eyes athletic, smart, funny- the whole package. He is 30, and a pretty inexperienced shy guy who did not date very often. I, on the other hand, am very social and attractive. Our first few dates were great and we clicked immediately. We ended up having sex one night and in my opinion it wasn't that great, but I didn't say anything. The sex continued to be kind of awkward, but we were so great with everything else that I didn't pay too much attention to it. I felt it was due to his lack of experience, so I never made a big deal out of it. However, after the first time we had sex, his calls lessened to a routine once a day, and we began seeing each other only about once a week; he always had other plans with other friends. In all my relationships, the guy has always ended up wanting to spend as much time with me as possible. I was getting irritated and told him that I didn't think I could keep dating someone who had so many other priorities and that I wanted time to hang out with him. He replied saying that I was right and he was acting like a jerk, but that he understands. He didn't even try to step up to the plate and fix it, rather he just gave up why? Also, if I had not said anything he probably would have just continued like this forever. What gives? I've never had anything like this happen before and I've dated many people in the past, It's driving me mad

Fr_Chuck · Jun 3, 2008, 04:31 PM

Mos likely he has come to assume he is out of your league. Most likely he decided he would rather be with someone of the same interst who did not think to highly of thierself.

bushg · Jun 3, 2008, 04:39 PM

Maybe he just wanted to have sex with you, some guys are like that whether you consider them to be in your league or not. That seems like the logical answer, since he backed off after the sex. Maybe he did not find it that enjoyable either.

JBeaucaire · Jun 3, 2008, 05:44 PM

I know this is a blow to your view of your "desirablity", but maybe that will be helpful in the end.

In the future, make sure you only date the kinds of guys that have nothing else in their life and can focus fully on you and your 'needs'. There are plenty of guys like that, not the healthiest apples in the barrel, but they're out there.

Good luck with that.

liz28 · Jun 5, 2008, 02:35 PM

I think that most of the relationships you had wa surrounded by you and guys did what made you happy but relationship are a two way street wher both parties involved need to have their needs meet. He probulary knew how you were on your actions and instead of breaking it off he backed away and was looking for an exit and happy you gave him the lea way.