[nova225]

Why do parents have unconditional love for spoiled brats like my older brother. I have to admit that I'm spoiled too, but I don't act like a brat an I rather work for to earn my money. He is 20 years old(soon to be 21), and so disrespectful to everyone in our house, but they still do things for him. He curses my mother, father, and me out daily. He always say he wishes my father die, and he once told my mother that he wish she died on the surgery table. He has had 3 cars in at least 2 years, and the last car he had my dad gave it to him and he ran in the back of someone on purpose. He can't get or keep a job, and he has a 3 year old son that my mom and dad takes care of. I can go on an on about all the things he has done to my mother, father, and me, but you'll be here forever. I just wanted to know why are my parents like this, and are there any other parents who let their kids do anything they want.

(Maybe he acts out like this because my father wasn't really around when we were little, but I don't act like that.)

If I was to do what he does... they might feel like the world is coming to an end.

Life is so unfair!!

[rnfowl]

Your parents may have higher expectations for you because they know you are much different than your brother. I can't speak for them but when my first born was home... I was rocking her and began singing to my own tune "no matter what you ever say, no matter what you ever do, I will always, always love you." I sang this over and over. It is purely unconditional love. She is 7 and my son 3. I still sing it to them.

[JoeCanada76]

You will understand unconditional love when you become a parent yourself one day.

Each individual is different and each deals with life differently.

You need to be thankful that you are the way you are and actually try to look past your brothers behaviour and show him some compassion yourself.

Can not expect everybody to act the same way, and obviously there is a lot of anger and resentment going on. Let your parents deal with it the way they want, weather it works or not.

I do understand it is not fair, about people being treated differently. I have a younger sister and my parents treated her completely different then me. It is not fair but you can not control how your parents treat siblings.

Just continue doing what you think is important and you will be a stronger person because of it.