[strider]

I have had one of the most terrible childhoods you can ever imagine. My father used to abuse us verbally with such language that it's hard to imagine. But he abuses my mom the most.The worst part is I have been able to support myself since college and have gotten away from him but my mom still suffers because of him. She's becoming an emotional wreck. Even I'm getting disillusioned with life steadily. I've asked my mom to get away and come and stay with me. But she's afraid to do it for she thinks it can wreck my sister's marriage potential. I'm totally powerless and helpless. I just sit down and weep. I haven't been able to do anything for my mom. I want to protect her from my dad who is a monster. I don't know what to do. I even stopped believing in God because I sometimes feel even he's not helping me.

[j_troubadour]

It's times like this when you have to believe in God. If your mother won't leave and your father isn't changing then the only thing you can do is ask God to protect your mother. The reality of life is we can't change the situations we are in. What we can do is rely on God to get us through. It's not our situations that define us... but who we are on the other side. Don't let this shake your faith in God. Let this make your faith in him stronger because he is the only one that can help your Mom. Stay strong and keep praying.
-j

[Choux]

One of the hardest lessons to learn in life, and consequently not learned enough, is that you can't save your mother from her own decisions.

You have to emotionally disengage from your parent's and siblings situation and go ahead with your own life. You are an adult now, and you are responsible for yourself and your own happiness. You are not required to let the emotional quagmire that is your mother's chosen life to take you under with depression/sadness or worse.

Life is very difficult for all people... it takes a lot of courage to get through it with happiness as well as times of suffering.

Nothing would please your mother more than to see you making a positive life for yourself and succeeding despite having such an unfortunate father. That is the best gift you could ever give her.

Best wishes, very best wishes.

[CLQ]

If she won't stay with you, why not come to her. Or go to the police, it's time like these where you choose between your mum or dad. You may love him but what about ma?