[srulik86]

I went to see my girlfriend last night and I just started becoming really cold towards her to the point wher ei asked what the time was, she told me, then I got up and left. I then knockd to come back and she was so upset with me she couldn't even kiss me or hug me properly. I don't know why I did it. Well I do... im paranoid she's going to leave me... stupid I know. I then left and I just text her asking if we're OK and apologising for being such a . But she hasn't rpeied and I don't think she will. I think this is it. I think she will end it now. I'm so sad, because I love her to bits and I have no idea why I act like that sometimes. I'm so angry with myself. What should I do. I only sent one text and if she doesn't rpely by tonight ill call her later, but I don't think she'll reply or answer. Basically this all stems from a dream I had about her on Monday night, which really unsettled me. Then I found out that my best mate who is very hot and single had been chating to her online the night before... they don't ever talk in real life. It all seemed very flirty. Then she has been a bit cold. I went to re-add her on Facebook but notcied she had untagged every photo with me and her in it and so this upset me. And because of all of this I have just felt so unsettles the last couple of days. Am I a complete moron? What do I do now?

[nickshehe]

You let the emotions and nerves settle before you approach her again.. You sent her a message and you apologized - that's all you can do now. She clearly doesn't want to talk to you at the moment, you were being a drama queen and she may have just had enough.. The worse thing you can do now is call her and be more of a drama queen with apologizing and crying or whatever. You apologized - she got it.
Let her calm down and approach you when it's time.. Give it a day or two - don't call her tonight..

[srulik86]

I stupidly tetx her again saying 'i know your busy but when you get the chance could you text or call me please because your all I can think about right now and its driving me insane to be honest'. I can't believe I did this again. This is exactly what killed our erelationshipo the first time round. Me being such a drama queen. All I want to do is hld her right now and tell her how sorry I am and for her to tell me its OK. Agggggggggh! I'm going insnae. I won't text or call her. I meant to be seeing her on Sunday but I can't see that happening now. I was hoping to see her tomorrow night also. But I know how much I really fuct her off last night with my attitude. I know I really upset her. I think its her time of the month also... not that that's an excuse but I think that obviously isn't making her feel any better, I'm just going insane here. I know once she calms down she'll want to talk to me... maybe. I mena if she wanted to be with me as she said, I know she will... well I hope we'll be OK. But I don't know, I've been getting the feeling that she's been having regrets about us getting back together and sinc ethen I've been really paranoid, hence the way I reacted last night. I can't believe I did that. I hate myself right now. I'm out to the theatre tonight but I know I won't beable to focus on anything unless I've heard from her. She'll prob text me just before she goes to bed tonight. I just hope I haven't pushed her away.

[nickshehe]

Put your phone away. Don't take it with you. Also, don't expect a text.. When you aren't waiting around for something to happen things can't get worse...
Don't be too hard on yourself we're all human and we all make mistakes.. You've been around here long enough to know that the more you pressure her in this position that she is the more she is prone to turn and run..
Let the emotion settle and calm down.. You apologized again after I suggested you probably shouldn't. Once was enough - now you added drama to the drama which we're trying to avoid..
Wait this one out and see where it takes you.. but TRUST me.. don't chase her.. DONT CONTACT her until she makes a step.
Keep us updated.

[srulik86]

Well I just deletaed her number, text messages etc... so I have no way of contacting her now. So I'm just going to have to leave it and wiat it out. I know that I really upset her last night and I know it wanst her fault although it was because of the photos that I got upset. Anywhew nothing I can do now. Just have to get on with my life without her and hope she comes back which I don't think she'll do.

[Romefalls19]

Getting upset at something as little as untagged photos on a stupid networking site is extremely childish. You had the girl, you acted like a D because you felt threatened by another guy "stepping on your toes" If she wanted to leave you, she would have, regardless of what you do or say. Quite acting like a b*tch, the blame all falls on you this time. You tried to play the head game with her and she didn't want to have it. She chose to be with you, not your mate. Who cares if she "untagged" photos. Has it really come to the point where a relationship is dictated by what's on the internet?

Don't call, don't write, don't text, nothing, zip, nada, let the dust settle. If she comes around so be it, if not, it wasn't meant to be.

[srulik86]

Your right. I was such a little . I just got to accept it now.

[bEaUtIfUlbRuNeTtE]

Getting upset at something as little as untagged photos on a stupid networking site is extremely childish. You had the girl, you acted like a D because you felt threatened by another guy "stepping on your toes" If she wanted to leave you, she would have, regardless of what you do or say. Quite acting like a b*tch, the blame all falls on you this time. You tried to play the head game with her and she didn't want to have it. She chose to be with you, not your mate. Who cares if she "untagged" photos. Has it really come to the point where a relationship is dictated by what's on the internet?

Don't call, don't write, don't text, nothing, zip, nada, let the dust settle. If she comes around so be it, if not, it wasn't meant to be.

Well Romey, I was going to give you a greenie but it said I needed to spread some reputation first.

Any who, I totally agree with this answer. It is 100% accurate and true.

[Romefalls19]

Ha ha well beautiful, thanks for the thought, I appreciate it. This website is funny about spreading the rep around for some reason.

[talaniman]

Don't call, don't write, don't text, nothing, zip, nada, let the dust settle. If she comes around so be it, if not, it wasn't meant to be.

Excellent solution to your problem. Me, I disappear from her life, and get myself together.

[Romefalls19]

Exactly Tal, no reason to stick around when the other person obviously showed they don't want you around

[srulik86]

Well she just dumped me. By ing text! After all we've been thorugh. She dumped me by text! That's how much I must mean to her! I'm heart broken again!

[Romefalls19]

Sru, I know how you feel. After 2 1/2 years my ex broke up with me over text as well. It's definitely a tough pill to swallow. But looking back(5 months ago) I realize just how cowardly it was and furthers my reasoning behind NC with her. I was asked by one of her friends if I would ever consider talking to her again. I politely told her, I would consider it but not at this time. There is nothing left to say on my side and I don't really want to hear her justifications for anything.

[srulik86]

For some werid reason I could just see it coming. I don't know why but I just could. Maybe I pushed it into that because I thought it was coming. But if she really loved me she wudnt have endedit just because I made one big mistake/. She made so many mistakes last term, playing with my head over and over. Obviously this just wanst meant to be. I will miss her. But I know its time. It also felt quite stale... like we weren't moving forward. I just could see it coming in a werid way. Oh well. I'm only young.

[bEaUtIfUlbRuNeTtE]

for some werid reason i could just see it coming. i dont knwo why but i just cud. maybe i pushed it into that coz i thought it was coming. but if she really loved me she wudnt have endedit just coz i made one big mistake/. she made so many mistakes last term, playing with my head over and over. obviously this just wanst menat to be. i will miss her. but i know its time. it also felt quite stale...like we werent moving forward. i just could see it coming in a werid way. oh well. im only young.

Someone can love you but not feel it necessary to be with you due to circumstances.

Maybe she felt that the relationship was going no where because of your lack of trust or jealousy. I know plenty of people that still love their exes but couldn't be with them because they felt like nothing was going right in their relationship.

Instead of looking at this break up as a 'her fault, his fualt' kind of deal, look at it as a lesson. Now it's time for you to change as a person. You know what you like and don't like. Find a person that fits your needs. Learn from it, not dwell on it.

[bEaUtIfUlbRuNeTtE]

Thank you for the greenie!

:) :) :)

[srulik86]

She text me and said 'your paranoia is the reason we kep spitting up before and I had to see if it would happen again' I said 'but you get paranoid only not as dramaticaly as me. Can't you ust calm down... give ita couple of days and think because do you really want to thow all this away for just one bad flaw of mine which I haven't had in ages and you know that. We'll miss each other in a couple of days. Please don't just throw all this away.' but I think she's pretymuch decided. Although this happens every time and she comes back a couple of weeks later... only differecne now is that we won't se each oteh aornd anymoe because I've just finsihed college. So I will be easie to get over each other. But sdy this is it. Its over. I'm so sad.

[talaniman]

Sorry for your loss, and I hope you work on your issues for the betterment of you.

[bEaUtIfUlbRuNeTtE]

I didn't steal it from anyone :)

[squeaks77]

"am i a complete moron?"
Yes, but you will grow out of it.