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    Apr 25, 2008, 10:01 PM
    Interested. Or not? Done being?
    So, I met this guy who's about three years older than me through mutual friends on myspace. I had actually met him once before a couple years ago, but we didn't really remember. Anyway, after talking online for a while, last night we finally hung out, and had sex. Today he was online but IMed me about something I wrote about me losing my keys... he asked if I did and maybe they were in his car and blah blah, I was so nervous so I kept words to a minimum, and he didn't send anything else after the last IM. Was he just trying to be nice? Or are things awkward because neither of us know what to say? I know having sex with him so early was a mistake because I do have a crush on him, but now I'm worried he thinks I'm a slut and we'll just stop talking. What do I do? Does the three day rule apply to online stuff too? Is "so, you lost your keys?" an attempt to talk or just a little contact to be nice? He is nice and shy I think, he also assured me that he didn't care if I wasn't super skinny and he wasn't shallow. UGH. It's just all confusing. Thoughts? What should I be doing that would really work in my favor?
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    Apr 26, 2008, 06:16 AM
    Well it can be anything, many guys will go out and see if they can "score" and if they do, lose interest. Does he have another girlfriend ?
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    Apr 26, 2008, 06:58 AM
    I think you are reading way too much into nothing. He isn't avoiding you or anything like that so just take it as it comes and try to calm your nerves a little.
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    Apr 26, 2008, 08:40 AM
    He got what he wanted, and will be back when he wants more.
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    Apr 26, 2008, 11:05 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by Fr_Chuck
    well it can be anything, many guys will go out and see if they can "score" and if they do, lose interest. Does he have another girlfriend ?
    He does not have another girlfriend, he is looking for someone to date right now I'm almost 100% sure.
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    Apr 26, 2008, 06:25 PM
    Some insight in the situation...
    I REALLY liked a girl.. online thing - much like yours.. we never hung out.. but I was so into her it was unbelievable.. I went to go see some old friends and I knew she was going to be there.. we ended up almost having sex.. she wanted to have sex and we could have, but that would mean I had to ditch my friends.. and I automatically thought.. (ok if she's that easy on the first night,ill just go out with my friends tonight and I can continue where we left off tomorrow - kind of sleezy I know,I'm sorry,I'm being honest).. anw.. point of the story is that she automatically deteorated(spelling? Too lazy :/) from my eyes, as I had her quite highly in my books , almost instantly.. so yes - you made a mistake by sleeping with him so quickly if you intended on having something more serious with him..
    I know I haven't given you advice on this, I don't know what to say really ;/ just adding insight.
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