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hotmum · Apr 25, 2008, 09:17 PM

Hi all,

I would like to hear your thoughts on this. I am divorced from my ex with 2 kids. Out of nowhere I get a call from my ex boyfriend whom I had not spoken to in over 15yrs. We were very excited to talk to each other. We talked for about 2weeks mostly calls initiated by me. He returned the calls on time when he said he would. He is going through med sch and always complained of being tired but I am not sure if he is just making excuses. I stopped sech him and he called to give me a message fro someone. That was the last time I talk to him. 6 months later he calls after I sent group emails to everyone on my mailing list including him. He has called 2x and I have missed both calls. He left a message 1x. My question is should I call him back or not. I really really like him and he knows but I do not want him to see me as being desperate. It has been almost a week I am tempted to call but I want him to call again if he is iterested. I am doing the right thing, he may think I am ignoring him but I believe that if he wants me he will call. When we talked b/4 he told me he likes me and we talked about rekindlig our relationship and he seemed OK about the kids. He has a child from a previous relationship. I do not know what to think, I am cofused. Any imput will be appreciated.

talaniman · Apr 25, 2008, 10:20 PM

It has been almost a week I am tempted to call but I want him to call again if he is interested.

He sounds unreliable, and if I were you, I wouldn't talk to him, unless he was interested enough to get in touch with you. Chasing after a guy isn't worth it, and that does send a desperate, needy type of message, no matter how much you may like him. I bet he has changed quit a bit, so be cautious.

duck22 · Apr 26, 2008, 06:12 AM

I am going to play devils advocate on talan's post. Maybe he is reluctant to call again for the same reason your not calling him. I mean he called you twice and even left a message. He might just think you are not interested in him since you did not return any of his calls.

I do not see the harm in calling him back. If your nervous then maybe try calling him at a time where your sure he will not pick up (like during of his classes in med school). Leave a short message something along the lines of "hey sorry I missed your call last week I was had a lot going on, give me call me back and we can catch up." It does not have to be exactly that but I think you get my point. If you put the ball back in his field he will have to make the next move. If he doesn't, then you know your answer.