
Originally Posted by
komalsinha
well i know this guy for 6 months now........& i fall in love with him...........however he never proposed to me but confess that he likes me...........but i dont know why he is afraid of my parents without any certain reason.......every time i tell him that my parents are not that conservative or strict..........but he just can't understand..........probably this is the reason of his dealy in proposing me........i really love him...........can anybody please tell me how to deal with situation????
i am reallt tensed & need your help..........he is my first love and i dont want to loose him..........
Hello dear. What I see here is your confusion. Maybe you are expecting too much too fast, whether your parents are conservative or strict, or easy-going.. in my opinion YOU are the one who is tense. No matter if in teens or twenties, it is not logical to expect a proposal within 6 months. Also, when asking a man to 'meet' the family, it is sending a signal (to most of them) that you expect him to integrate and accept you in his life forever. That kind of pressure is not what a guy expects when he is just getting to know you and like you first. He does not need to feel that he is invited into your 'nest' so that he can see how you eventually expect him to 'settle' down.
You are still young, and should be enjoying other places, events, entertainment, and just a safe neutral environment to get to know each other and talk about anything under the sun.
So, if you really like this guy, don't pressure him and don't place him in the center of your emotional universe so fast. If you keep this up, you might chase him away before you even get to know if you really have a future together.
Just remember that 'all good things come to those who wait' - and it certainly applies when it comes to building a relationship and growing together.
He might be the right one for you, but then again he might not.. it takes a lot of time once you get over the 'first love' feeling. We all had our first loves, but for some of us it was not meant to be our only love - that rarely happens anymore, no matter how much we wish it to happen.
Just go a little slower, dear and be patient. I wish you all the best, and keep us posted.