I now this is really long so if you don't want to read it all please at least read the last four paragraphs/sentences and answer those questions, please

My boyfriend and I broke up about a month ago, it was a very enexpected breakup, and he never gave me any signs that he was at all unhappy or wanted to break up, then he stopped calling me for about 4 days so I called him but he didn't answer so I left a message to call me back, but he still didn't so I called him back the next day I called again but he didn't answer so I left a message that said I'm really confused and I need to know what's going on, so that's when he called me back at like 11 at night and said he wants to stop seeing each other, cause he wasn't ready for a stedy girlfriend, and he was really bussy with working, going to his parties, his buddies, and football practice, and he said maybe we could try again when school starts back up, but I'm not sure if he only said we could try again when school starts cause he didn't want to hurt my feelings or if he just didn't want me to see anyone else till school starts so then he could go back out with me
I really want to get back together with him, and I herd from one of his friends, that I'm kind of friends with, that it seems to him like my ex misses me cause he talks about me a lot and once asked if I was seeing anyone, which I'm not
My question is if my ex does want to get back together with me once school starts will he ask me back out, or do you think he'll be afraid to ask me back out because he thinks ill say no or he thinks I'm mad at him or something

Do you think I should do anything or talk to him first(if so what should I do) or should I let him make the first move

By the way were both 16, we had been going out for 2 months, and we had gone pretty far in our relashonship

Please help me I'm going crazy trying to think of what I'm spos to do

I think if he asks you to get back together you with him tell him to hit the bricks. Someone who tossed outside your relationship and you and acted as though it did not matter is not worth your time. He dumped you so he could be unattached for the summer. He dumped so that whenever he met a girl he could do whatever he wanted with her. He did not think of your feelings at all, why would you give someone like that another chance?

You are 16 dating is supposed to be fun not stressful. If someone does not respect you or treat you right there should be no room for that person in your life. My guess is that you spend the summer mourning the end of your relationship instead of having fun meanwhile he was out have a grand ol' time.

This guy is a jerk. You should find someone who is actually a decent person to date instead of a guy like this.

Listen to me please. Why would you want to get back with a guy that has treated you so disrespectfully?
He stopped calling you, says he does not want to be with you now but maybe later. Don't let some guy keep you hanging like that. Get some pride girl.
He is way gone. I suggest you realize that and go on with your life. Stop mooning over some guy that treated you with such disregard. You're sounding desperate. Stop it! You deserve better.

I know I shouldn't go back out with him, but I just can't help how I feel, we had a really great relationship and we cared a lot about each other and saw each other almost every day and he was very sweet to me and concerned about me and how I was feeling, he treated me like a princess, that's why the breakup was so unexpected so I would really like to find out what was really going on with him but if he did just break up to have his summer flings then I won't go back out with him, but I have to know, so please, do I wait for him to make the first move or do I, cause if we never talk again how do I ever find out what was truthfully going on

Someone please answer my question I could really use at least one answer

You don't need to know what is going on with him. It is NOT important.
Why should it matter? If he considered you important to him then he would have been honest and upfront instead of dodging your phone calls and let you chase him down. When a guy just stops calling it is because he is too much of a coward to be honest with you. Whatever his reason is, it is not favorable to you and honestly you are better off not knowing and moving on with your life. If you insist on knowing answers for why guys do things, then later on it will be even more painful for you. Trust me on that.

The guy is a creep. Get over it. He has disgarded you like yesterday's trash. Why would you even consider going back.

What other possible explanation can there be for what he did? Think about that. Get your head out of the romance cloud and face reality. The guy treated you nice until someone else came along and he will be nice to them until someone new comes a long.
He's a jerk! And there is nothing worse than a jerk who thinks more highly of himself cause he's got some girl begging him for answers.
Don't lower yourself to that.

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I think what your saying is starting to sink in, but its just really hard I think its cause I lost my virginity to him and I allways thought the guy I lost my virginity to would hurt me this badly and our relationship would last longer
People keep telling me I am too young to dwel on this and to move on and find someone new but I don't really know how, I'm mean it took a year before I even went out with my ex, I need some advice, how do I meet new guys, guys I don't know from school or anywhere, you know, someone I see some place like a party or a county fair, how do I approch someone new and maybe flirt with them, ah, how do I flirt too (im asking cause I'm not attracted to anyone at school so I need to meet new people)

The best way for you to meet new people is to go and enjoy doing things. If you have hobbies and interests you will meet people who you have stuff in common with. If you are not involved with any thing outside of school, try something new. Join your local health club, sports leagues, volunteer in your community. Lots of great stuff to help you focus on you so you can forget the ex and meet new people.

I understand. This is why young girls need to really think twice before giving something so precious away. Boys at that age only have one thing on the brain. And it is your most precious possession.
I wish I could wave a magic wand and turn back the clock for you. I can't, but I would advise you to not rush into another relationship. Get your head cleared of this one. Meet some friends, some girl friends. Give yourself time to grow and heal.
I truly wish you the best.

First of all I just signed up on this sight today so I don't really know how it works and when I asked my first question and no one was answering so I thought I did somthin wrong so that's why I posted the question again, I'm really sorry if that made anyone mad, I will just stay on this question, by the way these answers are really helping so please don't stop giving me advice

Anyway

I think what your saying is starting to sink in, but its just really hard I think its cause I lost my virginity to him and I allways thought the guy I lost my virginity to would hurt me this badly and our relationship would last longer
People keep telling me I am too young to dwel on this and to move on and find someone new but I don't really know how, I'm mean it took a year before I even went out with my ex, I need some advice, how do I meet new guys, guys I don't know from school or anywhere, you know, someone I see some place like a party or a county fair, how do I approch someone new and maybe flirt with them, ah, how do I flirt too (im asking cause I'm not attracted to anyone at school so I need to meet new people)

Like I told you in the other section. You don't need to jump into another relationship. Get yourself some girl friends do things and go places with them. You need time to heal from this.
This is one of the problem with girls having sex at so young an ag and with young boys. They have sex on the brain. This guy got what he wanted and moved on. In the meantime, you have lost your treasure.
Take your time. Find someone who is worthy of your body. Don't give it away to some horny teen-aged boy.
Wait until you are older and more mature and you meet a mature caring man..
I wish you the best.

I'm not planing on going out with the first guy I meet, I'm not even planing on trying to meet new guys right now but in the future, what do I do to meet new guys and what do I say to start a conversation, should I go out with a small group of my friends (girls of course) and meet other guys that are hangin in small groups too, what do I do

I think that's generally the best and easiest way for people your age to meet new people. My cousin is 17 and has met her boyfriends through other friends or at her job. Just be yourself. Talk to boys the way you talk to your friends. Ask them questions about themselves, talk about stuff you have in common. The most important thing is to not overthink if you think too much you will find that you come out with zero to say. Though in a group it's a little easier with conversation since there are lots of people to get the conversation going and keep it alive.

Just relax and be yourself. Remember that not every guy is like this jerk. There are some guy out there who will do or say anything to get in your pants. Its not fair and its bad but it is what it is. In the future wait much longer then 2 months to escalate your relationships to that level. If someone really likes you and wants to be with you they will stick around until you are ready to move the relationship to that level. Don't sell yourself short.

Of course you can't help how you feel, but who cares. There are far more important things in life than boys, let alone boys who don't treat you well. Go out and get a hobby or a job and just try not to focus on him. If a relationship can't last two months, don't even bother. Its not like you are going to ever get anywhere with this guy, you will meet hundreds of other guys that you will like much more than this one. Anyway, if its only been 2 months and you have already gone pretty far, it was more of a sexual thing than it was anything else. You will get over it. Accept that you were dumped and wait a few days. That should make things better.

Having sex with him for the first time was about the worst thing you could have done. Because the relationship was so short, I only see two things that could have happened here. First, you guys had sex very soon after the relationship, and he got the impression that even though you gave up your virginity to him, you didn't care enough to wait. He enjoyed the ride and left. The second is that you wouldn't put out until much later in the relationship. He finally got what he wanted and left you there. If it was in the middle of the relationship, I am assuming that it's the second reason. If you didn't have sex with him, he probably would have dumped you anyway.

There are more important things in life than this guy.

Much as it hurts, you have learned a very valuable lesson about what we think is love, and should really take a good look, and make sure of what we do, and who we chose to do it with, and you will go far if you have learned that lesson. It takes time but you will put it behind you as you meet new people and do things that you enjoy, but as you know go slow and not just rush into anything, not even new friends, without knowing what your getting into.