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rr_losthim · Nov 15, 2010, 09:46 AM

He my first love,may be last also... but he does't love me,he think that we are just good friends...
But I loves him since last 6 years,it is to hard to control my feelings for him...
A lots of other boys also likes me,that means I am beautiful,I know I can not get him,but also not forget him...
Now he is saying that his best friend likes me,and you should have to like him,he is such a nice guy,as he says...
But I don't think that I can forget him,but I have to do it... HELP ME MY LIFE LIKE THE HELL NOW...

ironhide262 · Nov 16, 2010, 12:55 AM

Move on and start dating other guys... that may be the one thing that may turn him around and make him notice you more. Go out, go dating, have fun, you will forget about him eventually. Your love for him could be so blatantly obvious that it turns him off. Take it from a guy, girls that hang all over me and make it too easy tend to turn me off.
He may come around but, if he doesn't who cares... wouldn't you rather be in a relationship where you are loved back? It's a million times better I guarantee it! Good luck!

rr_losthim · Nov 17, 2010, 04:33 AM

I was in love with a boy,since last 6 years,at that time my schooling was going on... after completing 12th,he went to another city for higher education,and I was in hometown,our communication has broken,no way to communicate... but I was missing him more than word can say..
2 years passed away,but his memories hurts me every day,more than previous..
After 2 years" he came back"in my life,it just a dream came true...
Then we just join us in a social website as a friend,now that was way for communicating each other... we became more closure from that...

Then after 1 year,I was in same city,where he was,we met once again,he give me his mobile no. our talking on was going on,my best friend was knowing that I am in true love,was decided to "ask him,about me"?
She make a cal to him,and his answer was just unexpected for me,"HE SAYS WE ARE JUST FRIEND"he says she is my good friend,but I am not in love with her... my heart was broken in lots of pieces...

I have decided to not communicate with him any more,. after 15 days he called me,he was just normal just as before...

Now he was get more closure to me,I was happy... because he was treating me some different way,now he getting more friendly with,but "I WAS STILL WAITING THAT HE WILL SAY "I LOVE YOU",

It never happens,.
Now we met most of the time in public,but yesterday he make a call to me,says he want meet me urgently,says me to came in his building,and I was go there... there was nobody in his room,we were just normally talking but after some time,he touches me,2-3 times he put my hand in his hand,and put off the light also,he wants to do SEX with me... but why?he never says that I am his girl friend then how can he do that...
I told him that I can't do that,and move very fast...

Now I feel lots of guilt,I want to be normal as before... help me what should I do.. HELP ME

Devorameira · Nov 17, 2010, 06:57 AM

Right now, he isn't serious about having a committed relationship with you, so you were right to refuse to have sex with I'm.

He probably cares about you, but you two haven't steadily been together long enough for true love to develop.

All you can do is be friends with him and see if anything develops as you spend more and more time together.

steph13 · Nov 17, 2010, 05:43 PM

IThink He Only Wants Sex He Told Your Friend You Guys Were ONLY Friends
Maybe You Guys Should Take Things Slow And Talk About Eachothers Feelings And
Let Him Know How You Feel About Him You Did Good On Not Having Sex With Him.

flowerchildfala · Nov 24, 2010, 04:43 AM

Hun I think you should be very careful! Don't let this guy use you for sex because you two are not dating and if he doesn't say you are a girlfriend or official then yes he is using you! I think you need to stop contacting him and if he loves you he will chase you but otherwise you have to relise that you are an amzing girl and cann't just settle for this guy when you deserve someone who will respect you and not use you. Look at this as a learning experience and yes it will hurt, and you may regret it and feel guilty, it will take a while to heal but try to learn from it and never let it happen again, and relise you are human so you will make mistakes and it is OK!!

rr_losthim · Nov 25, 2010, 10:03 AM

Thanks...
I will try to do this...

talaniman · Nov 25, 2010, 11:27 AM

I think you leave him alone, and get some friends to have fun with, both male, and female. You have been attached to him for far to long, and need to cut attachments to him, and build a life without him, as he doesn't have the same feelings you do, and probably never will.

rr_losthim · Nov 27, 2010, 01:18 AM

It is not simple for me... when ever I want to do it,I saw that he is in any problem,needs my help... and once again... it is a coincident or something else I don't know,I am myself trying to be apart with him... but can't

talaniman · Nov 27, 2010, 11:05 AM

Trust me, I know its not a simple thing to stop an unhealthy attraction. It takes a lot of time, and a lot of work on your part, and may well be the hardest thing you have ever done for yourself. But after all is said and done, you will be much happier about yourself.

rr_losthim · Dec 2, 2010, 08:08 AM

Please give me some tips...
I want to forget him forever,his memories always hurts...
Tell me how to do that,now I want to break all my relations with him...

talaniman · Dec 2, 2010, 12:27 PM

For great tips, read these stickies.

rr_losthim · Dec 3, 2010, 09:04 AM

Thank you so much...

stinaann · Dec 3, 2010, 09:13 AM

In my own opinion, I think that if he truly wanted to be with you, he wouldn't try to move so fast. Don't give him what he wants until you're ready for it. Sex doesn't make a relationship at all. Don't try to make one out of it.

rr_losthim · Dec 6, 2010, 01:47 AM

@talaniman
I am trying the NC,but yesterday he called me and said that he want to meet,and he came with a friend who is our mutual friend,we met yesterday after that day(when he want to do sex)now I am not feeling normal and comfortable,what to do?

Should I talk to him on that matter?? that was the first time when I have done a such stupid thing in my life,I am feeling a guilt,why I don't know...
He said to forget,and to be as before... I am feeling helpless

Should I discuss this matter with my closed friend??
He has changed a lot,he is not responding me as before...
What it means??

talaniman · Dec 6, 2010, 05:31 AM

As the stickies have pointed out, NC means ignoring calls, and texts, not meeting up, and not going on as before. If you do this, in time, maybe months, you will see that you start to heal. But continuing to give him what he wants, or even talking to him, you will never heal.

If your best friend is not a mutual friend of you both, yes you can tal to them. But no matter what, if they cannot support you in what you have to do for yourself, what's the point?

rr_losthim · Dec 6, 2010, 06:48 AM

I am feeling so much guilt and pain... I am feeling as a have done a crime,I have not done anything(sex)with him...
Then why I am feeling like that,I want to get overcome from this,but I don't know how??

rr_losthim · Jan 3, 2011, 02:15 PM

I want to forget him,and want to go from his life forever...
Tell me how to do it... feeling helpless and so loanly

talaniman · Jan 3, 2011, 02:53 PM

It will take a long time and a lot of hard work to rebuild a life without him and be happy again. Be patient and stay busy, and above all keep him out of your life.

Don't quit on yourself!

alina kahan · Apr 4, 2012, 04:55 AM

I have same problem?I can't help you becoz you helep me