I want to start by saying that my relationship involved only 5 months of living in the same country before my departure. I am in the military and I rotate countries every year.

I met the girl of my dreams in Italy 2 years ago, she is an Italian citizen and I am American. For the entire first 18 months it was amazing. The girl of my dreams, I trusted her beyond belief and to this day trust her with anything. After about 18 months I noticed myself drifting a little bit and instead of sticking with my plans of moving to Italy after my military career ends this December, I started filling out college applications. I eventually told her about this and it was the beginning of the end.

I would visit her frequently or she would come to where I was stationed and we saw each other about every other month. The phone calls and skype communication died down about 4 months ago and I realized that I had begun planning my life back in the states for when I finish the military.

A little bit about her; she studies all year and takes the summer off to work at a waterpark as a lifeguard. This year and last year she went out a fair amount between friends from work and old friends she has had for a few years. She started going out a lot more and our communication continued to dwindle. She has the kindest heart I have ever witnessed and she would do anything for me even to this day.

She texted me a few times the day she ended things, the texts that day and the weeks leading up to that day were standard "baby, my love" talk. When I answered her skype call she was clearly upset and I pried at her asking what was wrong. She said "I can't do this anymore, I just don't love you anymore. My feelings have changed." Later to find out she had come to realize herself becoming more and more interested in a co-worker, she insisted that the conversations would just flow and she enjoyed talking with him. Something that she said we lost or even never had. I beg to differ.

So, we broke up 6 days ago and I have contacted her EVERY day so far. I can't resist it, I can't resist looking at our chat application to see when the last time she was online. I can't eat anymore or play video games or watch movies without have to totally stop and I begin pacing around letting my mind go crazy.

Any time I send her a message or ask her to call me she responds or calls without hesitation. She says she will always be there for me and I am still the number 1 guy in her life and the most amazing person she has ever met. She also said that she knows what she is losing by breaking up with me but the feelings just aren't there anymore.

Now, the real dilemma. I have approved leave coming up in 12 days and guess where my plane ticket is sending me, Italy to the city I used to work in and where I met her and she still lives. I even have a rented apartment there. She is hell-bent on the fact that she will be leaving the city to go to the sea somewhere on the specific days that I am there because she can not face seeing me at all, she is scared her feelings will come back and she will force herself into a relationship she no longer wants. I feel I have to go there for some sense of real closure not just a skype call. If she meets with me, it would be amazing, if she doesn't.. maybe it will hurt a lot but I will not look back with regrets knowing I did what my heart told me.

She told me she took all of my pictures down from her walls in her room and has not turned on her computer since the night she dumped me. Her relationship status is still there and her profile picture with her kissing me remains as well.

Please someone help... I know "NO Contact" will be the general response from everyone but what else can I do? I think I really need to go to Italy for these 2 weeks and see if it is really over or if there is a chance. When I go there should I make an effort to track her down where she is and go to her? Or just leave her alone while letting here know I am in her city?

Every day sucks, I just want to rewind and fix where I messed this all up.

You need to leave her alone. She has told you she does not feel the same way. You will not be with her as you are coming back to America so what is the point?
Respect her feelings and leave her alone.
What will happen is you will begin to irritate her and she will really get nasty with you and I would not blame her.
When you told her you were applying for college her, you pretty much told her where she stood. She realized to hang on to you is useless. Now you want to hold on to her because she is seeing someone. That is rather selfish of you.
Stop acting like a teen. Be a man and accept that what you had is over. You were leaving her anyway. Go NC.

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You need to leave her alone. She has told you she does not feel the same way. You will not be with her as you are coming back to America so what is the point?
Respect her feelings and leave her alone.
What will happen is you will begin to irritate her and she will really get nasty with you and I would not blame her.
When you told her you were applying for college her, you pretty much told her where she stood. She realized to hang on to you is useless. Now you want to hold on to her because she is seeing someone. That is rather selfish of you.
Stop acting like a teen. Be a man and accept that what you had is over. You were leaving her anyway. Go NC.

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Thank you Homegirl, but easier said than done. I realized my mistakes and I want to make it right but she is not hearing anything I say anymore. I went out to a club tonight and had great time, but some songs made me think of her. Should I see her when I go to italy? Or let her go?

Leave her alone. It is her wish and you really have no right.

Ok but I have come to realize the mistakes I made. I told her that and admitted it. With the distance we drifted which is normal, but I never stopped loving her.

I feel like I really need her to see me, and she has stated that she can not see me it would be too difficult.

I go back to the states for good and I think I need to make one last attempt to set things straight. I think her being interested in this other guy is just out of loneliness and convenience, he's right there.

I would love to make things right, her take me back, and move to Italy for the 6 months like I initially planned to and hope we can get close enough to the point where she wants to come to America with me.

I guess I want to hear what I want to hear. Maybe I'm blind to the way women think. I don't know how she can turn cold as ice in one day and drop everything instantly. She has to still have feelings for me, she has to just be avoiding them and hiding from them hoping it all goes away eventually to avoid further pain.

I just want to make things right and be back with her.

*It's been over 24 hours of NC so far and today marks 1 week that we've been broken up. I will desperately be trying to maintain NC for as long as possible. What if she texts me in 2 days saying that we should talk, or how are you doing.. I really don't want the pity party and I told her that. I ate 3 pieces of bacon yesterday and nothing so far today. I really hope this goes away soon.

She says she does not want to see you. You need to respect that. You are sounding desperate and that is not attractive. Don't go stalking this woman.
I know this hurts you but she has made her choice. Respect it just as she would have had to do when you returned to the US.

And if she decides to contact me? "Checking up on me" does that warrant a response? I would feel like she is just making sure I am OK like any other friend would do... Then again I really just want to talk to her and I don't think I would be able to not respond..

If she decides to contact you, you can tell her you hope she is happy and you are fine.
She has made her choice. Maybe she did not see a future with you and decided to move on. Now you need to move on.

Do you think it's too late for her to change her mind? If she sees that I have reevaluated my future plans and that I am sure I want to be with her now? Is it possible that if I pushed her away I could just as easily pull her back?

I think you need to not play with her.'She wants you to leave her alone. What if she does not want to leave her country to be with you.
I think you need to respect her.
You were willing to leave her and changed your mind when she slowed down the contact and found someone else.
Leave the woman alone

She told me she was not against leaving her country. She said that she would want to have 1 life together first for a good amount of time to really grow, this was the entire purpose of me devoting 6 months to go there study and live. I am leaving her alone and just waiting for my phone to light up with a message from her... I am hoping she needs time to realize that I could actually be gone or maybe she just needs time to miss me and the love that I really have for her.
She never told me to leave her alone, she said to call her whenever I want or message her and she is always there for me. She just said that she can't stand seeing me face to face when I am in Italy. When I am there I think I will not force myself on her, just a phone call or message to let her know I'm there if she decides she wants to see me...
I do not want to play with her at all, I just want her back. And I gave her the wrong ideas due to my own confusion the past few months and have come to finally realize such. Maybe it is too late and she pressed the button and really has moved on..
When she broke up with her ex she said she was in her room for 2 weeks crying and depressed and feeling horrible (they of course were not doing distance and he was Italian) with me, she is living life normally as I can tell and only gets emotional when we are on the phone together... do those emotions mean she is still inside and fighting it trying to hold back from getting herself hurt any further than I already hurt her?
I have a thousand questions popping into my head each minute..

I think she is trying to move on and you should let her.

So I should basically give up? I've never been a person to get rejected and maybe that is what is making this so hard for me. Maybe I've been humbled by this entire situation.. But I never give up on anything it's just my nature and I don't see myself being able to give up on this. At least not without 1 last attempt to see her, look in her eyes and let her tell me it's over for real.

I think your ego is bruised. She has told you she does not want to see you. Now you are contemplating disrespecting her and forcing her to see you because your are not one to give up. That is Bull Sh*t quite frankly.
You forced her to give up when you decided to go back to the US. That was on your terms. You then find out she has met someone else and backs off from you. This was on her terms and you don't like it.
I think your attitude is very selfish and self serving.

I think you are correct about my ego. After some further thinking, forcing her to see me might be the ideal movie scene but in reality it is wrong to force her to do something she clearly stated she does not want to do. I am really hoping she decides to see me just to end things properly and I know that I must go there prepared to have things actually over and with no false hopes of getting back together. Am I wrong to think that our relationship warrants a proper face to face breakup? Rather than a surprise skype attack? I hope she comes to her senses, we have never fought or had any real difficult times and I just want to keep her in my life because of her amazing personality. She does deserve better than what I gave her though.
Today is the first day I have eaten a meal in a week and it has been 1 week so far. I hope I can stay like this because before the breakup I was in the gym 6 days a week now my gym activity is non existent.

Go ahead let her tell you to your face she ain't going to change her mind! Then what?

I understand what you mean but I think our relationship deserves the respect of a proper ending whether it's painful for one party or both. I know it's 2012 but there is a sort of decency that I think could be shown here. Especially since neither of us are nasty with each other or resent anything.

I have been maintaining NC and will continue to do so until a few days before I go there. I plan to call her and ask if she can put my things in a bag so I can pick them up at her house when she is not there.

You are lying to yourself. What is a proper ending? She said "I can't do this anymore, I just don't love you anymore. My feelings have changed." Later to find out she had come to realize herself becoming more and more interested in a co-worker, she insisted that the conversations would just flow and she enjoyed talking with him. Something that she said we lost or even never had.


She ended it. You just don't want to accept it. You want to make her uncomfortable because you are. Like I said your ego is bruised and you are being selfish. You want her to feel pain like you do.

So she decided to finally change her profile picture and hide her relationship status today. I am definitely doing a lot better this week but couldn't help but notice.
I am still hoping we can meet up when I am there next week, but I am really trying not to get my hopes up.
Is it possible my NC has prompted her to change her picture maybe to get a phone call or something from me? Or could it just be her taking another step to move forward?
Does anyone think there is a chance she might not be over it and might actually still have the feelings she initially did?
When I call her next week I am going to come off as best I can to not sound interested in her, I know this is a type of game but it might be the best thing to do.. I would try anything at this point. However, if this trip to Italy does not play out in my favor, moving on past her will be my immediate next step.

NC is to allow healing not cause ne to miss the other. She is more than likely moving on.
I still am not understanding why you are going there except to disrupt her life.

You are playing a very selfish game here. Leave her alone and stop torturing her. Can't you see she is protecting herself, and has made her decision? You just can't accept it though, and that's the problem.

I'm going there because the trip has been booked before we broke up. If there is some slim chance that it can still work out and we can fix things, I have to see. Also, like I stated previously, I live without regrets. Not going there to see if the relationship can be reignited or not would leave me with regret as I return to the states.
I have faith that we can get through this, it is our first fight, first real problem. People make mistakes and learn from them. Sometimes people see that someone has changed and they give it a second chance.
Call it false hope if you choose, I will be going there whether it's going to be more painful for me or not.
She has even said that she is not sure if she feels like this because of the distance alone. If I can close that distance maybe things will improve.

I'm not torturing her, we haven't spoken in days or had any other sort of contact.

So we didn't speak for about a week and then I broke contact. I told her I needed my stuff back and asked her to put it in a bag so I can get it when she is not home, then I cut her off on the phone to hang up. I was a little rude but I didn't want to prolong the conversation. Before I ended the call she said something like "the reason I haven't called you the past few days is-" I told her I didn't need any reasons and that I understand.

So, the following night I contacted her and we ended up on the phone. The conversation went really well, we could see that we are both pretty comfortable speaking to each other and concerned about the other's life. She said she wants to meet with me face to face to return my things and help me do some stuff in Italy that she usually helped me out doing since she is more familiar with the area and all.

I feel like that is what I was waiting for her to say all along, but after we hung up about an hour or so later I wasn't so thriller with her decision. I don't know if I am ready to be finished with it or maybe I know that things will not be the same as they used to be and I just don't want it. Why am I not satisfied?

She even mentioned coming over to my apartment to help me set stuff up and clean it like she usually did when I would go there.

Towards the end of the conversation I told her "you realize that after I leave Italy we have to stop all contact for a very long time right? That it will be the only way for both of us to move on without continuing any bad feelings or concerns for the other person." She said "We will see." No idea what that means...

You dig this hole, now deal with it.

You guys can play around with each other's feelings until one of you gets tired.
I don't think it means anything on her side, but seeing you may open a wound. Open a wound, not restore what you had. You should have left well enough alone.

The problem is, if I see her I'm not sure how to show myself. Should I be totally real even if that means exposing myself? Or play it cool and focus on the fact that the chances of us getting anywhere are basically gone? If my feelings are still burning I don't know if it would be good to hide them from her, maybe she's looking to see something in me.

Not entirely sure what will happen but I want to keep my expectations as close to the ground as possible. Regardless, I am happy that she showed me the decency of meeting with me whether it will be brief or not.

You need to realise what you're doing to her. I'll give you some perspective from 'the other side' as I'm in a similar situation. I recently (1.5 months ago) decided to break it off after 2.5 yrs (we lived together for 2 yrs). It caused me numerous sleepless nights, depressive moments and I since lost 7 kg. I was initially constantly obsessing over what she was up to, see her online, etc. etc. And remember I was the one that broke it off. My ex is away now for 2 months for air hostess training yet it is lingering on for too long.

I can tell you right now it isn't as easy for your ex as you may think. She has had loads of feelings for you, but when we said we decided to break it off, deep in our hearts we had our reasons and knew that the future would ultimately make us unhappy, even though this was a difficult decision to make with possible doubts.

Me and my ex-GF are stringing each other along, even though it's been 1.5 months now. She doesn't want to accept that it is over and plays with my feelings and I don't have the guts to completely cut her out.

It hurts. A lot.

Just when I thought I was moving on her jealous trickery through FB hugely confused me and made me regret my decisions on an emotional level but still in the back of my mind I think it's for the best. (I was commenting on some girls while she was online & saw it. I have to admit just after the breakup I got jealous over a photo of hers with some guy holding her. I know I know unfriending on FB is priority number one after a breakup)

Your ex certainly has more guts, and it is clear that she's moving on, even though it seems she's giving conflicting reports now based on what you said:

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Towards the end of the conversation I told her "you realize that after I leave Italy we have to stop all contact for a very long time right? That it will be the only way for both of us to move on without continuing any bad feelings or concerns for the other person." She said "We will see." No idea what that means...

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I'm interested in certain women but already knowing that if my ex finds out and plays her tricks on me it is hard to swallow and stops me from moving on, simply because I can't deal with the fact she acts 'hurt'.

My advice: be supportive of her while accepting that it's over (if you're made for each other ,over a LONG period time may tell), but now you need to lay it at rest. If you can't deal with the jealousy of some sort, accept that you will have to go NC, and be amicable before you do.

Sorry, needed to vent because I don't know how to immediately move forward myself, but it gives you some food for thought on how the 'other party' is possibly dealing with it.

I'd be curious to see how your meet-up will go.

Thank you for showing the situation from a different angle, assuming she actually feels that way!

I have been going out almost every night until 3 or 4 in the morning and eventually some of the girls I'm with are going to find their way onto my Facebook page through some pictures. I'm very nervous about the reaction my EX might have to this. I don't want to start any pain games.

I think you might be right about the fact that we broke up for a reason, there were a lot of doubts, and that eventually it could lead to something less then happy.

Since she told me she would prefer to meet with me we have had no contact. I don't see and further reason in contacting her and as of now, I know she goes out but what she is doing and who it's with is lingering in my mind from time to time but not any any sort of a consuming level.

I will post when I return from Italy for sure and hopefully my state of mind is clear and I can get what I am looking for out of this "vacation."

I think deep down I am hoping she will decide not to leave the city and to come stay with me at my apartment even if it means I have to sleep on the couch. I enjoy her company being a couple or not and I might even tell her that.

OK so you are going out every night but you plan on going to Italy and talk this girl (who has told you she does not want to see you) into taking you back? You are a trip! You're jealous. You can't stand the thought that she has moved on and now you are talking smack to her and have now gotten her to agree to see you. But you are seeing other girls. You ought to be ashamed of yourself.

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OK so you are going out every night but you plan on going to Italy and talk this girl (who has told you she does not want to see you) into taking you back? You are a trip! You're jealous. You can't stand the thought that she has moved on and now you are talking smack to her and have now gotten her to agree to see you. But you are seeing other girls. You ought to be ashamed of yourself.

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Homegirl, there is a severe dose of bitterness in basically all of your comments thus far. I'm sorry for you and your past and upcoming experiences it must be a rough life for sure.

If you have been keeping up with my posts you will realize that my hopes of getting back together have faded, I'm honestly not even thinking it's something worth doing. "Talking smack" not quite. I hadn't even mentioned wanting to see her after the first week of the breakup, she threw that one at me a few days ago and I told her that she doesn't have to. "But now you are seeing other girls" this one is funny, yes I am seeing other girls, everyday I walk around with my eyes open if that is what you mean. I don't know how old you are but I am 23, and I'm not looking for a mother on this website simply some advice, guidance, or productive point of views.

What's wrong with going out nearly every night? Should I stay in my room another week doing nothing productive? Fun is productive for me. I don't have the leisure of going for long walks on the beach or feeding shelter animals, so I go out, socialize, meet new people and engage in harmless conversation.

Please refrain from posting anymore unhelpful comments. I have no problem facing the facts or taking constructive criticism (I'm in the Marine Corps... ) but your attitude is directed towards me when I think deep down it should be geared towards someone else? Maybe you can open a thread on here for help.

Thank you.

I have no problems past or present that are anywhere similar to this.
You said you have been talking to this girl wanting her to see you, she said she didn't want to and now she has agreed.
You spoke of your love for her, how your were not going to give up and now you're seeing other girls, I'm just wondering where this is coming from.
I don't care what you do. You came here for advice I gave it and I can comment where I want. I knew about how old you are, it is obvious.

I never said I don't love her anymore, I still do or I would have closed my account on this website. I'm not "giving up" I'm giving it space. And I'm not "seeing other girls" I'm going out at night for drinks and having a good time. I'm not scoring numbers or hooking up with randoms. Until I can finish this chapter in my book, I'm not even going to attempt to begin the next.

I like the last line you wrote, you're quite the comedian.
There is a line between advice and judgemental behavior.

I have been going out almost every night until 3 or 4 in the morning and eventually some of the girls I'm with are going to find their way onto my facebook page through some pictures. I'm very nervous about the reaction my EX might have to this. I don't want to start any pain games.

Maybe you can open a thread on here for help.


I don't play games here. I give advice based on whay you post. You said "girls you are with" so you are seeing girls. That's your business, all of this is, and your last line to me was a bit judgmental. You do what you want, but don't tell me where to comment.
I wish you well.

So, I decided to update.

I went to Italy, and I saw her. The actions were basically the same as when we used to be together, holding hands, hugging - just minus the intimate stuff. We had dinner a few times, got some drinks and just had a good time enjoying each other's company.

In the 5 weeks we have been broken up the only times she initiated contact with me was when I was in Italy, she was actually concerned one day when I slept in and met up with her a few hours later than planned.

She cried basically every time we were together over memories and basic conversations. Out of my 2 weeks there we saw each other on 4 different occasions.

My last night there we had dinner, a bottle of wine then some drinks at a nearby bar and ended it with saying goodbye and I put her in a taxi. It was rough for both of us.

So... since I have returned to the country I work in she has once again not initiated any contact, it's been only myself. I have had a few recent family developments which led me to call her just to speak about them. She has been responding to my messages 2, 3, or even 4 hours after I send them (the application we use has a time stamp for when you read the messages) and this gets me irritated even though I know I am no longer with her or a top priority.

I called her a few days ago and she was about to go out and said she would call me the following night. The following night I told her I was out for dinner and getting some drinks afterward then I told her when I would be home to speak. When I got home I sent her a message and she said sorry but she was on her way out and we could speak the following night... The following night (last night) I was busy at work all day then returned home and at about 9 pm I messaged her asking what she was doing.. she said she was out with friends.. so I called her and was a little pissed. I told her that I don't want to continue down this path playing this game or whatever it is.. then she went on to tell me about how I am still the most important person for her and she really really cares about me? This leaves me in a state of confusion.

How can someone repeatedly say that you are number 1.. Most important... they care about you more than anyone else... yet not answer your messages or call you when they say they will after 2 years of being each other's priority?

Last night when we ended the call she said we will speak later and I said we won't then I said good-bye.

I think it's time I actually stick with no contact and remove myself as an option in her life.

The very last line you mention is unfortunately exactly the thing you will have to do. Don't make her your priority anymore. Give up hope, move on and let time heal the wounds. I know it won't be easy but you have no other option. Let the future work itself out, if you're meant you're meant. Don't force it anymore...

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The very last line you mention is unfortunately exactly the thing you will have to do. Don't make her your priority anymore. Give up hope, move on and let time heal the wounds. I know it won't be easy but you have no other option. Let the future work itself out, if you're meant you're meant. Don't force it anymore...

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Yeah.. unfortunately I think it's the smartest and most difficult choice to take. Still not knowing what she is thinking in her head kills me with questions.

When I was with her last week she said to me "since we broke up I have asked myself 3 or 4 times .. 'why did I even break up with him, I don't even know." This confused the hell out of me!

Good news is I've submitted my college application for when I return home in a few months and finish the military... I think this is a sign of progression?

Thanks man

The day after that upset phone call I returned to my house only to see that I had 9 text messages from her (I don't bring my phone to work) about how she was sorry and that she wasn't lying when she told me I was the most important person to her... my life is important and my decisions about my future and so on.. she continued to say that we can't act like we are still together like before and that is the reason she doesn't sent me messages or call me anymore. However, she said that our relationship was based on sincerity and she wants to keep that even if we are no longer together.

Finally she said she understands why I said that we shouldn't speak anymore and she said that building a new life would be easier without contact.

I responded a day later telling her I understand what she said, I thanked her for telling me how my life was important to her and then I told her that hers is important to me as well.

That was it, a brief answer to her messages just to not be disrespectful or petty.

This morning I had a message from her when I woke up saying.. "I hope you are doing ok these days.. I know about our decision to stop speaking but I wanted to tell you again that I'm here for you if you need me.."

Should I take these messages as mixed signals? Her being confused? Am I totally misreading the messages and she only has polite and caring intentions with no underlying meanings? Should I not respond and stick out NC?

You have already said you thought it best to stop the contact, so why change that to go back to the confusion that you had before? She wants you around in the friend zone, and available when she needs some feel good.

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I think it's time I actually stick with no contact and remove myself as an option in her life.

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I think so too.

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You have already said you thought it best to stop the contact, so why change that to go back to the confusion that you had before? She wants you around in the friend zone, and available when she needs some feel good.

I think so too.

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Thanks Tal.




These days have been getting easier and easier. My memories and flashbacks of her are becoming less and less frequent. I've been having some busy days at work since I returned from Italy which is great as well!

I put in some applications for colleges stateside for the 2013 Spring semester. I've been looking into cars for a potential purchase also. =) These thoughts of a new future and building something of my own once again feels good. Sure, I wish I had someone important to share it with but in the end I need to make my own life based around myself and then possibly include another person in it later.

I find myself still pondering whether she thinks about me as often as I think about her. If she misses me and if she is still confused. It's been almost a month and a half since we broke up and I can definitely confirm that everything DOES get better with time. My healing process has without a doubt kicked in, no telling when it will be complete if ever possible but it's moving in a positive way nonetheless.

I know it's too soon to make the decision for sure but I have plans of going to Italy next summer to study Italian for a month or so. I guess that's a decision I will have to make in the future with plenty of time to think about it and consider other options as well. I guess a part of me wants to go back to live in Italy for a little while to see if there could still be something between us, if we could "work" and "click" like we used to.

At least I'm no longer losing sleep over it anymore. I have finally gotten back into the gym after a 2 month break and it feels great!

I appreciate all who have kept up with my thread and left constructive comments.

It's been a while since I updated and I doubt anyone has followed this thread but here I go anyway.

We have been in contact a few days a week recently, after about 2 weeks of NC. I somehow managed to get really sick and have some temporary medical issues and I decided to tell her about them. She has called or texted me everyday or other day since but faded down recently due to me feeling better.

We've had great conversations on the phone, just the same clicking we had initially.. it's almost like nothing has changed between us.
She has been cramming for an exam that just passed, she was telling me about how it had been stressing her out and other issues with her family. She even surprised herself telling me some things going on that she said she would never say to anyone else, that felt kind of good that she knows she can confide in me.

Well, she texted me yesterday and told me she failed the exam.. it seems like her life is just going further and further downhill while mine is shaping up and I can't help but want to be there for her as a pillar of support.. Should I let her be to deal with these issues? I know that I no longer have the title as her boyfriend but I am still someone who deeply cares about her. I have told her that I am here to talk whenever she wants about anything although I think she sees it as unapropriate and a last resort (I don't blame her).

Anyway, there's an update. I still have no interest in any girls I meet, minus the physical aspect of course. I'm wondering when I will be over her and ready to move on... I guess I will only know when it actually happens and the right person comes along.