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Is he thinking about me?

This guy tells me he is attracted to me and likes me but he has a girlfriend. My question is if he's telling me that does that mean he's thinking about me on his spare time

Why would it matter? He has a girlfriend. Do you want to date a cheater? Do you want to date someone who is always looking for the better deal? Girls with boyfriends and guys with girlfriends are OFF LIMITS. All you are going to do is get into something that you don't want to do.

If he is, He's probably thinking about having some on the side, where you would be the side dish. If he has a girlfriend don't go for it. It's asking for it. If he wants to mess around with you when he's with another girl, then he's a cheater, and you don't want a guy like that. If he is thinking about you, I can almost 100% assure you that it's sexually. But I don't know the guy, so it's hard to say. Just be careful and keep your eyes open to his actions. They speak 1,000 times louder than words, they really do.

My advice is leave him alone.

What does this mean?

I don't really know how this site works yet very new... But this guy that I like is telling me he likes me and is attracted to me but he has a girlfriend... we have hung out couple of times but just as friends. He already said he wasn't going to do anything with me because he has a girlfriend and I respect that and I wouldn't either... but he tells me he doesn't know how much longer he is going to be with her and soon we can be together. He tells me he likes me and thinks I'm pretty but we leave it at that because of the girlfriend thing... he's not wanting to cheat on her or anything like that he's already made that clear and Im glad he won't... So my question is what does this mean? Need some advice?

It probably means that he's getting bored with his girlfriend. If tha't sthe case, he's probably already fishing around so that he has options for when he does leave her. If this is the case, it might be how he's treated girls in the past, and I wouldn't hang out with him. If you ended up dating, he could very well end up doing the same thing to you. That's what it means.

(also, I saw that you posted another thread about this, you only need to post one, people will see them and answer them)

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I dont really know how this site works yet very new........But this guy that I like is tellin me he likes me and is attracted to me but he has a gf....we have hung out couple of times but just as friends. he already said he wasnt goin to do anything with me because he has a girlfriend and I respect that and I wouldnt either... but he tells me he doesnt know how much longer he is goin to be with her and soon we can be together. he tells me he likes me and thinks im pretty but we leave it at that because of the girlfriend thing.... he's not wanting to cheat on her or anything like that he's already made that clear and Im glad he wont....So my question is what does this mean? need some advice?

But he IS cheating on her by hanging out with you and telling you what he has told you. He's testing the waters with the idea to move into your life. And then he will eventually do the same thing to you that he is doing to his current girlfriend.

*I got to work with this guy tmro I need hlp now plse*

I like a guy that likes me also but I feel he's messin with my head. I work with him so I can't just ignore him nor do I want to. So my question is: How do I get back at him and get inside his head and make him think about me??

Why do you want to get back at him? If he's messing with your head Ignore it, not him. Just be you.

Is this the same guy in your other post?

Please keep all the questions regarding the same issue in the same thread. Please write your responses in the bottom located at the bottom of the thread.

Leave him alone. He has a girlfriend. If he's interested in you, then that's his problem, but you shouldn't be getting in the middle of his relationship.

I honestly do not know how this thing works... I do not know how to reply to the things I have asked all I can think to do is make another one so people can uderstand what I'm asking... yes it's the same guy in my other thread and I'm not trying to get in the middle of anything Ive already told him I would leave him alone until he became single if he ever did. Its not all me its mutual thing he's not cheating on her. He's a real sweet guy. It does seem like he's getting bored with her cause he told me he's attracted to me. And wants me to give him sometime with his current sitaution. "his gf" we don't hang out I work with him I have to be around him and talk to him and the only time I've actually hung with him is when a group of friends went out and they invited him. I kept it causal and friend like but seemed interested a little also

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I honestly do not kno how this thing works...i do not kno how to reply to the things I have asked all I can think to do is make another one so ppl can uderstand what im askin....yes its the same guy in my other thread and im not tryin to get in the middle of anything Ive already told him I would leave him alone until he became single if he ever did. its not all me its mutual thing he's not cheating on her. He's a real sweet guy. it does seem like he's gettin bored with her cause he told me he's attracted to me. and wants me to jus give him sometime with his current sitaution. "his gf" we dont hang out I work with him I have to be around him and talk to him and the only time ive actually hung with him is when a group of friends went out and they invited him. I kept it causal and friend like but seemed interested a lil also

DON'T start another thread!

C'mon! He is making moves in your direction. That is called cheating! Keep things business-like at work and don't deal with him in any other way, like, away from work. Stop talking with him about your and his attraction for each other.

Mind your own business and stay out of his.

Geezzze people you don't have to be rude I'm not in his business and he's not in mine for crying out loud I'm only human and I can't help who I like

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im only human and I can't help who I like

That's not true. You are not a fragile wisp of smoke drifting in the wind. I suspect you are glad for his attentions and look forward to being with him.

Do what? And nobody kno's what's in someone's heart not you not this website not anybody but me and god My intentions with this guy is strictly friendship until he is single!! He hasn't did anything to me and I haven't him either!! Im not in his business and he's not in mine we don't talk other than work and we left it at that, that when he became single we would see what happens then. Im not a bad person and neither is he and no I can't help I like this guy, I have liked him ever since I seen him even before I knew he had a girlfriend!!

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i have liked him ever since i seen him even before i knew he had a girlfriend!!!!!!!!!

But you have told us over and over again what you want from him. Now you are asking for a quote to post to him on Facebook. Leave the poor guy alone!

OMG!! Like leave the poor guy alone are you serious OK like you don't have a freakin clue he's telling me all kinds of stuff also your making it sound like its me and its not this guy told me he likes me he's attracted to me and blah blah blah how the H** do you think I feel when you like someone and can't be with them because they have a girlfriend at least I'm not out there actually, literally breaking them up I'm letting him on his own terms if he wants to its his decision if he wants to or not he kno's how I feel and I know how he feels and WE LEFT IT AT THAT!! So don't come at me and say poor guy when he's the one playing mind games with me it should be poor little grl if anyting wondergril can do me favor and don't help me nothing your saying is helping anyway so don't help me anymore kk

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OMG!!!!!! like leave the poor guy alone are u serious ok like you dnt have a freakin clue he's tellin me all kinds of stuff also ur makin it sound like its jus me and its not this guy told me he likes me he's attracted to me and blah blah blah how the H** do you think I feel when u like someone and can't be with them bc they have a gf at least im not out there actually, literally breakin them up im lettin him on his own terms if he wants to its his decision if he wants to or not he kno's how I feel and I know how he feels and WE LEFT IT AT THAT!!!!! so dont come at me and say poor guy when hes the one playin mind games with me it should be poor lil grl if anyting wondergril can jus do me favor and dont help me nothin ur sayin is helpin anyway so jus dont help me anymore kk

Yup. Now, leave him alone until he has made a decision. Oh, and he'll be doing this again once you are his girlfriend and he gets bored with you. These guys are called serial romantics.

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Do what? and nobody kno's whats in someones heart not you not this website not anybody but me and god My intentions with this guy is strictly friendship until he is single!!! he hasnt did anything 2 me and I havnt him either!!!! Im not in his business and hes not in mine we dont talk other than work and we left it at that, that when he became single we would see what happens then. Im not a bad person and neither is he and no I can't help I like this guy, i have liked him ever since i seen him even before i knew he had a girlfriend!!!!!!!!!

If you are going to ask questions about a potentially touchy or taboo topic, you need to expect to get some criticism, especially if you fail to provide all of the facts.

With this being said, you had asked us what we thought about it. And we told you, that he has a girlfriend, you should stay away from him in any other way.

You said that you liked him, and that he was telling you that he was attracted to you.
Since YOU are not planning on dating him until he is single, then we have nothing to critcize from you.
HIM on the other hand, is an entirely different story.

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nobody kno's whats in someones heart not you not this website not anybody but me and god

This is not true, you can know someone's true intentions, if you pay close enough attention, and not blind yourself into seeing only what you want to see. All you have to do is look at their actions.

How do you know that he does not intend to lie to you? His actions seem to be speaking clearly as far as I'm concerned. He has a girlfriend, and he already has his eye on you. THAT is what is wrong with the picture. His intentions seem to be this: find another girl before I end my current relationship, or Keep my options open in case this doesn't work out. Either way, you are the second choice. Who's to say he won't lie to you abou tbreaking up with his girlfriend?

Do you understand where we are coming from?
If you do not want to date a guy who has a girlfriend, you need to keep it at that, and not flirt.

I think you know where I'm going with this, I don't have to say anything else. But if you want me to, I certainly can.

Actually the question I had originally asked was plain and simple... I had asked if he told me he was attracted to me does that mean he's thinking ab me on his spare time I don't need anybodys criticism thanks but I didn't ask for that I know he has a girlfriend and I can't stress the issure any more that I don't even talk to him except for at work and he really doesn't even work where I work he is bouncin back and forth to different places so I don't flirt with him and I don't talk to him other than when I have to and the only reason he kno's I like him is because somebody at my work told him and when I did hang out with him one time my friends invited him not me and for that matter I recently found out he had a girlfriend because he recently told me and I'm leaving it at that I respect that I'm not that kind of girl to break them up or anything but I'm saying I could if I wanted to but he isn't that type of guy either he doesn't cheat or lie ab that he told me he didn't want to do anything with me until he didn't have a girl friend anymore and he's the one telling me oh babe we'll be together soon and give me time blah blah blah I'm simply going to school and work trying not to have a care ab it until if maybe something happens to them and if it don't well then I guess I got to get off my and move on don't I!! So I don't need people being rude to me and telling me stuff I already knew I'm no idiot

I think you're taking this a little too seriously. If you already know this stuff, then you already know the answer to your first question "does he think about me in his spare time?"
Well no S*** he's thinking about you if he's telling you that you're going to be together. If you're not an idiot, don't act like one, really. You want to see rude? Look at how you are talking to people who are just trying to give you some perspective. If you don't like what we have to say, then you don't HAVE to ask any questions, and we'll be happy not to answer them if these are the kinds of replies we are going to get. Either straighten up the attitude or don't bother, really, nobody is going to care if you're going to act like a little brat.

And one more thing, when you post a response, it would probably be a good idea for you to add some punctuation to it. Unless that entire last post you made was actually one sentence.

I Don't GIVE A FK AB PUNCTUATION IM NOT IN ENGLISH CLASS OR SPELLIN EITHER SO IF YOU Don't LIKE WHAT I SAY OR HOW I WRITE THEN Don't CLICK ON MY QUESTION FOR THAT MATTER I Don't HAVE TO DO ANYTHING I Don't Want to... ALL YOU PPL TOOK IT FURTHER THAN I EXPECTED NOT ME... AS FAR AS THE CONTRACT THING I Isn't READ SHT HAHAHAHAAH SO JUS Don't CLICK ON MY QUESTION IF YOU HAVE A PROBLEM PLAIN AND SIMPLE ;) let somebody else answer it cause it don't bother me u 2 would be less I would have to read and honestly I HAD JUS wrote that first question because I wanted to see how this thing worked cause I didn't know... I didn't know all you was going to make succhhhh a big hugh fkin deal out of it and I can be a brat sometimes sory my mommy and daddy spolied me rotton. On the other hand, I also can be mature when I have to be. I hope that this last sentences is in perfect grammar for you.

Leave him alone, if he is willing to cheat or her with you he will cheat on you too

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I DONT GIVE A FK AB PUNCTUATION IM NOT IN ENGLISH CLASS OR SPELLIN EITHER SO IF YOU DONT LIKE WHAT I SAY OR HOW I WRITE THEN DONT CLICK ON MY QUESTION FOR THAT MATTER I DONT HAVE TO DO ANYTHING I DONT WANNA...ALL YOU PPL TOOK IT FURTHER THAN I EXPECTED NOT ME....AS FAR AS THE CONTRACT THING I AINT READ SHT HAHAHAHAAH SO JUS DONT CLICK ON MY QUESTION IF YOU HAVE A PROBLEM PLAIN AND SIMPLE ;) let somebody else answer it cause it dont bother me u 2 would jus be less i would have to read and honestly I HAD JUS wrote that first question bc I wanted to see how this thing worked cause i didnt kno...I didnt kno all yall was gunna make succhhhh a big hugh fkin deal outta it and i can be a brat sometimes sory jus my mommy and daddy spolied me rotton. On the other hand, I also can be mature when I have to be. I hope that this last sentences is in perfect grammer for you.

You are just too cute. ;)

Are you even actually IN college? Because you are giving off this vibe of a poser-middle-school girl. :)

Everyone on this website has been nothing but cordial to you in giving their opinions, until you turned into an attack dog.

Yes I'm in college and I'm 21

This has gotten way off topic... collegegurl if u got your answer then why keep posting attacks on those who help you? If u calm down they will leave you alone

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yes im in college and im 21

Then act your age princess.

FYI, if you post 4 different threads on the same subject, then people are going to assume you want more insight. And yes, Sometimes you get more than you ask for. But it does NOT give you the right or justification to treat people so disrespectfully, when all they've been trying to do is answer your question. SO WHAT if you get more of an answer than you ask for, does that really mean that you can swear at them and tell them that they're idiots and know nothing about what they're talking about?

Everyone here goes on EXACTLY the information that you give us, so if you go into a deep analysis of it, so will others. Not only did they (and me) tell you that YES, he could be thinking about you, but we told you exactly WHAT could be going on in his head. WHY did we answer like this? Because we saw red flags and felt like it was necessary to bring it to your attention, because WE CARE! Nobody is out to try and make you look bad, we just didn't want you to get into a sticky situation, that could be avoided.

Instead of going Berzerk on everyone, embrace and appreciate the fact that they took the time to help you out with what you wanted to know. And be grateful that they went above beyond your immediate expectations to try and help you personally. THAT is what this website is about.

Because they were doing the same I felt as much attacked as others may have I said I was sorry. No thanks on the help thanks though but this website isn't for me I can see. I was curious as to what it was I didn't know it was going to be like this though

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bc they were doin the same i felt jus as much attacked as others may have i said i was sorry. no thanks on the help thanks tho but this website isnt for me i can see. i was jus curious as to what it was i didnt kno it was goin to be like this tho

NOBODY was attacking you initially, you just didn't like the answers you were getting.

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bc they were doin the same i felt jus as much attacked as others may have i said i was sorry. no thanks on the help thanks tho but this website isnt for me i can see. i was jus curious as to what it was i didnt kno it was goin to be like this tho

I see that they were doing it too but the easiest way to solve this is to get you to stop, which u now have so any further attacks on you will just show how childish they are...

Wohh I called no one idiots and others kept postin different thing that I wasn't asking for nobody gave me the answer I was looking for in depth they stressed the fact that it was wrong and blah blah blah I have a mom to tell me all those things I don't need another one. I realize people was trying to help but they in fact wasn't helping me on what I wanted to be helped on instead went into something I already know about when the whole time none of that was the question I had originally asked for

I'm not childish and there will not be anymore attacks on me. I can promise you

If u need anymore help and think this is not the place to do it I will be willing to help through e-mail or messenger if you want now that that whole mess is over you seem nice enough...

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Wohh I called no one idiots and others kept postin different thing that i wasnt askin for nobody gave me the answer i was lookin for in depth they stressed the fact that it was wrong and blah blah blah I have a mom to tell me all those things i dont need another one. I realize ppl was tryin to help but they in fact wasnt helpin me on what i wanted to be helped on insted went into something i already kno about when the whole time none of that was the question i had originally asked for

I can see that you're one of "those" people. I assure you, we will leave you in peace.

Lol OK hellhound that's cool thanks

And ohso happy mind me asking what you meant by one of those people

Well whoever kno's how to delet this thread or do whatever to it so it doesn't go on anymore is more than welcome

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and ohso happy mind me askin what u meant by one of those ppl

I mean one of those people that blames they way they act on other people, and say "they did it first, so they were wrong first, and it was their fault" I'ts one thing to pint stuff out and try to handle it like an adult, but another to throw a temper tantrum about it.

I.E. one of those people who can't grow up.