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collegegurl6612 · Sep 21, 2009, 02:09 PM

This guy tells me he is attracted to me and likes me but he has a girlfriend. My question is if he's telling me that does that mean he's thinking about me on his spare time

dreamingartist · Sep 21, 2009, 02:14 PM

Why would it matter? He has a girlfriend. Do you want to date a cheater? Do you want to date someone who is always looking for the better deal? Girls with boyfriends and guys with girlfriends are OFF LIMITS. All you are going to do is get into something that you don't want to do.

ohsohappy · Sep 21, 2009, 02:15 PM

If he is, He's probably thinking about having some on the side, where you would be the side dish. If he has a girlfriend don't go for it. It's asking for it. If he wants to mess around with you when he's with another girl, then he's a cheater, and you don't want a guy like that. If he is thinking about you, I can almost 100% assure you that it's sexually. But I don't know the guy, so it's hard to say. Just be careful and keep your eyes open to his actions. They speak 1,000 times louder than words, they really do.

ohsohappy · Sep 21, 2009, 02:15 PM

My advice is leave him alone.

collegegurl6612 · Sep 21, 2009, 02:34 PM

I don't really know how this site works yet very new... But this guy that I like is telling me he likes me and is attracted to me but he has a girlfriend... we have hung out couple of times but just as friends. He already said he wasn't going to do anything with me because he has a girlfriend and I respect that and I wouldn't either... but he tells me he doesn't know how much longer he is going to be with her and soon we can be together. He tells me he likes me and thinks I'm pretty but we leave it at that because of the girlfriend thing... he's not wanting to cheat on her or anything like that he's already made that clear and Im glad he won't... So my question is what does this mean? Need some advice?

ohsohappy · Sep 21, 2009, 02:48 PM

It probably means that he's getting bored with his girlfriend. If tha't sthe case, he's probably already fishing around so that he has options for when he does leave her. If this is the case, it might be how he's treated girls in the past, and I wouldn't hang out with him. If you ended up dating, he could very well end up doing the same thing to you. That's what it means.

(also, I saw that you posted another thread about this, you only need to post one, people will see them and answer them)

Wondergirl · Sep 21, 2009, 02:53 PM

Originally Posted by collegegurl6612

I dont really know how this site works yet very new........But this guy that I like is tellin me he likes me and is attracted to me but he has a gf....we have hung out couple of times but just as friends. he already said he wasnt goin to do anything with me because he has a girlfriend and I respect that and I wouldnt either... but he tells me he doesnt know how much longer he is goin to be with her and soon we can be together. he tells me he likes me and thinks im pretty but we leave it at that because of the girlfriend thing.... he's not wanting to cheat on her or anything like that he's already made that clear and Im glad he wont....So my question is what does this mean? need some advice?

But he IS cheating on her by hanging out with you and telling you what he has told you. He's testing the waters with the idea to move into your life. And then he will eventually do the same thing to you that he is doing to his current girlfriend.

collegegurl6612 · Sep 21, 2009, 02:54 PM

I like a guy that likes me also but I feel he's messin with my head. I work with him so I can't just ignore him nor do I want to. So my question is: How do I get back at him and get inside his head and make him think about me??

ohsohappy · Sep 21, 2009, 03:05 PM

Why do you want to get back at him? If he's messing with your head Ignore it, not him. Just be you.

Wondergirl · Sep 21, 2009, 03:11 PM

Is this the same guy in your other post?

I wish · Sep 21, 2009, 03:12 PM

Please keep all the questions regarding the same issue in the same thread. Please write your responses in the bottom located at the bottom of the thread.

Leave him alone. He has a girlfriend. If he's interested in you, then that's his problem, but you shouldn't be getting in the middle of his relationship.

collegegurl6612 · Sep 21, 2009, 03:24 PM

I honestly do not know how this thing works... I do not know how to reply to the things I have asked all I can think to do is make another one so people can uderstand what I'm asking... yes it's the same guy in my other thread and I'm not trying to get in the middle of anything Ive already told him I would leave him alone until he became single if he ever did. Its not all me its mutual thing he's not cheating on her. He's a real sweet guy. It does seem like he's getting bored with her cause he told me he's attracted to me. And wants me to give him sometime with his current sitaution. "his gf" we don't hang out I work with him I have to be around him and talk to him and the only time I've actually hung with him is when a group of friends went out and they invited him. I kept it causal and friend like but seemed interested a little also

Wondergirl · Sep 21, 2009, 05:02 PM

Originally Posted by collegegurl6612

I honestly do not kno how this thing works...i do not kno how to reply to the things I have asked all I can think to do is make another one so ppl can uderstand what im askin....yes its the same guy in my other thread and im not tryin to get in the middle of anything Ive already told him I would leave him alone until he became single if he ever did. its not all me its mutual thing he's not cheating on her. He's a real sweet guy. it does seem like he's gettin bored with her cause he told me he's attracted to me. and wants me to jus give him sometime with his current sitaution. "his gf" we dont hang out I work with him I have to be around him and talk to him and the only time ive actually hung with him is when a group of friends went out and they invited him. I kept it causal and friend like but seemed interested a lil also

DON'T start another thread!

C'mon! He is making moves in your direction. That is called cheating! Keep things business-like at work and don't deal with him in any other way, like, away from work. Stop talking with him about your and his attraction for each other.

Mind your own business and stay out of his.

collegegurl6612 · Sep 21, 2009, 08:58 PM

Geezzze people you don't have to be rude I'm not in his business and he's not in mine for crying out loud I'm only human and I can't help who I like

Wondergirl · Sep 21, 2009, 09:10 PM

Originally Posted by collegegurl6612

im only human and I can't help who I like

That's not true. You are not a fragile wisp of smoke drifting in the wind. I suspect you are glad for his attentions and look forward to being with him.

collegegurl6612 · Sep 21, 2009, 09:25 PM

Do what? And nobody kno's what's in someone's heart not you not this website not anybody but me and god My intentions with this guy is strictly friendship until he is single!! He hasn't did anything to me and I haven't him either!! Im not in his business and he's not in mine we don't talk other than work and we left it at that, that when he became single we would see what happens then. Im not a bad person and neither is he and no I can't help I like this guy, I have liked him ever since I seen him even before I knew he had a girlfriend!!

Wondergirl · Sep 21, 2009, 09:28 PM

Originally Posted by collegegurl6612

i have liked him ever since i seen him even before i knew he had a girlfriend!!!!!!!!!

But you have told us over and over again what you want from him. Now you are asking for a quote to post to him on Facebook. Leave the poor guy alone!

collegegurl6612 · Sep 21, 2009, 09:47 PM

OMG!! Like leave the poor guy alone are you serious OK like you don't have a freakin clue he's telling me all kinds of stuff also your making it sound like its me and its not this guy told me he likes me he's attracted to me and blah blah blah how the H** do you think I feel when you like someone and can't be with them because they have a girlfriend at least I'm not out there actually, literally breaking them up I'm letting him on his own terms if he wants to its his decision if he wants to or not he kno's how I feel and I know how he feels and WE LEFT IT AT THAT!! So don't come at me and say poor guy when he's the one playing mind games with me it should be poor little grl if anyting wondergril can do me favor and don't help me nothing your saying is helping anyway so don't help me anymore kk

Wondergirl · Sep 21, 2009, 09:54 PM

Originally Posted by collegegurl6612

OMG!!!!!! like leave the poor guy alone are u serious ok like you dnt have a freakin clue he's tellin me all kinds of stuff also ur makin it sound like its jus me and its not this guy told me he likes me he's attracted to me and blah blah blah how the H** do you think I feel when u like someone and can't be with them bc they have a gf at least im not out there actually, literally breakin them up im lettin him on his own terms if he wants to its his decision if he wants to or not he kno's how I feel and I know how he feels and WE LEFT IT AT THAT!!!!! so dont come at me and say poor guy when hes the one playin mind games with me it should be poor lil grl if anyting wondergril can jus do me favor and dont help me nothin ur sayin is helpin anyway so jus dont help me anymore kk

Yup. Now, leave him alone until he has made a decision. Oh, and he'll be doing this again once you are his girlfriend and he gets bored with you. These guys are called serial romantics.

ohsohappy · Sep 21, 2009, 09:55 PM

Originally Posted by collegegurl6612

Do what? and nobody kno's whats in someones heart not you not this website not anybody but me and god My intentions with this guy is strictly friendship until he is single!!! he hasnt did anything 2 me and I havnt him either!!!! Im not in his business and hes not in mine we dont talk other than work and we left it at that, that when he became single we would see what happens then. Im not a bad person and neither is he and no I can't help I like this guy, i have liked him ever since i seen him even before i knew he had a girlfriend!!!!!!!!!

If you are going to ask questions about a potentially touchy or taboo topic, you need to expect to get some criticism, especially if you fail to provide all of the facts.

With this being said, you had asked us what we thought about it. And we told you, that he has a girlfriend, you should stay away from him in any other way.

You said that you liked him, and that he was telling you that he was attracted to you.
Since YOU are not planning on dating him until he is single, then we have nothing to critcize from you.
HIM on the other hand, is an entirely different story.

Originally Posted by collegegurl6612

nobody kno's whats in someones heart not you not this website not anybody but me and god

This is not true, you can know someone's true intentions, if you pay close enough attention, and not blind yourself into seeing only what you want to see. All you have to do is look at their actions.

How do you know that he does not intend to lie to you? His actions seem to be speaking clearly as far as I'm concerned. He has a girlfriend, and he already has his eye on you. THAT is what is wrong with the picture. His intentions seem to be this: find another girl before I end my current relationship, or Keep my options open in case this doesn't work out. Either way, you are the second choice. Who's to say he won't lie to you abou tbreaking up with his girlfriend?

Do you understand where we are coming from?
If you do not want to date a guy who has a girlfriend, you need to keep it at that, and not flirt.

I think you know where I'm going with this, I don't have to say anything else. But if you want me to, I certainly can.