If I move on, will he miss me and take me back
My boyfriend and I broke up 5 weeks ago after 8 years relationship. The first two weeks after the break up, I called him up and spoke few times, because I want him back and want to save our relationship, he said he couldn't take me back, and he doesn't want to say to me that he want to abandon our relationship, finally he asked me to give him some time to think things over. I believe he still loves me very much, and I love him very much too. Since then, we have spoke for about a week now. I did not call him and he didn't call me either.
I sort of giving up hope that we can get back together since what he had said as to me, what it sounds like to me is we're finished, but he just didn't want to say out to me.
If we continue with the 'no contact', will I lose him ? I don't want to lose him, but how long do I have to wait for him to make a decision ?
If he knows that I have move on and let go of this relationship, and started dating, how will he feels ? If he still loves me, will that make me miss me and come back to me ?
Is there any chance that we can get back together ?
How do I deal with disappointment .
I broke up with my b/f about 1 ½ month ago. The first two weeks after the breakup, we spoke on the phone a few time because I regret it and wanted to salvage our relationship. But no matter what I said and begged him, he said we couldn’t get back together now, and to give him a month time to think it over. I sort of got the hint that he wants end the relationship even though he said he needs time. So I told him that I got his message and will not bother him from now on, and he can take his time to think. Since then, we have not contacted each other for almost 2 weeks. My birthday is coming up this Friday, I do not expect to receive a present, or a phone call, or email/text message from him. I’m worry about myself that I will be very disappointed and get depressed for not hearing from him when that day come. I tried not to think about this, but the thought of it just come naturally. How can I block this thought out of my mind, and how do I deal with the disappointment ? Any advice.
Ex is playing with the mind game ?
I broke up with my b/f few weeks ago after 8 years. After the breakup, I was really regretted. During the first two weeks, I did the stupid things (which I should not have done, I regret that I did that) of hoping to have him back such as begging, crying, pleading, phone…. Etc. still unable to change his mind to take me back, and he insisted that he needs time. I was really hurt and heartbroken. Since then we have not contacted each other for about two weeks now. During these 2 weeks of no contact, I did some serious thinking about our relationship and trying to recover from the pain. It seems like my ex is “playing with the mind game” because I broke up with him. He doesn’t want me right now because he knows he can have me, he has me hanging by a string because I had begged him to take me back. I really regret that I was so foolish to do those things just to have him back which obviously did not work.
Why am I feeling so hurt even though I was the one that broke up with him. Is it because I feel he doesn’t want me, and it’s human nature that we always want what we cannot have? Is he is just trying not to call me like I’m trying not to call him. Is he playing with the mind game?
Should I continue with the ‘no contact’ ? I know that ‘Absence does make the heart grow fonder’ but your longing to be with that person will go away after a while. Is that true?
Should I let my ex know that I've have moved on.
My b/f broke up with me about 1 ½ months ago. Reason we broke up is he is insecure about the age difference (he is 20 years older than me) he said he doesn’t see a future in our relationship. We’re thousands miles apart from each other. We’ve been together for few years and we love each other very much. Although I told him that I will try to work it out by moving to where he is, but still couldn’t change his mind of breaking our relationship and I didn’t want to push him anymore. We had talked on the phone few times about the breakup , we both were crying very hard, we both felt very hurt and painful.
Anyway, now, it has been exactly 3 weeks of ‘no contact’. The pain inside me is getting less and less. I know that he still love me very much and still care for me. I know that occasionally he tried to find out how I’m doing through friends. Is it OK to let him know how & what I’m doing ? And that I have put the past behind and moved on with my life ? OR should I just drop off the face of the earth and have no contact with him anymore ? But to be honest, I really want to have him back because I love him very much, I’m hoping that one day he will change his mind. But if he knows that I’ve let go and moved on, will that make him think that I no longer want to be with him ? Please help.
