So, I work with the girl in question. Not as often as I like, but when we do work together we have a blast. She laughs at everything that I say. Touches me multiple times by my elbow/forearm. She leans into me(sometimes). She's stopped by work the past two times when I was scheduled and she was off. She tells me a lot of herself. If I piss her off she doesn't get mad at me. What is going on? She is a very cool chick, by the way. Also I noticed her playing with her tongue piercing a lot while being around me today, and at one point she was holding it out(the tongue piercing only). It's hard to explain.

It sounds to me like she likes you! Is there some reason why you think and/or feel that it's hard to "read" her?

I have a tongue ring too and I don't do it to impress people it's just it's addicting to play with. Why don't you make a move.. see if she's into it!

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It sounds to me like she likes you! Is there some reason why you think and/or feel that it's hard to "read" her?

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She seems to have a reputation.

What kind of reputation would that be, if you don't mind my asking?

She seems to have a lot of guy aquaintences.

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She seems to have a lot of guy aquaintences.

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Do you mean like a lot of boyfriends? Or, does she have a tendency to just hang around with guys in general?

Probably the second one. And some of the first one.

Would you mind telling me how old you are and how old she is, please?

I'm 26. She's 23.

Okay, thanks!

Do you want to ask her out? I think that it's pretty clear that she does like you. Isn't it? Seems like a lot of flirting going on.

Hell yeah I do. Nice.

Is there something that is keeping you from asking her out? I want to add, that just from what you have said, and if I were in your shoes, one thing that I might be feeling is a little competition from the guys she hangs around with. Especially, if I might happen to be buds with one or two of them.

Is that something that might be in play here?

I'm just trying to figure out your feelings and also the situation that you are in.

Well she has a boyfriend. I don't even know how the guys at work would react. I've been there 6 months. She has a baby. She's really easy to be around with. She's got this unique look that is awesome. She likes rock music(I think). She makes my tummy feel funny. When I see her I kind of freeze up for a few seconds.

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Well she has a boyfriend. I don't even know how the guys at work would react. I've been there 6 months. She has a baby. She's really easy to be around with. She's got this unique look that is awesome. She likes rock music(I think). She makes my tummy feel funny. When I see her I kind of freeze up for a few seconds.

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Thanks! That does shed quite a bit more light on the situation!

How do you know that she has a boyfriend?

Is her boyfriend the father of the baby?

How long has her flirting with you been going on?

Believe me, I know all about the tummy thing! Been there, done that!

>>>Edit<<< I also know all about feeling nervous around women that I like and in whom I am interested!

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Thanks! That does shed quite a bit more light on the situation!

How do you know that she has a boyfriend? I've seen him.

Is her boyfriend the father of the baby? No

How long has her flirting with you been going on? It started recently. The past 4 times we've been around each other.

Believe me, I know all about the tummy thing!! Been there, done that!!

>>>Edit<<< I also know all about feeling nervous around women that I like and in whom I am interested!!

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I think that you should take a chance and ask her out. Doesn't have to be for anything romantic. What about asking her out to lunch? "Hi, (name) would you like to go out to lunch with me?"

Lots of people go out to lunch as male/female couples with each other that work in the same places.

We actually had lunch once before when I first started working there. She asked me to go with her. I went but had no I had no cash. She actually gave me some of the food she had gotten. But I was kind of out of my element back then. And I mucked it up.

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We actually had lunch once before when I first started working there. She asked me to go with her. I went but had no I had no cash. She actually gave me some of the food she had gotten. But I was kind of out of my element back then. And I mucked it up.

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You can always move forward and go on with things in your life.

Do you know whether she was already seeing her boyfriend when you went out to lunch together?

No. She took time off work and I didn't see her for a while. I found out that she had stopped by work and hung out and asked about me. Stuff like: How is he? What's he up to?

Are you afraid that if you ask her out, that she will say "No?"

I mean, it really does look like that she is showing some interest in you.

Yes.

Have you asked very many girls out?

I've asked more than a few out. And have had relationships. But there's something about this chick. She may be the one.

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I've asked more than a few out. And have had relationships. But there's something about this chick. She may be the one.

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Could be. I know the feeling there also. When she has goofed around with you, do you also goof around with her?

Yes. She's fun to hang out with.

When is the next time that the two of you will be working together?

I don't know.

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I don't know.

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Okay.

What do the two of you individually do at work?

Have you ever had a woman say "no" to you when asking one out on a date?

We do sales. Some have said no some have said yes.

So, you do know what it's like to face rejection. That's good!

I think that you ought to give yourself permission to ask her to do something with you, be it lunch or whatever. Just put the former lunch incident behind you.

What do you mean about being out of your element in your comment that you made awhile back?

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We actually had lunch once before when I first started working there. She asked me to go with her. I went but had no I had no cash. She actually gave me some of the food she had gotten. But I was kind of out of my element back then. And I mucked it up.

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I meant that I was on guard that day. I didn't talk much.I have trouble revealing things to people that I've just met.

My next answer is going to be somewhat lengthy. I may even get cut off by this site because I might take too long in writing it. That happens here. I will come right back on. Okay?

Okay

I am busy with writing my other response. But, I just wanted to ask one more question before I submit my other response. Does her boyfriend work at the same place that you and she do?

No he doesn't work with us.

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No he doesn't work with us.

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Thanks! I'm almost done with my other answer.

Almost done? I'm tired.

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I meant that I was on guard that day. I didn't talk much.I have trouble revealing things to people that I've just met.

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The following isn't some perfect answer for you. I can't be in your shoes, but I do know what it feels like to be in them, because I have been in similar situations. I would like to support and see you through this.

When people are first getting to know one another, it's not necessary to be revealing everything about yourself. It's actually okay to be just a little bit guarded. You can just chit-chat and choose to talk about subjects that aren't very "heavy." There's no need to be getting really serious about things at the beginning. Just take it easy and continue to have fun with her like you already have been. That last one is important: "...continue to have fun with her like you already have been."

You sound like someone who really likes to analyze things. I am the same way. I used to write down things that were said between myself and someone in whom I was interested. I was driving myself crazy because I just didn't know some things! If only I would have just asked the other person!

These are the things that we definitely know right now. She does like you. She is interested in you, otherwise she wouldn't be showing you the interest that she has in you by doing the things that she does to you. If she is really that serious about her boyfriend, then she wouldn't be doing the things that she is to you. She would definitely be more "guarded" in her behavior as well as the things that she says. Telling you a lot about herself might mean that she needs someone who will show her the caring, support and attention that she is seeking. Maybe her boyfriend is not providing her those things. Or if he is, maybe it is not enough or not in the way that she would like. She has asked you out to lunch with you previously. There's nothing wrong with you asking her out. Please give yourself permission to do that. You won't know what her answer will be until you do ask her. You already know what it's like to be accepted as well as rejected.

But, like you, I am analyzing things in the above paragraph.

Ask her out, man! I know that you can do it and also accept whatever she says. Part of the things that our lives are built around is making choices and then dealing with the costs and benefits of making those choices. And, I'm not talking about the costs in terms of money here.

I've been rejected many times when I have asked a woman out. It doesn't mean that I couldn't still do things work-wise or continue further in whatever activities in which we might happened to be involved in together.

Are you going to ask her out?

I'm going to see if I can get some shifts with her so that I can hang with her more and then ask her out. Should I just do it the next time I see her?