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Originally Posted by kctiger

Welcome Honey! I am extremely proud that you have managed to ignore his texts, kudos to you. You are a very strong person (much stronger than I when this happened to me). Don't know his reason for texting you, probably out of guilt and curiosity. It doesn't matter though. Keep being strong and keep pushing! Good luck. Vent away to us if you need to.

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Thanks kctiger! I wasn't so strong the past week when he broke up with me.. I did some pretty desperate and embarrassing things that I regret.. I knew this had to stop when I finally realized that he really has given up. I don't want to be with someone who does not want to be with me. Nothing, not even sex, begging, crying, and all the love in the world I had for him would bring him back to me. I tried my very best. I lost a lot of weight and tons of sleep the past week. Now I'm slowly starting to eat and sleep again after "no contact" And crying still happens, but with less tears than usual.

Thanks for your reply, I really appreciate it. I don't have anyone to talk to who would understand this situation as I'm living alone in a new city with no friends. I lost all of my friends while I was with him. I put too much time into him. I'm slowly trying to build myself confidence up now.

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hi honeytea. Keep up the good work.i can't remember which day i m on! Ten or so. I broke up with him see my thread but this time ill not try to mend it.take one day at a time keep busy pamper yourself.cry when you need to allow yourself to be angry hurt etc.all the best.

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Wow, amicon! I want to someday get to the point where I can't remember which day of "no contact" I'm on! That would be wonderful. I just read your thread and I wish you the best too. And yes, I'm taking it one day at a time, keeping busy and pampering myself a whole lot! I've been going to the lake to read my books and relax everyday. So far, five different guys have talked to me. I guess it helps going out and being busy helps sometimes :)

Honey anytime you need to vent you know where to find us. You'll get through this, but some type of support system always helps. Good luck to you!

You are doing great! All my best wishes and have a happy life. Monica

After a NC of 3 months my ex girlfriend called me and I talked to her in "FORMAL" tone.. but not a caring and friendly one... is it a mistake... also I made the conversation very short (2 mins) and said I had some work and had to go ad hung up... reply

I kind of have a problem, with the NC. I didn't keep pictures or anything, but me and my most recent ex both loved music. I have a memory for nearly every song on my playlists. I don't exactly feel pain but I start getting delusional, like she'll be back soon. It's a really sad cycle I put myself in.

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after a NC of 3 months my ex gf called me and i talked to her in "FORMAL" tone .. but not a caring and friendly one.... is it a mistake ... also i made the conversation very short (2 mins) and said I had some work and had to go ad hung up .... reply

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You were text book perfect. How is your life going now?

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I kinda have a problem, with the NC. I didn't keep pictures or anything, but me and my most recent ex both loved music. I have a memory for nearly every song on my playlists. I don't exactly feel pain but I start getting delusional, like she'll be back soon. It's a really sad cycle I put myself in.

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No worries, this to shall pass.

Music does that to us.or rather we let music do that to us.but this will fade in time. :-)

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Originally Posted by talaniman

You were text book perfect. How is your life going now??

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I'm fine.. just as the book said... I'm enjoying my hobby ( guitar)... I have friends with whom I pass most of my time... its just I WANT MY EX BACK IN MY LIFE... HAVE I DONE A MISTAKE BY TALKING IN FORMAL TONE INSTEAD OF FRIENDLY TONE?? I thot that friendly tone will make her think I still have feelings for her...

Please visit my post in my profile... its my story... please.. I need your advice guys... I'm following t w Jackson's book...

Please visit my story...

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...ng-387297.html

Stop worrying about tones of your voice, if you are this worried about it you really shouldn't be talking to her

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please visit my post in my profile ... its my story ... please .. i need your advice guys ... i m following t w Jackson's book ....

please visit my story ...

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...ng-387297.html

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That's not the book I was referring to. The one here is, written by the experience of the people on this forum. https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relationships/ .

What about txt messages? We never usually call people... its usually just txt... do the same principles apply?

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What about txt messages? We never usually call people...its usually just txt......do the same principles apply?

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Ignore all text messages. If you can't resist, then have someone that you trust delete the text message for you so that you don't have to read it.

Change your number if you have to.

Texts fall under the same category as an e-mail, useless words falling on what should be deaf ears. Simply delete without reading or block their number

What happens if you are doing all these things but your still not over her?

You stick with the plan until you are.

Wow it is a great idea.But how if you get over your ex and the anger and hate stays to word the woman who took my ex from me.how could you deal with that kind of situation

You have to think of things this way, because I had the same thing. No one can take someone away unless they want to be. So while your anger is placed on her, you have to place a lot on him as well.

Put the ex's things in storage for very short period in ex,s address and give the storage attendant ex,s phone number. I think that in some storage place, it's only $1 for first month, so you won't lose that much. Do call from an outside phone (knowing that he/she is not home; just leave a message) letting ex know where his/her things are and tell him/her that he/she is responsible for the rest of the storage fee and that you are no longer responsible for these things.