Originally Posted by
sabrewolfe
I agree with Talaniman. What these women might just be showing in the beginning is what they think you are looking for in a woman, but is just a false personna of who they really are. And they do this just to get you to take the bate. Once you made a commitment to them, as in having a child with them, or marriage, they show their true personality because they now know they already have you. It seems through your testimony on here, that's exactly what happened. And don't get me wrong. I think you have very admirable intentions. Your heart and loyalty was there, and maybe you had the tools it takes to have a great relationship and family, but they simply do not.
This is the lesson you need to learn, to take much more time to get to know the women you meet. It doesn't take living with them, having children with them, or even marrying them to get to the true side of their nature. In time without those things, people do end of showing their true colours, and showing signs of who they really are. And as you stated, when you don't have any of these commitments with them, it's much easier to walk away from. And there won't be any children caught in the middle resulting from the terrible relationship you came out of.