I really don't pay attention to someone signs but I do pay attention to the person character and actions rather than words. All I can say is if you don't like the way he is treating you than talk to him about. About you done talked to him and about it and nothing has change than chances are he won't never change. Than you've decide whether your going stay and if you stay you can't complain because you have the option to leave.

I have been in and out of a relationship with a Gemini man and while they are fun, funny, and never a bore when there second personality hits the fan it HITS. They can be hurtful, untrustworthy, and plain volatile. It was an up and down roller coaster with me always walking on egg shells to avoid the "2nd Persona." I would try so hard to avoid the fights that I slowly began to lose myself and forget who I really was. My whole heart belonged to him and I fell for him hard but he constantly broke my heart.

My ex and I have been off and on for 4 years now. We went out recently and I asked him was he sleeping with someone else and he say yes. I was shocked really that he was truthful.

The next day I asked him to stop seeing her and focus on us. He said he can't answer that right now. I told him I respect his honesty.

I don't know what to do from here. I don't want to be with him while he is with someone else. How would you handle it from this point?

IF IT WAS ME, I'd lose him. If he's with someone else then his focus OBVIOUSLY is not on YOUR relationship. Break ALL contact, and begin the healing process.

I would calmly walk away and say I deserved this crap. I would feel guilty for never treating him right in the first place.

NOT.

Kidding

I would walk away ,say good riddance and proceed to have a nice life.

If the two of you have been on and off for the last 4 years that means you ain't really going anywhere. It like walking in a circle in one spot over and over. Even if you do that sooner than later your going stop because your going get dizzy.

How many more years your going waste on this not going anywhere, hot and cold, someone who wants to sleep with someone else and not stop so called relationship?

Right now you have 2 options-- stay and accept things or leave and move on to better things. You have to want more for yourself and staying in a dead in relationship shouldn't be an options for you.

As Tal wrote " Why make someone a priority in your life when your just an option in theirs". Hope I wrote it right but think about it and let it sink in.

You guys are all right. I thought about what I would say below

Hey baby..YOUR time is up over here for me. You go ahead and keep sling di@k. Im no longer a OPTION for you. Peace!

Did I say the right thing here? I know sometimes emotions get in the way of clear thinking so I am just checking to make sure I am sending the right message.

I have not been able to sleep cause this is on my mind. I feel attached to him but I don't want to keep going through this. Please help

I would be a little more polite. "I no longer will remain on the back burner for you, I'm moving on from you. To someone that deserves me. Please do not contact me."

To be honest I don't think he would even care about what you had to say nor would it bother him that you don't want to be him. Especially since he is seeing someone else.

Just make sure that you stick with your decision.

I would get so bleeped if I wanted to put down what I want to say.

It would start with hay mo'fo are you insane?

I am 54 and I don't play anything at all.

I think you young girls put up with way too much.

Respect yourself!

I would be a little more polite. "I no longer will remain on the back burner for you, I'm moving on from you. To someone that deserves me. Please do not contact me."

You think my comment was rude? Im not trying to be.

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I would be a little more polite. "I no longer will remain on the back burner for you, I'm moving on from you. To someone that deserves me. Please do not contact me."

you think my comment was rude? Im not trying to be.

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Yes, no need to insult her, just tell her its over.

I agree with you Artlady because I see a lot of my friends put up with nonsense that are usually very smart but when it comes to guys they are dump a** hell. I be wanted to just grap them and shake some sense into them.

Also, I realize that I try to talk sense into them but they have to learn the hard way. I get my tough skin from my mother because she take no sh*t from nobody including my dad that she been married to for over 30 years and if she see me in a mess up situation she's isn't afraid to slap me into reality. Love my mother!

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To be honest I don't think he would even care about what you had to say nor would it bother him that you don't want to be him. Especially since he is seeing someone else.

Just make sure that you stick with your decision.

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Thanks Liz. I just want to make sure I make myself clear. That is important to me. How would you put it? You seem to have a clear mind

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I told him I respect his honesty.
I don't know what to do from here.

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Respect his honesty, and lose the bum!

"Get out of my life, and leave me the freak alone".

Then disappear from his life.

Don't worry about being kind, just tell him point blank that you're done for good.

Four years on and off, this relationship was never a relationship to begin with. It's time to shovel the crap outside where it belongs and find something better.

Good luck.

The off/on for 4 years should be a real sign, Time to move on to others and stop going back

Wow you guys are completely done with him. Welll I did break it off but I miss him already. Oh well

Your supposed to miss him, if you didn't you would never have been with him in the first place!

You've done the right thing, and as the others have said, the 4 yr off again on again relationship is a big sign.

Time to move on and find someone that deserves you.

As an aside, if you are feeling lonely, I try to think of it as a new adventure with so many possibilities rather than being alone, now your free for the right person to come along and sweep you off your feet! YAH! :D

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Your supposed to miss him, if you didn't you would never have been with him in the first place!

You've done the right thing, and as the others have said, the 4 yr off again on again relationship is a big sign.
Time to move on and find someone that deserves you.

As an aside, if you are feeling lonely, I try to think of it as a new adventure with so many possibilities rather than being alone, now your free for the right person to come along and sweep you off your feet! YAH! :D

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I never thouhgt of it that way even though it makes complete sense. It is part of the process to move on to someone else. Here we go! :(