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Told you had nothing to worry about. You do understand the ex thing and the no contact thing. You need to some time to be single do not jump head first into another relationship.
It might bother you but she is your ex. You need to stop meeting online , etc...
Good luck with everything...
Yeah I know the NC thing works. It worked with my ex ex, but I can't seem to stop checking her Facebook or her profile on this site... It's dumb and only setting me back but I can't seem to overcome the feeling to do it.
You need to erase all the contacts, email addresses, Facebook , etc...
I have, I can still see her Facebook even though she's not my "friend" and I can't delete her from the site
You can block people on Facebook so you can't see anything they write on others pages and you can't see their page at all.
I know but it still doesn't keep me from unblocking her and seeing her
Okay you got to stop because it is becoming obsessive. SELF CONTROL.
Thought you were over doing DUMB things :rolleyes:Quote:
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C'mon Buddy we can't do it for you , how long do you want to stay feeling like cr*p.
Least amount of time as possible, self-control isn't my strong point. Lol
Well maybe that is something you need to learn and over come.
You crossed the line, and I'm not so sure you did it accidentally by happening upon her car, and waiting to see where she was. Why did you do that in the first place.
If she did see you, that would creep her out.
Before you go any further with keeping 'tabs' on her, think about the consequences.
At this stage of the game you should be able to accept that the relationship is over. That means not looking for her, watching her, checking Facebook, etc. It is over.
If you don't garner some self control and step up and do the right thing here in leaving her alone, you are asking for trouble.
BWK10, you want advice? Don't rush into relationsips so fast. As I was reading your "novel" I had to check the date of the dang thing because I was so shocked that you both were so invested into each other so quickly. Only 3.5 months?
You are 21, you are VERY young, and you have so much growing and maturing to do as you go through your life.
Enjoy your single life and find yourself. Figure out what you truly want in life. Don't let relationships define who you are..
Try not to put so much pressure on meeting the perfect person. Those things usually come when you're least expecting it.
Is this the same girl that you tried to "bump" into when you saw her car?
Yes
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Show me a person who hasn't done something dumb and I'll stand on my head and sing... "Yellow Submarine"... Let it go and move on. You sound like a nice guy. Don't bother her anymore. There's another girl you'll meet someday... :D
Your threads have been merged so as not to confuse us, so keep all your posts about the same subject here and just post updates and give input to the advice and questions you receive. No need for new threads about the same thing.
Sorry guy, but you have so many open threads that jump from the old girl, to the new girl, that merging all your threads becomes even more confusing. You sure don't need a new girl in your life, before you heal from the first one, so before you start yet another thread, why not just read the stickies at the front of this forum, so you can learn to stop playing games with your own mind.
Ugh. I get so pissed off, she wrote me a message tonight on that website saying "Stop lying about your height"... I'm 5'9" and listed myself as 5"10"... my drivers license even lists me at that. No idea why this pisses me off.
Leave her alone... she doesn't want you. Find someone else...Quote:
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I have left her alone, she messaged me... lol. I told her to get lost the last day I saw her.
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Block her number. Block her from FaceBook... that should take care of the problem.
I did. I've blocked her from everything... the only thing I couldn't block her from was this site until someone messages you, you cant. Fixed that problem with this short reply...
"I guess you never understood the big fat "leave me alone"
Stick with it.Quote:
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No idea why such a dumb comment pisses me off so easily.
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Just let it go.
Because you let it :rolleyes:Quote:
Originally Posted by BWK10
Seriously who cares what she has to say.
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Grow up and get a life that doesn't include her. You'll be a lot happier!:)
Just wanted to let everybody know things are going okay. I don't know if you guys ever wonder, but.. since I last wrote I told you about the messages she had been sending me. I hadn't been able to fight the urge to write her a letter... I felt as if I needed that closure. I know you guys will be a tad bit upset, cause I know NC is important... but I also thought it was important to tell her how I felt one last time, especially at breakfast the one morning I didn't get everything off my chest... cause you don't think of the things you should have said until its too late. And with the constant angry texts I was receiving, I had to write this. I want to share this letter with you all, so you can understand how tough but strong I was to write this to her.
"I felt as if I needed to write you one last time. I hope one day, you'll be able to understand why I have had to cut you out of my life for the present You said the day after we broke up that we did need time apart, for both of us. It hasn't been the longest of time, but significant enough to process everything. You were the one who wanted the split, so I am unsure as to why you have so much anger and frustration towards me. I hope you really take time to reflect, and realize... I did nothing to hurt you, purposely. You can think that I did, but I know that I never did anything to hurt you. I loved you, and cared deeply about you, and apart of me always will love you. I would have anything I had to in order to fix our “problems” which I was unaware existed as you didn't care to talk to me about them.
I'm proud to say that I met you, and that I fell head over heels in love with you. I have no regrets in the time you and I spent together. The evening you left me, was hard. It was one of the hardest things I have been through it just felt like you slipped through my fingers and you were gone. We had fun together, we laughed together ( a lot I might add), and I'm happy to say that you were mine for that short period. We had our problems, but I stuck beside you through all of them when lots of guys would have left you in the dusk. I wish you could have done the same for me.
I'm unaware of why a few numbers on POF would upset you enough to send me a message. I'm sorry if you have that much hatred towards me to try and bring me down. I'm not scared to hear what you have to say, rather I would rather not hear what you have to say. I'm more than sure it's nothing positive, so why would I take your ? You're a better person than that Katherine, don't stoop to that level. I don't want you mention you in the same breath as someone else. I know you at your best, and your best is way better than that. You had your chance that morning that we went to breakfast to say what you wanted to say.
Just leave things as they are now. Let everything go, your frustration and anger. It's best for both of us, especially for you. If you want to get together and talk, I'd be more than willing too... especially after the time apart it wouldn't be as hard to do. But, if you have anything you want to “get off your chest”, invite me somewhere and say it to my face rather through an email or text message, otherwise just go back to your life and forget about me. Take some time, and consider if this is even worth responding too.
I hope you take this letter to heart, it's not trying to make you feel guilty or upset and I want you to realize that. I did love you, and we did have good times together and I'll always miss you, and I'll always love you... whether you want to believe that or not, it's your choice. I'll always be here if you need anything, or just want to talk. You know where I live, and your always welcomed here... we would never turn you away. You have my phone number too. I hope everything is going good for you and the family, hoping the big G is getting better. Hopefully your trip out to the doctors went well and your healthy and in good shape.
Miss You, and Best Wishes."
I left it at that, haven't contacted her since and she hasn't replied nor sent me anything else hateful.
How sweet of you.
You should have wrote it, then burned it.
Not sure what you are looking for by doing that.
"If you want to get together and talk, I'd be more than willing too..."
That isn't NC buddy.
I know, but she seemed liked she wanted to talk. I know, bull excuse to write what I did. I don't know, I don't know what the is wrong with me.
Just stop. You are still letting thoughts of her drive your actions. "seemed like she wanted to talk..."
Remove the madness. Once & for all.
Your thread was entitled "good or bad idea"
Use your gut from now on. (ie: does it feel good or bad)
Here's something that Ive been thinking about lately:
They say experience is all about the mistakes we've made...
Everyone makes them. Some learn.
Im waiting for the day when I can truly forgive.
Closer to enlightenment.
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He's heading right back down the same path.. I hope he realizes she's using him again...
Yes, a path that will end. Take the next road. That unknown one.
BW, It sounds like the dust hasn't really settled yet.
True realization.
But for your own good. Realize that this girl is history.
What you had is history.
No longer a need to devote time to.
Its easy to block her with media. You supposedly did that & were proud. It's a different thing to start to block her emotionally.
That's what you got to work on. Time is on your side.
This all doesn't feel good, Does it?
Well...
All I know is that when someone doesn't want or care about me, there's no reason to want or care about them.
That's true. And I think I've made decent progression. I'm glad to read you guys are proud of me... but it's just the emotional strain I am working on now. It's difficult, cause I do miss her... and time will change that.
Yup, Time & effort.
Start enjoying yourself.
Life is short... enjoy while you can. I'm proud of you and you will keep getting stronger... KitQuote:
Originally Posted by vanheart
Thought Id come on here and post, having a rough few days here. I have been COMPLETE NC for 5 days now, I finally stopped going on that website scratching for information. However, I have no desire to find any out... but she has been in my head for the past few days. I have tried to keep busy, went out of town to a major city and everything I saw reminded me of her. Pretty crappy trip for that reason.
Are you socially isolated from real people?
What?
Being busy is one thing, having friends and activities to look forward to is another. Do you have that, or are you "just staying busy"?
Why didn't you enjoy being in another city, besides the constant reminders of her?
You have 5 days down. Great.
Now go for 50.
After that, go for 500.
In the meantime, enjoy your life.
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