I think the point is irrelevant to what star sign he is. If you can't handle the Roller coaster ride and the thrills and spills that come with it , it's time to get off.Quote:
Originally Posted by 9Lives
Good luck whatever you decide.
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I think the point is irrelevant to what star sign he is. If you can't handle the Roller coaster ride and the thrills and spills that come with it , it's time to get off.Quote:
Originally Posted by 9Lives
Good luck whatever you decide.
First of all, this is a conversation about women who have dated Gemini men. If you are not down with the question.. you isn't got to answer.Quote:
Originally Posted by friend4u178
2ndly, relationships are not that simple so I don't know why you coming across so vague. Tons of people look for directions, advice, information, and what not.
Keep it moving. I want to talk to people who can tell me about their experience.
My apologies if this is not what you wanted to hear!!Quote:
Originally Posted by 9Lives
I guess I don't understand this, but what does him being a Gemini have to do with anything. I have dated a Gemini, Libra, and Leo. They all were a mess. LOL
Personally I have not had good experiences with Gemini men. They have all been crazy and flighty. If you are looking for a stable and normal relationship look elsewhere because you won't find it with them. I don't know what sign you. Fire and air signs would be the most compatible I would think. Every Gemini has his or her own variances as well. Some are more normal. Geminis can be very friendly and nice but they also have a mean cold edge and can be very hurtful at times. My biggest beef with the male geminis are that they are extremely irrational, airheaded and yes extremely self absorbed and selfish.
Thank you for your comment. You hit it on the nail.. very friendly and nice but mean cold edge as well. Only a woman who has dated a Gem would know this cause they are very nice to their friends.Quote:
Originally Posted by crazybird
I found this website that talks about women who dated Gem men and they all say the same thing about them. Like you said, some of them are cool but they are difficult to deal with in relationship. I am a aquarius.
I know two couples that are aquarius/gemini. The first couple is always on the move. When they go anywhere there is always an itinerary they have on paper. I kid you not. They must have every second of every day planned or they feel like they missed out on something I guess. All I know is when they came to visit me it drove me nuts. They need to have all their time accounted for. My other friend and her husband are not like that but she the gemini is usually doing something. Either on a trip somewhere or locally out doing something. I think it is great for her and nothing wrong with it if that is what you like to do. For me I need space and alone time. As an Aquarius you need to have someone who you can really communicate with on an intellectual basis. We all need communication, it is important. Find someone who you can really have a deep conversation with and he'd be a keeper.
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Originally Posted by crazybird
Yes they have to be doing something. They can't sit around. It isn't anything wrong with it. My ex is the GEM man. I'm the aqua women. This relationship was very very stimulating for me. It was everything I wanted in a man and relationship. Then the twin came out. He was hard to deal with. I wish it could have worked
Too bad you couldn't work it out.
Wow I didn't know that people actually paid attention to zodiac signs! That's sooo interesting! Did anyone ever hear about how certain people's zodiacs make them get along with only some other certain zodiacs? This reminds me of the sims game.
Yes, I believe in Zodiac signs... not Horoscopes. I have found them to be 90% accurate. This guy here, I did not look for but he just happen to be someone I am suppose to be good with in relationshipsQuote:
Originally Posted by XOXOlove
I'm Aquarius, my friend male Gemini. It's funny they say that they are suppose to get along better with Libra and Aquarius... can you imagine what life is like for women that don't fall in those signs. Gemini men are almost there with the kindness and then boom the twin arrives. I used to always say "I wish he could be just a little bt nicer". I have found a lot in the zodiac break down of this sign to be accurate... just an opinion...
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Originally Posted by MsMewiththat
I can't speak for other people but it helps me. I don't believe everything it says about someone. But it is about 85-90% accurate. Most women find the gem man to be sweet but difficult for sure. He is just complicated. I did not realize that a lot of the issues we were dealing with had a lot to do with the type of person he is. He fits his zodiac to a T and I mean a T. I don't care what nobody says. At least the one I dated for 4 yrs
There is much truth to astrology. But a sign is not a perfect mold. You must take into account who raised you, how you were raised and where. Of course how all your personal set of experiences made you who you are. The same set of experiences will not make someone the same as you. You are raised by either one two parents or by someone else which has a huge impact on your development. Those people that raised you are have an astrological sign. It could be impaired by their upbringing and set of circumstances and so on and so on. It is very complex.
I total agree. That is why it is about 80 to 90% accurate. You really have to experience the person. The zodiac is kind of a preview of them but not the whole pictureQuote:
Originally Posted by crazybird
No, I don't understand. I grew up with a Gemini father, have a Gemini son, and have dated a Gemini man. They are some of the most loving people I have ever known in my life.Quote:
Originally Posted by 9Lives
So, again, being Gemini has little to do with it.
People are individuals and do not share traits based on their birthdays.
Self-fulfilling prophesy: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Self_fulfilling_prophecyQuote:
Originally Posted by 9Lives
Thank you for your logical and fact-filled comment... crazybird. :rolleyes:Quote:
Originally Posted by crazybirg
My wife is a Gemini, been a great ride so far. Love them twins as there is never a dull moment.
Ok well I am a Taurus and my husband is a Gemini... need I say more? Technically he and I are opposites (side by side on the zodiac and/or one extreme to another). We are not suppose to get along and we are not suppose complement each other... or so the zodiac say's. I am best paired up with a Virgo or Scorpio.
Sign compatibility with the Gemini:
Gemini Love Compatibility
I can tell you the good things about my Gemini man, he is loving, caring, thoughtful, generous, spontaneous, harmonious, charismatic, fun-loving, center of attention, easy-going, talkative - always probing for more information about everything then sharing the information later with family, forgiving, unconditional, everyone loves him when they meet him (likable), versatile, knowledgeable, thinker, adaptable, imaginative/creative, quick witted, talented crafts man, understanding, supportive, sweet, goal orientated, high achiever, attractive personality, never boring, smart in business, multitasked, great problem solver (sees the situation from all views), loves to travel and excellent with our children.
Now for the downside to my Gemini man, he is flighty, moody, restless, fickle, egotistical (alpha male) and impractical at times, becomes board easily, always on the go; always has to do something or go somewhere. He starts a project but rarely finishes a project and usually likes to start another one and nothing ever gets done, so I am always keeping him on task (which he hates…I always give him logical reasons to finish and tell him that I support him in anything he does so long as he isn't impractical about it). When I want something done, I have to chase him around the house for days! Taurus like order, organization, neatness, cleanliness, consistency and Gemini's tend to be disorganized however complexly organized in their minds – which I could never get. I have learned not to care so much, as you probably noticed, I am the nagging one in the relationship because I need order, organization and consistency (which is confused for “control” – Taurus are focused on their environment – the mutable earth sign) in all aspects of my life to function – this allows me to work under unbearable amounts of stress/pressure in my home and career life. I can say all of this about myself and my relationships because I have learned from my flaws, mistakes and am changing my approach in everything that I do and everyone I meet (continually growing)... compassion is important to make relationships work; you have to give and take in all area's, communication in its entirety is the key to any successful relationship, one person can't always bend; both need to understand each other.
He doesn't realize it but he is a flirt... he stares and such but I always tell him when I am uncomfortable he respects me so he stops (since I have the jealous streak and Taurus at their worst are stubborn and are sometimes known to be malicious, clever, calculating, hurtful, deceiving, ammunition storing and dangerously tempered) so I also have the ability to be just as horrible - mix the two hot tempers and the roof is on fire, BUT we usually don't fight there are limitations and boundaries we set out that we respect. The biggest lesson is just walk away and come back to talk when things are cool. I am still exercising this idea, the problem is Taurus are always up for a challenge and extremely direct/to-the-point and Gemini's are not since they need to consult with their twins (the ying and the yang) this angers the Taurus even more when heated…since we want find more information and find a solution and develop understanding. Gemini have problems facing conflict head on and need to think – they can't hold their tempers nor control their rage so it is better when they walk away…Gemini tempers are more extreme then the Taurus – they can become physical if their opinion, ideas and/or self expression is denied.
Gemini has issues talking about deep thoughts – they say one thing but think something else. They make excellent liars/tricksters so read them closely we never know which twin we are talking to. Also capable of infidelity (need excitement/spontaneous/dangerous emotions to feel alive because they get board so easily) and sex with them can be hot - like an animal then the next cold and distant but still giving intimacy in other ways (when it's good it's hot; when it's bad it's cold). This is very frustrating as a Taurus (Venus), I indulge in old-school romance, anything that excites the 5 senses, very open to sexual desires, love to make love, feel and give love and fantasy and he is reluctant to share his (So I being so emotional and him the physical can be a challenge). When we where younger we both would end up having our own parties with different people; I am occupied with male(s) (since I don't get along with many females (but mind you when I find my soul sister - its for life and she is also a dominant female - I get irritated by submissive and unintellectual people I find them flaky)) then I usually don't become bothered by his conversations with women. Guaranteed at the end of the night there is always a fight (which he initiates) and it was all due to a lack of communication in our relationship. He hated me talking to the other guy(s) but never stopped to tell me... the way I saw it was hey, you're all caught up talking to her so what's the problem? I can't talk to someone? “Visa versa” it goes both ways. He never communicates his emotions, how he “really” feels, solutions to our problems... he thinks that's all he does, he thinks and thinks and holds it till one day boof! Or I get him drunk and relaxed…opps! Seriously :) we get a lot out on the table and both are relaxed to be attentive to each others feelings. If it doesn't come out; it all spills out and since I am a very good fighter I dig out all my ammunition and unload too... it isn't about winning it is about talking it out and resolving problems... not to cause the battle of WW2 in the house! – I needed to change MY approach. A tough lesson I needed to learn but am continually enlightening myself and asking him "what can I do to help?" and "what can I do to be a better person for you?". Both signs can be extremely selfish and Gemini is always pleasure seeking which pleasing the materialistic Taurus can be a challenge... good thing "most" Taurus's (not the lazy ones though - "immature sign". The "mature sign" are independent and know that they have to work for what they want).
But all in all, we both love and like the same things; we are opposites but that is what makes us work. What he isn't or what I am not (lacking), we supplement each other and help each other either with humor or humility. The thing is, we are not to the “T” with our signs, it all depends on all elements…if you want to know more you can chart yourself by your name, birth date and time of birth…you will see that you will carry traits from different zodiacs. I do believe that they give us a base of character but remember that not everyone is justified by their sign as it entirely is based on when they where born and what other environmental influences there are. I am a great believer in the Zodiac, Astrology, Numerology and Aura's…they are also very consistent in relation to each other. It all boils down to you and who you want in your life, if it isn't working – move on and find someone who is complimentary to you.
I really don't pay attention to someone signs but I do pay attention to the person character and actions rather than words. All I can say is if you don't like the way he is treating you than talk to him about. About you done talked to him and about it and nothing has change than chances are he won't never change. Than you've decide whether your going stay and if you stay you can't complain because you have the option to leave.
I have been in and out of a relationship with a Gemini man and while they are fun, funny, and never a bore when there second personality hits the fan it HITS. They can be hurtful, untrustworthy, and plain volatile. It was an up and down roller coaster with me always walking on egg shells to avoid the "2nd Persona." I would try so hard to avoid the fights that I slowly began to lose myself and forget who I really was. My whole heart belonged to him and I fell for him hard but he constantly broke my heart.
My ex and I have been off and on for 4 years now. We went out recently and I asked him was he sleeping with someone else and he say yes. I was shocked really that he was truthful.
The next day I asked him to stop seeing her and focus on us. He said he can't answer that right now. I told him I respect his honesty.
I don't know what to do from here. I don't want to be with him while he is with someone else. How would you handle it from this point?
IF IT WAS ME, I'd lose him. If he's with someone else then his focus OBVIOUSLY is not on YOUR relationship. Break ALL contact, and begin the healing process.
I would calmly walk away and say I deserved this crap. I would feel guilty for never treating him right in the first place.
NOT.
Kidding
I would walk away ,say good riddance and proceed to have a nice life.
If the two of you have been on and off for the last 4 years that means you ain't really going anywhere. It like walking in a circle in one spot over and over. Even if you do that sooner than later your going stop because your going get dizzy.
How many more years your going waste on this not going anywhere, hot and cold, someone who wants to sleep with someone else and not stop so called relationship?
Right now you have 2 options-- stay and accept things or leave and move on to better things. You have to want more for yourself and staying in a dead in relationship shouldn't be an options for you.
As Tal wrote " Why make someone a priority in your life when your just an option in theirs". Hope I wrote it right but think about it and let it sink in.
You guys are all right. I thought about what I would say below
Hey baby..YOUR time is up over here for me. You go ahead and keep sling di@k. Im no longer a OPTION for you. Peace!
Did I say the right thing here? I know sometimes emotions get in the way of clear thinking so I am just checking to make sure I am sending the right message.
I have not been able to sleep cause this is on my mind. I feel attached to him but I don't want to keep going through this. Please help
I would be a little more polite. "I no longer will remain on the back burner for you, I'm moving on from you. To someone that deserves me. Please do not contact me."
To be honest I don't think he would even care about what you had to say nor would it bother him that you don't want to be him. Especially since he is seeing someone else.
Just make sure that you stick with your decision.
I would get so bleeped if I wanted to put down what I want to say.
It would start with hay mo'fo are you insane?
I am 54 and I don't play anything at all.
I think you young girls put up with way too much.
Respect yourself!
I would be a little more polite. "I no longer will remain on the back burner for you, I'm moving on from you. To someone that deserves me. Please do not contact me."
You think my comment was rude? Im not trying to be.
Yes, no need to insult her, just tell her its over.Quote:
Originally Posted by 9Lives
I agree with you Artlady because I see a lot of my friends put up with nonsense that are usually very smart but when it comes to guys they are dump a** hell. I be wanted to just grap them and shake some sense into them.
Also, I realize that I try to talk sense into them but they have to learn the hard way. I get my tough skin from my mother because she take no sh*t from nobody including my dad that she been married to for over 30 years and if she see me in a mess up situation she's isn't afraid to slap me into reality. Love my mother!
Thanks Liz. I just want to make sure I make myself clear. That is important to me. How would you put it? You seem to have a clear mindQuote:
Originally Posted by liz28
Respect his honesty, and lose the bum!Quote:
I told him I respect his honesty.
I don't know what to do from here.
"Get out of my life, and leave me the freak alone".
Then disappear from his life.
Don't worry about being kind, just tell him point blank that you're done for good.
Four years on and off, this relationship was never a relationship to begin with. It's time to shovel the crap outside where it belongs and find something better.
Good luck.
The off/on for 4 years should be a real sign, Time to move on to others and stop going back
Wow you guys are completely done with him. Welll I did break it off but I miss him already. Oh well
Your supposed to miss him, if you didn't you would never have been with him in the first place!
You've done the right thing, and as the others have said, the 4 yr off again on again relationship is a big sign.
Time to move on and find someone that deserves you.
As an aside, if you are feeling lonely, I try to think of it as a new adventure with so many possibilities rather than being alone, now your free for the right person to come along and sweep you off your feet! YAH! :D
I never thouhgt of it that way even though it makes complete sense. It is part of the process to move on to someone else. Here we go! :(Quote:
Originally Posted by neverme
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