She DOESN'T want me. It's obvious, I'm not teasing her. She's teasing me. Plus, we're not together. We are NOT intimate. There's absolutely nothing sexual going on aside from her teasing me. And to take control of the situation, I should just cut myself off from her completely, Forever. I'm not the best person, but I don't deserve to be treated like this. I'm not going to be her slave, or "safe" friend anymore.

I forgot to mention. When we first became "friends", she HATED hockey. It's my favourite sport, and I would always talk about it. Suddenly about 5 months ago, she became a "HUGE HOCKEY FAN". She just so happened to love my favourite teams, the Blackhawks, Maple Leafs, and the Rangers. She started acting like she was their number one fan, posting about how their games were going and such like "It's hard to watch the Hawks in overtime.". This REALLY ticks me off. You don't become a hockey fan overnight, it's fake. Plus, she always said she hates when people "Copy" her. Such as liking the same music, as her, etc.. So go figure.

Good for you, finding fault. You aren't even being nasty or gossipy. It's our job (and any close friends) to keep egging you on to find all the reasons to break the infatuation. The main reason is that she cares more about herself (all the fun and ego stroking of having you be in love with her) than she cares about you.

@joypulv Thank you, and I realize it's not all my fault. But like someone said earier, her and I AREN'T together. There's absolutely no intimate contact between us. Aside from her always teasing me, and letting me message her feet. She always sticks her tongue out at me in a sensual way. Once on Valentines day, she kept asking me for my "totsie pop".

One thing I don't understand: Why does she do all of these sensual things to me? She doesn't want me, she's made that obvious.

Is anyone still following this?

She does nothing you haven't allowed her to do.Just disappear, ignore, block or what ever you have to do to go completely NO CONTACT, and screw what she says to her parents. That's not your business or concern. They probably know better. If not, that's THEIR problem, over which you have no control, and given her ways why waste time worrying about BS!!

If she tries to push your buttons, don't be available. Now remove yourself from the situation and no more excuses NOT TO!! Do what you have to do to put this behind you. If you are cool, calm, and collected, and in control of YOURSELF, she can talk crap, but do nothing to you.

No MORE Contact with her, my friend.

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I didn't say anything about whose fault it is, I said good for you for FINDING FAULT with her.

You don't stop, do you? The more we respond, the more stories you tell about how she entices you - this time it's a tootsie pop.

And you've been given countless reasons she teases you, yet here you are asking why again.

I'm starting to wonder if you enjoy this as much as she does, or if you are just totally clueless and don't even want to listen.

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@LOLlover: I've done that and it had no use, and believe me: I was crying. She didn´t care really, she said you can't force love and you have to let it happen. She said "We´re just bestfriends". Which is complete bull, as I think she's just using me.

@talaniman: What if she lies to her parents and makes up some story? I'd rather tell them the truth and be honest than live a lie and carry the guilt.
Also, she's at a tech school. She has about one year left.

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Then you have to face the music and accept that she doesn't want you.don't worry, there are plenty more fish in the sea

Just leave her and see if who acts like a girlfriend after

You say you discussed your foot fetish with her - https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/adult-...es-689844.html - and acted on your fetish.

Did that change things between you?

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You say you discussed your foot fetish with her - https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/adult-...es-689844.html - and acted on your fetish.

Did that change things between you?

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It sort changed things. She lets me give her foot rubs.

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It sort changed things. She lets me give her foot rubs.

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- And you STILL don't think she's leading you on, right?

Of course, I guess there's something in this relationship for both of you. She gets to play with your emotions you get to be excited by her feet. Then you go your separate ways.

Not a bad deal - as I said in your other thread, I'm not into a guy masturbating over my feet, but that's obviously just me.

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- And you STILL don't think she's leading you on, right?

Of course, I guess there's something in this relationship for both of you. She gets to play with your emotions you get to be excited by her feet. Then you go your separate ways.

Not a bad deal - as I said in your other thread, I'm not into a guy masturbating over my feet, but that's obviously just me.

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Perhaps.
But there's more to it than meets the eye...
I don't exactly masturbate over her feet though... Lol! But I do get really turned on. Either way.. if she comes around that's great and I'll be happy. If she doesn't, so be it. That's her loose some would say! :)

I think you should really try other women get at least 2 great women and watch how your best friend just fades away guaranteed

It's been a while, so I just thought I'd update you all on the situation. We went to the mall on 25th, and it was all well until she got mad because I was talking about how she treats me to another friend. She said "You're lucky I'm still your friend! If you want out me as a friend or something better in the future, don't do that again". I apologized and she dropped it. Two weeks went by and we didn't hang out (she was actually working for 7 days in a row). We hung out today and went to the mall. It was supposed to be the two of us, and than suddenly her other best friend came out of nowhere and decided to go. He's a nice guy and all, but I hated the way he's more important to him and all. She kept saying how cute he looked, and how funny he is, and blahblalah... etc.. Now I realize I'm nothing special, I'm a bit of a jerk but that's rude of her. Than she got all mad at me for being quiet, and or being an "outcast". What does she want me to do? She's just talking to him, and complementing him.. what am I supposed to do? I mentioned to her how she "never has time to hang out" but she has enough time to hangout with him. She replied "To bad, he's a lot more fun... he's always in a good mood." Hmm, I wonder why I'm in a bad mood a lot of the time.

I guess she was irritated because you are not being you, like I said you should always be yourself if people don't like you for who you are that is there problem unless you are a super jerk

She's treating you like a bit@h and you're letting her do it.

Gain some self respect and leave her alone. She is no friend, don't think of her as one. Save yourself and forget about her.

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i guess she was irritated because you are not being you, like i said you should always be yourself if people dont like you for who you are that is there problem unless you are a super jerk

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My real self is moody, but usually I'm happy. But I have times when I quiet. I'm not a jerk.

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She's treating you like a bit@h and you're letting her do it.

Gain some self respect and leave her alone. She is no friend, don't think of her as one. Save yourself and forget about her.

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I wasn't going to say self respect. I was going to say "grow a pair" of something or other.

This woman borders on abusive. I see no benefit to OP if the relationship continues. I'd wave good-bye (from a distance).

Johannsson - you write well, express yourself, sound like an honestly good guy. I certainly don't agree with some of the things you've posted, you've rolled with the punches. I honestly find you to be very likeable. I'll bet you're even better in person. This woman is tearing you down. Time to get out of this relationship and find someone who will appreciate you.

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I wasn't going to say self respect. I was going to say "grow a pair" of something or other.

This woman borders on abusive. I see no benefit to OP if the relationship continues. I'd wave good-bye (from a distance).

Johannsson - you write well, express yourself, sound like an honestly good guy. I certainly don't agree with some of the things you've posted, you've rolled with the punches. I honestly find you to be very likeable. I'll bet you're even better in person. This woman is tearing you down. Time to get out of this relationship and find someone who will appreciate you.

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Well... it finally happened. We're not friend anymore. She claims she's tired of my negativity, and how I'm such a downer and ruin her days. It's not my fault she lies to me and than invites other guys to come with us. She says I'm rude for not talking much, or not going into stores with her. She's deleted me. I know it will hurt for a while, but it's good. Finally I realize I've been pathetic and wasted over a year on a woman who has no similar feelings towards me as I do towards her. She deleted me off Facebook before I could delete her. She'll probably not even give a ****, as I guess I'm just some "socially awkward, selfish jerk". So, who cares now

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Well... it finally happened. We're not friend anymore. She claims she's tired of my negativity, and how I'm such a downer and ruin her days. It's not my fault she lies to me and than invites other guys to come with us. She says I'm rude for not talking much, or not going into stores with her. She's deleted me. I know it will hurt for a while, but it's good. Finally I realize I've been pathetic and wasted over a year on a woman who has no similar feelings towards me as I do towards her. She deleted me off of facebook before I could delete her. She'll probably not even give a ****, as I guess I'm just some "socially awkward, selfish jerk". So, who cares now

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Maybe you hurt right now but in the long run, you will be much better off... you will.

Stay strong and good luck to you.

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Maybe you hurt right now but in the long run, you will be much better off...you will.

Stay strong and good luck to you.

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Thanks mate, and I hope so!