I don't agree. You both tried it didn't work, and of course he worries over the kids. That's a hard attachment to make and he may feel bad because they may have been hurt. That's normal, and he isn't a bad guy for it.

NOW, stop the contact, and speculation and blame game. While anger is a part of healing/mourning, don't hold on to tightly to it.

THE HEALING PROCESS

7 STAGES OF GRIEF

I agree w/Tal.

You can try to analyze it until your head explodes.
This point is to stop living in the past. What's done is done & you were half of it. No one twisted your arm.

Read those links & the NC stickies.

Im not saying you shouldn't do some internal soul searching, Im just saying not to spend your time on him.
Hes gone.

Thanks so much vanheart, it's me I need to control these horrible negative thoughts and stop thinking I'm useless, unworthy that's what I need help with. What did u mean by nc stickies? X

The highlighted links at the top of the page in the main Relationships section.

The stickies are here, and NC is NO CONTACT!!