By taopir
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Oh, and yes, such a person exists. Many, actually. What makes it happen is that two people create and sustain a relationship in which each of them grows better in life-fulfilling ways because of the other's presence and influence. They might really have a good time together, but their reasons for living under one roof instead of just dating and partying with each other have to do with their ability and willingness to know another person at extraordinary depth and to be known at a similar depth
Ability-skills acquired over time, and through practice
Willingness- The quality or state of being willing; free choice or consent of the will; freedom from reluctance; readiness of the mind to do or forbear.
I think more than anything ability, which requires work and willingness, also work, but of the mental, spiritual kind and courage, to take a risk to secure change, and overcome fear, are the real key things to remember.Quote:
Originally Posted by taoplr
Insecurity and jealousy, are rooted in fear, in your case, your threatened by anything that means losing that which you hold close and dear, and that fear has made you act in some non-productive ways. Nothing wrong with being afraid, but you really need to trust in your partner, and her ability to deal with situations in a reasonable way.
Now exactly what stops you from having confidence in her ability to do that? Self esteem you think? Or your INABILITY to have the right coping skills, to deal with your own feelings.
Romes technique is a good one, that makes you think before you act, and though you can't see the benefits down the road, Have the courage, to do it any way, and replace impulsive emotional actions, with more thought out, practical ones.
I think listening to taopir, and Romefalls will result in a lot of learning. If your WILLING to listen. I already know your willing to change, and that does take courage.
