I knoe I love him but I am getting help and I do love him and everyone in my famlly knows I do he is in jail what more can I do

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Originally Posted by kandy

he can not come around me again i made that choice he brook 3 of my ribs this time so i put him in jail but it is so hard to deal with im just 17 and i love him even thou he beats me i know he does not love me he has not showed me in any way that he loves me we had good times but the bad over wilms the good so i told him bye and put him in jail i love him but i had to do it

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You need to figure out why you love him.

What does he do to deserve this affection.

If you were my daughter and he broke 3 of your ribs, I'd be the one in jail for what I did to him.

Dear, I was married to a wife-beater, and once they get a taste of it, they will not stop there. He's already threatened you - what makes you think you love him?? You love being with someone - anyone - are you that desperate to be abused? You need professional help, or your friends and family will wind up visiting you in the cemetery.

Sorry to be so blunt, but you should go to the police and report this, maybe that will give him incentive to seek therapy if he really care - but he also needs help, so force him to get it and it might work out.

But until then, nothing is going to change except for the worse - so do something real quick. PLEASE - save your self-respect and life!

http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/15/15_9_16.gif Seven skull fractures and broken ribs and jaw still kept me with him, until he accidentally hit my child - don't wait that long.

Thank you very much but he is in jail I do love him but I will never go back to him

You know this is wrong. This guy is worthless,he hits you and demeans you,think about that for a second,how much must he value you when he says "He told me if i did not come back to him then no one would have me". The only reason he said that is because HE KNOWS that if you don't come back to him you will most definitely find some one who will treat you like you truly deserve to be treated. Leave this guy Kandy, that's my view on it.

by the way,I completely agree with Fr Chuck,except he forgot one option:

6. He not only beats you (who he apparently cares so much about) but his children as well as you,resulting in children who either beat their kids or date abusers... that is assuming that he doesn't hurt one of them bad enough that they end up hospitalized for Lord knows how long.

(Look up someone named Dr.Drew who runs a radio show called Loveline,call it up 1800-love-191, and ask him,he's a specialist in Psychiatry and gives free advice from 10pm-12am (or 11pm-1am,depends on your timezone)