Originally Posted by gg23
ma man! i know its hard..i just had something kind of similar happening to me as well. mine was not 4 years, it was only 2 years. i grew so accustomed to having her in my life that i did not know what to do. my girl, started being distant, and stop replying to my text or answering the phone when i called. her excuse was that she was too busy and just did not have time. then, she ended up telling me that she did not have the time and effort to put in a relationship as of right now, that it was not the right time and that maybe at some other time. it's hard man, but not impossible. its was on the 25 of April. man was i confused!!!i had so many exams and school project to complete. i felt like all my energy was sucked out of me, i didn't want to do anything, but i decided that i would just let her be. i know its hard when i get these thought that she would move on quickly and i really don't like the idea of her being with another man. As much as i didn't want to accept what happened, there was really nothing i could do. lucky my i have people to talk to about it. my older brother had gone through with something similar and i witnessed the whole thing. he lived through it, so i figure i would to. I have been doing staff just to keep myself from thinking about her even though its really hard, because everywhere i go in town i have a memory with us. As i am battling to get myself back, i am also somehow realizing that maybe this would be for the better. this was my first really longterm relationship and i was i gave it a lot!!!!it was getting to the point where i was considering moving it to the next level, but i guess life has a funny way of playing things out. why? i don't know but i am sure that down the road the answer will come. trust me man it always come!!!i have gone through some difficult situations and when i look back i really believe that they somehow prepared me for other things that i faced later in my life! so maybe this is something that is bound to happen so that you either can be prepare for what ahead or to teach you a lesson of some kind. As they say experience is what you get when you don't get what you want. Anyway, just try to stay busy and it does get better. i keep a journal( 4 yrs) so that always help me when i have to figure things out, and i also read a lot that always seem to help me when i go through relationship issues...but i have also been hitting the heavy back just to release my anger...hey it works pretty well, so staying acting is good!!!anyway good luck and keep your head up you will get through it and you come out a better person. trust me you are young and you still have your whole life ahead of you!!!