Hey,

My mum claims to have a phsycic connection to my boyfriend of 2 years. She says he will be a musician etc..

She has been right so far with some of her predictions but she acts so different around him.. always putting on make up and acting 1/2 her age.. she's always asking about him and being nosey asking if I have spoken to him

Is it an excuse, or is it real? I would feel bad if I was accusing her of something untoward.

The situation is far more extensive that this but could I have some advice?

My mom used to do that too. She put on makeup, acted half her age and dominated the conversation, but only if my boyfriend was blond. I began dating dark-haired men and she left us alone.

She may be right about him becoming a musician, she may be quite psychic. Her other behaviors are probably as inappropriate as my mom's were. Have you talked to her about what you see?

May be she sees your boyfriend in a VERY special way. She feels a connection because she likes him. Aren't we like that when we fall in love. We think we know that person well enough and we pretend he/she's ours and blah blah blah. I used to be like that with my older cousin when I was twelve. I like boys she liked and courted her. Not exactly but almost like a crush. I don't know why.

Please don't fight with your mother esp because of what I said. However, you can talk to her about it. She's probably not aware of her behavior. If it bothers you, tell her. If she knows she's acting weird, she would have stopped already.

May I ask how old you are, and how much age difference there is between you and your mother? To me this really sounds like your mother has a bit of a "cougar" thing going on here. If this were merely a phychic connection, what is the reason for the makeup, and acting half her age?

I would ask her in a non-confrontational way, why she is so interested in what your boyfriend is doing. Tell her that this is making you a little uncomfortable, and ask her only to tell you her thoughts on him being a musician. How she responds may give you a clue to her intentions. If she ignores your questions, or gets angry with you, I think you may have a problem here.

You may also want to ask your boyfriend if he has noticed her odd behaviour towards him, and if it makes him uncomfortable, or if he likes this attention from your mother. Does your boyfriend seem to flirt with her, or does he treat her as strickly a motherly figure.

Something sounds very "off" here to me.

I think it is more intuition and knowing his talent is good enough to get him somewhere mixed with some hopeful thinking.

Or it may be more of having the "hots" for the new boyfriend. Maybe mom needs to get out for a life of her own

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Originally Posted by Fr_Chuck

Or it may be more of having the "hots" for the new boyfriend. Maybe mom needs to get out for a life of her own

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I think mom does have the 'hots' but is in denial to even herself.
I think her bringing it up to her boyfriend or her mom would cause a lot of problems though.

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/teens/...es-231536.html

He treats my mum like a motherly figure. He really does. He definitely looks to her for advice with music and stuff... but me and my sister have notices her whole voice changes, her attitude to us changes (she's so much more laid back and nice to us and doesn't let rip till he goes), she always wants him to sleep over and then they chat till like one in the morning. She is also interested in his life, if I have talked to him that day or if he is OK. She says it is because its like she was his friend in another life, and that she loves him like a son but then, what's with the make-up and the constant hanging around me and him when he is at our house. When he comes over she turns the music on full blast, so he ends up spending the night talking to her about music. It makes her happy when they are getting along, more than anything else in her life- which no longer interests her as much.

Yeah I think he doesn't see it as your mom interested in him and as you say I do not think he is 'interested' in her

Ya maybe he isn't interested in her, but SHE is definitely not acting appropriate... I'm sorry, but assuming you are a teen, I don't think it's very responsible of her to WANT him to spend the night... At the very least, even if she really likes him as a son, she should respect you, her REAL daughter, enough to let you have the relationship with your boyfriend, not her. Seems to me she is being kind of selfish in the best scenario, or she is a sicko in the worst scenario. As for what you can do about it, I guess talk to her about it and try to figure out her real motives. Then update us if you need more advice and I'm sure we'll be happy to help further. Good luck.

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Ya maybe he isn't interested in her, but SHE is definitely not acting appropriate...I'm sorry, but assuming you are a teen, I don't think it's very responsible of her to WANT him to spend the night...At the very least, even if she really likes him as a son, she should respect you, her REAL daughter, enough to let you have the relationship with your boyfriend, not her. Seems to me she is being kinda selfish in the best scenario, or she is a sicko in the worst scenario. As for what you can do about it, I guess talk to her about it and try to figure out her real motives. Then update us if you need more advice and I'm sure we'll be happy to help further. Good luck.

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I wouldn't go as far as calling her a sicko, but I do however agree that the behaviour is somewhat inapropriate! It sounds a little too "Mrs Robinson" to me! Anyone ever hear the Garth Brooks song called "That Summer?" ;)

YouTube - that summer by garth brooks