My daughter wants her family back.
Hi, I'm so glad that I found this place, so many bright people, Hi All...
Well, I have a daughter she will be 5 soon. I have a good relationship with her father that we are divorced when my daughter was 1 year old. We just communicate about her. Im not sure if it is normal or not for a girl of her age to ask about having her Mom and Dad tougether again.
She stays with her dad every other weekend and on day a week. She is not going to school yet and her activities are ballet and art classes and I am always with her.
The other day she said to me, Mom do you want to be in love with my dad? do you want to go to dance with my dad? if you live in my dad house and you want to kiss I go to watch TV because is yaquy...
And quite often she comes with comments like that. I don't know from where she take this or if it is just product of her imagination. I am 29 years old and she is my first child and I am kind of confused.
This is not the first that this happened, one year ago she was saying similar things and her father asked me from where she was saying that dady loves momy and momy loves daddy, and by coinsidence or I don't know, her father asked me to get back tougether at that time.
We didn't get back together we just had a fight after that propossition for personal reassons, but my daughter never find out. Yes she had a bad time because she thought that we were going to get back tougether at that time because her father ones call me with her at the phone and told me that he loves me in front of her. Ive got really mad because we didn't talk about anything in private and say those things in front of her were going to be painfull if the reality was different.
The thing is that after that one year, today and she is starting to ask things again. And I feel like I don't know what to tell her , because she is very smart and I think it is not enough if I just tell her that we love her anyway, that we just have two houses and momy and daddy just decide to live separated.
I am confused and sad because she is my world and I want to find the right way of telling her what is going on so she doesn't get hurt much. Thanks so much I truly appreciate your answers. Sry my english it is not my first language.