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  • May 25, 2007, 01:37 PM
    fantastia
    Insecurities in our marriage
    This Woman That I Previously Talked About Is My Husbands Best Friend And I Have Nothing Against Him Having A Female For A Best Friend. Its Very Common. But I Accused Her Of Falling In Love With Him And That Was My Mistake. He Can't Get By That I Would Do That And Our Relationship Has Started To Fail So Much That He Wants To Separate For A Short Time, Time Away From Each Other He Calls It, Until I Get My Head Together, Also Give Him Sometime To Think Everything Through. Rest Assured Our Love For Each Other Is Still There. I Over Reacted One Night Because I Saw Her Call Him Baby And That Starting It. He Tells Me She Calls Everyone Baby, From Her Dearest Friends, Family And Her Children. Why Or Why Did I Do This. I Just Want Our Happy Marriage Back. We Have Talked About This Several Times, To The Point, Were Both Very Unhappy, But Still Love Each Other. He Told Me Last Night He Thought It Was Best For A Short Term Separation And I Cried So Hard, I Have Been Sick To Stomach Just From The Thought Of It. We Both Agreed To Keep This Time Away From Each Other A Secret, But I Don't Know If I Can Put On False Pretenses And Be Happy. See This Whole Scenario, Happened Once Before With Another Woman We Were Talking To Online And I Knew About A Month After We Started Talking To Her That She Was Falling In Love With Him, He Couldn't See It, But I Could And In The Long Run She Admitting And He Has Not And Will Not Talked To Her Ever Again. She Ruined Their Freindship. But Because Of This Episode, He Thinks Im Going To React This Way Ever Time He Finds A New Friend To Talk To Online. And In Answering Would It Bother Him If I Did The Same As Him, He Said No, It Would Not Bother Him At All. He Is Such A Wonderful Man With A Big Heart, Good Listener And Would Give You The Shirt Of His Back. He Loves To Joke And Has Great Charisma. I Love Him So Much I Can't Bare To Lose Him Even For A Short Time. But I Reached Out For Help To Late. What Can I Do To Save Our Marriage And Keep Him Home With Me?
  • May 25, 2007, 01:42 PM
    tickle
    I guess you put your foot in it so to speak and now regret saying anything, but you know, you can't take it back, what's done is done. I agree that he should have some time apart, and if as you say, you still love each other, then love will win out and everything will be fine. Just play it cool and don't judge him,or you will end up in the dog house again.

    Good luck girl !
  • May 25, 2007, 10:27 PM
    talaniman
    You must have made one helluva scene to have him ask for some time away. Is he still friends with her and did you apologise? You say you talked it over several times but obviously that's not enough for him. I can see no other course but to give him what he wants and use the time to work on you, be it jealousy, insecurity, or impulsiveness. Get a handle on it.
  • May 25, 2007, 10:41 PM
    xiaocake
    You haven't done anything wrong. Your husband is not clear now because he couldn't tell who loved him and would like to devote a loyal heart into his life forever. I am sad and sorry for that. Everyone in this world could be loved by others even though he or she has been married. But it is immoral for the other person to express love to a person who already has somebody accompanying him or her. I despise that woman. If he doesn't mind if you did the same thing to him, please tell him sth wrong with his life value. He would be regretful several years ahead. I don't think they would be happy because they don't deserve a true promise in the sea of love.

    I think his separation meant he want time to think. Give his time. I believe good and decent people in this world everywhere would get their happiness finally.

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