Hey I'm a 16 year-old guy and lately my best friend and I have been kind of drifting apart. We met through a common friend last April, so it's been a year that we've known each other. The thing is, she lives in Florida and I live in New York, and we've never met each other in real life, however we have talked on the phone a lot, and used to talk online every single day. We were close instantly, and were very open with each other and could talk about anything. Basically I love her. As a friend that is. And during most of the time I've known her, she's been single, except for a week back in October, which didn't work out too well lol. But near the end of January she started dating a guy and ever since then we've been talking less and less. It's gotten to the point now where we talk AT MOST once a week texting each other, and we haven't talked on the phone since I broke up with my girlfriend just after new years, and we haven't talked online in at least a month. It's like her boyfriend has completely taken over her life (as well as her job, but that's a minor issue as far as this goes), as her friends that I've become friends with all say that she never really hangs out with them anymore. She is my favorite person in the entire world and I have cried over the fact that I feel like she's going to be gone out of my life forever, possibly soon. Can anyone please give me any advice at all? Thanks a lot.

Well if she is busy, or with a guy who doesn't let her online much, not much you can do but wait for some answers. Wish I could be more helpful, sorry.

If she's really into this guy, then he will become her best friend. And as so, he is probably filling the void that not talking to you would normally create.

Friends sometimes grow apart, but that's life and there's little you can do to change it. However, once you are in a serious relationship, you too will learn how easy it is for your love interest to be your best friend.

Yea I get whatcha mean. Like I'm definitely happy for her and everything that she found someone who cares about her a lot, I just wish that she would realize that I care about her just as much as he does. :(

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I have a girlfriend that I only hear from when she is between boyfriends. We were real close as coworkers years ago but only email now. It is difficult to keep a relationship long distance.

It would be more fulfilling if you met friends in real life.
Online friends are a dime a dozen - they come and go.
Real life friends can REALLY be there for you and you can REALLY be there for them.
I have online friends, so I'm not bashing it.
I really enjoy my online friends.
Mingle, have conversation, be supportive, enjoy yourself with online friends -
Just try not to consume your life around a stranger.

I put it here since there is a lot more feedback in this section.

She's not a stranger though. We tell each other EVERYTHING and give each other advice about anything that might come up.

Well that is cool I'm 14 and live in Florida how cool. But well what I would say is that either she really loves this guy. And she has practically devoted her life to him. I don't think what she is doing to you is really fair. Cause with my last boyfriend cause I'm single now kind of I used to talk to my best friend I met on myspace he lives in Tx and he comes to FL every now and again and I'm going to meet him in a few months. But that out of the subject. But what I think is that she wants to spend as much time with him as possible.

Yeah we'd been talking about her coming up to rochester on a road trip with another of her friends that I'm good friends with sometime in the summer, and I was planning on going down to fort myers next spring break or something like that.

But on a different note, how can you devote your whole life to a guy when your only in 10th GRADE.

Have you tried talking to her about this?

Yea a couple times I've told her how much I missed her and that I just wanted to talk to her more and she would start talking to me as much as she used to, but only for a couple days and then she would fade away again. She used to text me every morning right before I woke up and now she only does it twice a week max. I haven't said it in awhile, but I'm sending her a card I made for her telling her how much I love her that I made after I saw a presentation of rachel's challenge , if you've seen it you know how powerful it is. So I hope she likes it :)

Anyone else? :(

Yup, I agree with these posters on here. To put it plainly, she is probably weening herself from you. Knowing it may hurt your feelings, but you really need not to be jealous she is able to make her own choices. Just pretend you are in love with a computer that tells you everything you want to hear. If she was in the same area, this relationship might not have gone as far as it did. It is easy to have a no "in your face" relationship. Let her go and say good bye. You are going to annoy her more than anything by sending her cards and things. Don't make her feel guily. Just find someone in your own world to love. You sound so thoughtful and sweet, I don't think it will be too hard. And hey if it is hard, come back and post again with a new subject. Someone is bound to help you out.

This happens a lot especially in younger people. When you start dating and having boyfriends and girlfriends all you want to do is spend every spare moment with that person. In doing so, you end up alienating your friends. I'm not saying its right, just happens when your young. As you get older you realize how important your friend are and when you meet someone and start dating you find a way to work your friends into the mix and want them to meet this wonderful person that has come into your life. I am quite sure she hasn't forgotten about you. Your just not an option for her to "date" if there was an attraction there. You live too far away. Respect what she is going through, but stay in contact by sending a text or email here and there. Just saying hi, was thinking about you, hope all is well. Call or text when you have some time, etc.

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Yup, I agree with these posters on here. To put it plainly, she is probably weening herself from you. Knowing it may hurt your feelings, but you really need not to be jealous she is able to make her own choices. Just pretend you are in love with a computer that tells you everything you want to hear. If she was in the same area, this relationship might not have gone as far as it did. It is easy to have a no "in your face" relationship. Let her go and say good bye. You are going to annoy her more than anything by sending her cards and things. Don't make her feel guily. Just find someone in your own world to love. You sound so thoughtful and sweet, I don't think it will be too hard. And hey if it is hard, come back and post again with a new subject. Someone is bound to help you out.

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But why would she not want to be my friend anymore? We've only been mad at each other once really, and that was because she sent me a text saying "i love you so much!" and my ex read it, and she was dumb enough to not realize that me and her were just best friends.

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This happens a lot especially in younger people. When you start dating and having boyfriends and girlfriends all you want to do is spend every spare moment with that person. In doing so, you end up alienating your friends. I'm not saying its right, just happens when your young. As you get older you realize how important your friend are and when you meet someone and start dating you find a way to work your friends into the mix and want them to meet this wonderful person that has come into your life. I am quite sure she hasn't forgotten about you. Your just not an option for her to "date" if there was an attraction there. You live too far away. Respect what she is going through, but stay in contact by sending a text or email here and there. Just saying hi, was thinking about you, hope all is well. Call or text when you have some time, etc.

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I realized about 2 weeks into my first and only relationship how important my friends were, so I didn't hang out with my ex that much and she hated it, so I broke up with her because she would just about it all the time.

Very good advice though :)

That's good to hear that you didn't turn your back on your friends! Very important to keep the people who have been there for you in your life!