Hi. This is my first time on the site asking a question. I have a 19 year old daughter who is currrently 1st year at University. She stays in a flat about 45min from home to be closer to University. She comes home every weekend. As a mother is it unfair from me to expect her to be home at 12h00 at night when she goes out? The problem that I have with this is - am I setting this rule for just being able to do so as I am the parent and that is the way I was brought up - you do as your mother as father says? I have read many posts and some say that as a parent you have the right to do so and others say that adult children should be able to make their own choices. My husband is very leniant when it gets to house rules which leads to our children playing us. I am really confused and do not know what is the right thing to do.