So finished with partner of 6 1/2 years. He finished it saying he needed a break it could take a week a month or year to realise that it was me he wanted. He wouldn't let me contact him saying that I was pushing him away the more I texted him or rang him.

I went through a rough time and started going out with old friends. I started talking to a boy who I know and went out on a couple of dates and started to be happy. Until ex got back in touch saying he wanted to give us another go. I had just started to realise how better off I was but now he's saying he going change. We've never split up before either and can we give it anouther go? I said no!

Now I'm dating this guy who is lovely to me in everyway. Then I saw my ex out on a night out and my feelings are all jumbled up. I don't know what to do for the best. I can never settle my thoughts. I feel like I'm insane. I can never just not think my mind is in over drive.

Any help?

You may have a new guy but you still have not gotten over the old one yet. That may take time and a lot of work. Eventually you will. Until then, expect to be a bit shocked and even sad seeing him or hearing from him, or about him, for a while. But you will get through it, and over him.

Hell, 6 years is a long time with someone and it may take a few years to fully recover. Read the stickies here and know it's rough sometimes, but very possible to survive and thrive after being dumped.

He wasn't concerned when he told you he needed a break. He wasn't concerned that he expected you to wait indefinitely for him putting your life on hold. He wasn't concerned how you were dealing with all this when he told you no contact. He wasn't concerned. Now he expects you to drop everything you have put together for yourself to run back to him. You have no guarantee he won't pull this again. Right now your emotions are jumbled because you are dwelling on what you left behind not of your choice. You need to tell him in his own words... ''pushing me away the more you text me or ring me.

So YES BE So finished with him.

I was engaged to be married he promised me everything

But now is saying he knows he's treat me badly and wants to give us anouther go
When I saw him out it felt like we best friends again except for that look he gives me

I wanted to just givw him a big hug

I've had to rebuild my life again

I had no friends obviously because his friends are all mine and as I'm a bit of a tom boy were all boys

So they were going to obviously support him mire than me
Im 21 years old and had to find friends off 6 years ago who I used to be with when I was 15 years old

It's the hardest thing I've ever had to do

And I no this new guy wants a relationship in future wif me but I don't no whether I can do that right now

I am going through something similar. I haven't bothered with my friends in 2 years devoting myself to my boyfriend. Now the way he is treating me I am starting to rebuild my life. You have no guarantee that 'he has changed'. IF you do decide on going back with him make him talk out everything. Make him wait while you decide. DO NOT just jump back into a relationship.