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  • Aug 6, 2013, 01:01 PM
    herbiehusker26
    Back support
    I live in Illinois had a one night stand 19 years ago. There is a good chance I may have a daughter whom I have never got to see. I wanted to know if it determinds that I am the father do Ihave to pay back support
  • Aug 6, 2013, 01:03 PM
    N0help4u
    No IF you have a 18-19 year old they are past the age. Do you have a way of finding out or is this just a guess that you want to check into?
  • Aug 6, 2013, 01:09 PM
    herbiehusker26
    [QUOTE=N0help4u;3523605]No IF you have a 18-19 year old they are past the age. Do you have a way of finding out or is this just a guess that you want to check

    I am not sure how to go about or approaching the young lady or do I contact the mother first. Her best frien
    D told me that she is certain that she is my child
  • Aug 6, 2013, 01:13 PM
    N0help4u
    You need to contact the mother first, especially if she is under 18. She may tell you she is not your daughter if she doesn't want her to meet you.
  • Aug 6, 2013, 01:16 PM
    AK lawyer
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by N0help4u View Post
    You need to contact the mother first, especially if she is under 18. She may tell you she is not your daughter if she doesn't want her to meet you.

    If the one-night-stand was indeed 19 years ago, it's unlikely that the child would be under 18.
  • Aug 6, 2013, 01:17 PM
    herbiehusker26
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by N0help4u View Post
    You need to contact the mother first, especially if she is under 18. She may tell you she is not your daughter if she doesn't want her to meet you.

    And if she is 18? Or she does say she isn't mine? I would want to know if she is mine or not. I would have been there for her
  • Aug 6, 2013, 01:19 PM
    herbiehusker26
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by AK lawyer View Post
    If the one-night-stand was indeed 19 years ago, it's unlikely that the child would be under 18.

    Dates are either she is 17 now or 18 so 9 months prior would have been the one night stand
  • Aug 6, 2013, 01:21 PM
    N0help4u
    Do you remember the exact month and year? If her birthday is 9 months later then it could be a good chance. I'd find out her birthday and try to estimate first
  • Aug 6, 2013, 01:21 PM
    AK lawyer
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by herbiehusker26 View Post
    And if she is 18? Or she does say she isn't mine? I would want to know if she is mine or not. I would have been there for her

    Legally, I don't think there is anything you can do. There would be no child support or custodial issues; the only thing I can think of would be inheritance issues in case either you or the child were to die. The survivor (father or daughter) could probably demand a DNA test at that time, but until then, I don't see any right to go to court.

    So ask the mother nicely.
  • Aug 6, 2013, 01:24 PM
    herbiehusker26
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by AK lawyer View Post
    Legally, I don't think there is anything you can do. There would be no child support or custodial issues; the only thing I can think of would be inheritance issues in case either you or the child were to die. The survivor (father or daughter) could probably demand a DNA test at that time, but until then, I don't see any right to go to court.

    So ask the mother nicely.

    Thank you

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